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Haridham

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  1. Ghari Ji. Thank you very much. That was a little bit overtraumatic there wasnt it. hahahahaha. I am hardly humble, hardly knowledgable. I am just trying my best to be a good husband. Sticking to my vows and doing my japa is the only thing I can do. Thats all I know. I think its better to lead by example than say beautiful words and have nothing to back it up with. Anyways, it is a waiting game. I am working hard. I will have saved over 5,000 dollars by the time its april 2nd. ANyways, lets keep in touch.\ Hare Krsna
  2. Hare Krsna everyone. I have just a question. What is the purpose of a guru. I have always thought that guru is someone who takes you to krsna. BUt after I talked to a couple of people from the temple. Somewhat "knowledgable" guys who said krsna says in the bhagavat gita surrender unto a bonofide spiritual and render service unto him because he has seen the truth. So they said that doesnt mean the guru takes you to krsna because thats not what krsna says. So this has kinda disturbed me. I always thought that krsna was meaning in that verse that by surrendering to a guru is the only way to reach him. Can someone clarify this for me. Plus i dont know if I actually said what I wanted to say because its like 1am in vancouver. Anyways let me know. What is the purpose of a guru. I think I wont talk much anymore but rather listen from now on. Just keep chanting. I guess its good that this happened because its a good way to find out more about what you are doing. Hare Krsna
  3. Hare Krsna everyone. This is an update as per request from Ghari ji. Well as everyone knows about my situation. How I came here with so much anxiety about my wife coming to canada. Well there is news...... Great news actually. Although there was two small mistakes which are easlily correctable and yes I got the..... I got my file number and now its just a waiting game. She will be here soon. Thats the update. When she comes you will be seeing a lot less of me then now. Hahahahah. Hare Krsna To all thank you for your constant support. Hare Krsna
  4. When sometimes taking with Indians, they often say "you should do your duty" but never mention what actual duty is. I always tell them duty is serving krsna. So what is duty? I am sure some of you know what I mean by this question. Hare Krsna
  5. Hare Krsna fellow vaisnavas. Sri Dhar Maharaj was one of the first devotees to join in vancouver. At our temple yesterday, we had his mother, sister and brothers at the temple where some nice words were said by fellow devotees and godbrothers. I had the good fortune to associate this one last time with Sridhar Maharaj just before he left for Mayapur. True to his reputation even with his sickness he was the Jolly Swami. Hare Krsna
  6. Maybe when Christ said he will be returning he meant in the movies. I mean because of this movie people are most likely going back to church now. The movie recieved rave reviews, people were in tears and hey if Mel Gibson can do so much for christianity then I am sure someone can do something for Krsna Consciousness. I havent seen the movie, if someone has please let me know. I wonder what the rest of the devotees think and what krsna consciousness itself thinks about this movie. Hare Krsna. Jai Sri Jesus ji.
  7. Hare Krsna Gokulr prabhu. I was in the same boat as you are. I know exactly how you feel but you must rememeber something.....Prahalad Maharaj didnt listen to his father, Sukadev goswami jumped out his mothers womb and never came back but I understand your situation. Just depend on krsna, respecting your parents is great but that doesnt mean you cannot think for yourself. Your parents cant force you to do anything. Just because they give birth to you doesnt mean they can do whatever they want. YOU HAVE TO BECOME QUALIFIED TO BECOME A MOTHER, FATHER, GURU, HUSBAND, WIFE OR DEMIGOD. I listened to my parents and not my guru maharaj and I am in SUCH A BIG MESS RIGHT NOW. You must follow guru sastra sadhu, if what your parents are saying doesnt fit those three critierias then you can reject what they are saying. And actually its Parents will be pleased if Krsna is pleased.Krsna is the original father and vedas are your mother, what about them. You have had Material parents for a billion lifetimes plus but they havent done their duty or else you woudnt be returning life after life. gurur na syat sva-jano na syat PITA na syaj JNANI na syat daivam na tat syan na patis ca sa syan na mocayed yah samupeta-mrtyum "One who cannot deliver his dependents from the path of repeated birth and death should never become a spiritual master, a father, a husband, a mother or a worshipable demigod. S.B 5.5.18 Now I am not saying you must disrespect your parents but they should understand the sastras. Good luck with your endevours, the new few years will be rather difficult but you will krsna by your side. Hare KRsna
  8. Hare Krsna Pritaa ji. Thank you very much for your kind words. BUt what could I have done without you. Devotees are like desire trees....... Vancha Kalpa tirusbasya...... Hare KRsna
  9. Hare Krsna Prabhu. Please accept my humble obesensies. I really wish to thank you for the help you gave me in looking for a job. I am glad I had a chance to associate with you. Thank you very much for the encouragment. I didnt spend one penny these last few months. This discpline is truly Prabhupad and his movements mercy. I am only as good and noble as Krsna allows me and my wife trains me. hahahhahaha. Behind every good man is a greater woman righhht!!!!! When you have KRsna you can do anything, I can attest to that for sure. Rakhe Krsna Mare Khe, Mare Krsna Rakhe khe. My critics dont know what I am doing, they will be taken care of later. My father doesnt even know. He thinks I am going to school and thats all he needs to know until my wife gets here. yuuum, sweet rice...actually I dont like sweets very much but on this occasion why not right. hahahaha. My wife is the reason I worked so hard. Everytime I felt like giving up I just looked at my wedding ring and said to my self "this is who I am working so hard for, dont stop now" All glories to my wife. There is still a bit of a process happening but keep praying for me and keep chanting hare krsna and everything that will fall into place will fall into place. Behind every good man, there is a greater woman. Thank you. Hare KRsna
  10. Hare Krsna. THats nice of you to say I will make a great father, what makes you say that comment though. I can only hope that I can become a good father and a good husband for my family. Hare Krsna
  11. Hare Krsna, Not only do I have one good job, but I have two great jobs. Wooo hoo. THis is all Krsna's mercy. NExt week i send the papers to Immigration and hopefully krsna willing my wife will be here soon. I am glad you and the rest of the devotees have given me support. I really needed that and although I dont frequent this website a lot anymore I do thank you a lot. Hare krsna Hare Krsna
  12. Hare KRsna everyone. How is everyone doing? I havent been in touch lately and so much has taken over my day to day life so when I do drop by it is just for a small glimpse. Did you all miss me? Hahahhahaha. I want to thank you all for all of your support. From Ghari, Pritha to everyone else that was there for me. Well, things have definatly turned around a 160 degrees from what is used to be. Currently I am working for a telemarketing company, and now I just recently got a great new job doing Market Research. I start next week. I take surveys. THe immigration situation has improved as I called immigration and figured out what i needed to get my wife over here. I have been busy working, school, filling out the immigration forms that I didnt get a chance to come here much, also there were some topics and people that bothered me. ANyways, I start the process of bringing my wife to Canada next week. Yes, everything is packed and ready to go. Just some small tweeks and final adjustments. Please pray for me as I am know because of your prayers I have made it this far. I have saved over $3000 dollars in my bank account and Guru Maharaj's mercy as well as the devotees care and support along with my wifes love and krsna's guidance I have achieved my goal. You can do anything as long as krsna is in the centre. I hope to hear from you all. Hare Krsna. "Impossible is only a word in a cowards dictionary" -Hanuman Hare Krsna Haridham
  13. Hare Krsna everyone. Long time no post. I hope all is well. I am doing well, just dropped by after something caught my eye and thought about what a better place then this to discuss this. I just saw an episode of "Ripley's believe it or not" where at a temple RATS are worshipped. Yes RATS. Apparently they are reincarnated people and there are white rats too who are reincarnted sons of some goddess. Apparently the rats are never harmed no kicked out from the temple and the food that the rats eat are eatan by the devotees there as prasadam or something. People really should read the Bhagavad gita. Why worship a rat or some goddesses sons who have reincarnated as rats, why not worship krsna. Sounds preety tamasic to me. Anyways, what is the vedic idea behind all of this and what about the rest of my fellow devotee opinions? Rats being worshipped......Believe it! Hare Krsna
  14. i think choice of partner is always there, I am not denying that. The idea of telling someone that a man has a right over the woman no matter what the woman thinks however bugs me.Thats what I am talking about. Oh and it was her aunt not mine. About what Pandu said, well I clearly think he was talking about from the kingly position but its different for us normal folk. As Prabhupad and other acaryas have said sex only for the beggeting of children which in it self is an act of love not lust which is the act just for using each other to satisfy their genitals. As Rsabhavdev in the Srimad Bhagavatam tells his sons how this act keeps us bound in the material world etc. As Krsna says in the Bhagavat gita, I am sex desire not contradicting religious principles. ANyways, the whole idea of husband having the right over the woman disgusts me. At first I was going to write an angry email because I wasnt happy about that. I was going to ask her if she actually loved me etc but decided not to come off like somone with a temper problem. I mean one hand I am telling her about Krsna conscioussnes and then if i get angry is not a good example. Plus emails are to impersonal. Better to talk in person about it. Hare Krsna
  15. Hare Krsna, I didnt mean to say anything to offend anyone and I am glad you arent brought up this way but a LOT of indian people are....trust me. I was disgusted at what I was told at my wedding to, about how if she says no then she is not a good wife etc ofcourse I totally smashed that guy with sastric evidence. Some of these people are low class asses. anyways, this is kaliyuga and i am just going with what I see. I am glad I am in Srila Prabhupads movement and not some blind person leading the blind. Hare Krsna
  16. Hare Krsna everyone. This is Haridham. Its been a long time since I wrote in so here is my question, comments...whatever. Ofcourse these are for the devotees here and not some Random "hindu" or "hindian" that strolls in. As you can tell I havent changed much but just a bit fried. My wife emailed me and said to me that her aunt told her that the husband and total right over the wife in all circumstances, especially with sex and the wife cannot refuse. Is that true? That just sounds soooo disgusting to me. Anyways I ask this because this is popular with indian people who say during the wedding night its the husbands right to do anything and the woman cant refuse. I dont believe that to be true. Any vedic evidence or anything. I hope to hear from you all. THis is much deeper then what I am writing on here. Hare Krsna
  17. The return of "As Haridham turns" I am around, just cant visit a lot, glad to know people are actually thinking about me. The nine questions were funny. my reply 1....thought about it but paid someone else to do it 2....not rich enough 3.....school doesnt know yet 4....no...u made me miss my wife even more 5...not you guys, just sometimes this site gets overwhelming 6I might have 7...not boring just limiting my visits 8...father cant touch me, he would be the one getting thrown out 9....They havent got the idea yet, dont give them any ideas. Unfortunatly its not number 4, however the news is not so all bad. I have been busy doing the paperwork for my wife's immigration and things are getting much busier. I am working full time and going to school. Looking for another job as well. Krsna is taking care of me nicely. I felt the need to leave from this website as I thought I wasnt contributing although I did drop by once or twice in the last two weeks and I dont know how often I will come on here. If at all. Its sweet to know that people do think about me though. I have talked to immigration and I think I have told you but if I havent then I will tell you now that I found out that I dont need 20 thousand in my bank account, just need to be a canadian citizen, a job, and the rest of the stuff I have filled out. Just need to get the papers back from my wife and then I can send them to immigration. Krsna's mercy and your prayers have helped me get through. I am doing great and I am loyal and greatful towards you all. I am not abandoning you my friends just to many tasks krsna has handed me. We will meet again, I just have to go write something on that Sai Baba post. Heheheh. See you all there. Hare Krsna
  18. the above was me. Hare Krsna
  19. I wasnt trying to imply anything. I totally agree with you that most people in the world dont have a clue what marriage is about. For them its a ticket to have sex. Both for the girl and the boy. Thats all they know. I think I know what kind of pressure your under. Especially if you are from an indian community. Most of them are so bent out of shape for marriage but they have no clue. Its a competion for them. Try to resist as much as possible. I was under the same pressure and all I can say is that these people are ignorant bas......sorry I get kinda sensative about this subject. Pray to krsna that he helps you find a good husband. Keep chanting and challenge these people when they say to you that you should get maried. Ask them why? What is the purpose of marriege? Why should one get married? I gaurantee you that they wont know. I did all these. They only do this to satisfy their lusty desires. I have been through all of this. I challenged and defeated each one of them but because I felt respect for my parents I got married and now I am in a big mess. Guru, Sastra Sadhu must be followed. You shoudnt let anyone touch you until you figure out if their goal is the same as your goal. Run away from home if you want to. Now I as I say this dont just drop everything and run away but never jeapordize your principles. I mean quote them the verse I just gave you above. Ask them "who qualifies to get married do you know"? "what is the purpose marriage if you want me to get married so badDo you even know that you dont have to get married" Man tell me to come there, I think I would shoot them all. If it were me and I had a chance there are these guju's who are in the soni cast who have caused me such issues and are trying ruin my life and my wife's life. They dont focus on their spiritual life at all and its all mundane but if it were up to me I would get them all in one room and create another halaucast. THey dont like the devotees either. If those are the people that you are talking about THEN AVOID THEM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are a brave girl. If you knew my story you would cry. Hare KRsna
  20. well before I got married I looked at the family life of my family and many others and thought I would never get married. Ofcourse now that I am married and going through my issues I wish I wasnt married and such but now I have a duty towards my wife and being married and having someone to share your krsna consciousness is a great thing. Marriage is the biggest thing in either advancing in spiritual life or failing in it. Before you should get married you should consider the following verse from the Srimad Bhagavatam 5.5.18 gurur na sa syat sva-jano na sa syat pita na sa syaj janani na sa syat daivam na tat syan na patis ca sa syan na mocayed yah samupeta-mrtyum "One who cannot deliver his dependents from the path of repeated birth and death should never become a spiritual master, a father, a husband, a mother or a worshipable demigod" I have learned from my family members however(of what not to do ocourse) and I know I will treat my wife much differently and I will listen to my children too. I mean we never know who the people are that we have a relationship with. But I think its best to get married then to let your senses all go crazy, by getting married you can learn to control your senses and live krsna consciously with your loved ones. Hare Krsna
  21. I already sent him the verse from the Brahma Samhita but he still thinks krsna has no form and all this other wacky stuff. You should read his post on moksa. Oh by, I think I did it again. Hare Krsna
  22. These people will remain annonymous because they dont want to be exposed as rascals and fools. There is no point in arguing with them. Its all a game to them, they want to make you angry because they have no other menas to defeat you. Priita ji its best to move on, I mean I was having a battle with a certian mayavadi and no matter what you do what proof you present they wont budge because their false ego is larger then their intelligence. We are here for krsna the supreme personality and the original PERSON and we should battle hard when people disrespect Prahbupad and his movement. He are all spiritual warriors against maya and these are maya's agents who use word juggelery to defend their purpose which is minute compare to what Prabhupad brought us. There are future generations waiting in the wings, we are the future of iskcon and Srila Prabhupads movement. Some of us like me need to better prepare and I am glad you and other devotees are around in this forum and all over the world. They cant defeat something that is from Krsna. I wish that we could help each other more as there are many philosophies that I need help with defeating, most of which is mayavad philosophy but that we can talk later. There are people on this form that need a little bit of real krsna conscioussness. If we aall work together ther shoudnt be a problem.Right now do not worry about these small hurdles. Krsna is helping us become stronger. Hare Krsna
  23. Yes we make our own scriptures, we make our own rules, we make our guru's, we make our own trade mark clothing. Yes, the iskcon see through sari, on sale GImme a break. I have seen more indian women who dont wear sari's at the temple and wear tight outfits, jeans and shirts with bellies showing. Then they have the guts to accuse our women of trying to be indian. The last thing we want to be is indian, we want to be spiritual, sari is spiritual clothing not indian clothing.
  24. Haridham

    Moksha

    absolutly. YOu should come to the conclusion tha krsna wants you to come to and that conclusion is that he is the athourity. It is laughable that you dont want to take krsna's words as it is but interpret them so they fit your desires and convience. YOu didnt answer any of my questions but kept repeating the same thing over. So yes we both came to different conclusions but I came to the conclusion with faith that Krsna's words are the authority rather then speculate with my imperfect senses. ANyways, as krsna says....fools deride me....... Hare Krsna
  25. Thank you for clarifying that. I talked to a devotee friend who basically said the same thing. I am sticking to Krsna all the way. Now there is this other guy on this forum about moksa who has interesting mayavadi ideas who you can talk to and try to understand what he is saying. He thinks getting liberation and worshiping krsna is dilusional and you cant do it with bhakti etc. I tried explaining him the Bhagavat gita but I dont think he understands. Oh well. Anyway Jndas Prabhu, thank you. Hare krsna
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