Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 I did leave Bob for Paul but I mostly left Bob because he not only refused to get involved and socialise with my friends such as the London Vegans people, but was also really quite disapproving of me going out and having friends. I would not have left him if he had accepted it better, he actually drove me away by being jealous! By my reasoning I wanted to be an activist and enjoy a bit of a social life before tying myself down to looking after kids, I knew I would still want some social life and activism but obviously would not be able to do so much once I had kids. He not only wanted to deprive me of my friends but was not even sure about wanting kids at all (but somehow he forgot to let me know he had any doubts about having kids until a year or so after we were married). If I had had kids with him we would have had a lot more help than Paul and I have ever had, and getting them babysat quite regularly for some time out together would probably have been no problem since his parents lived next door, but his mum was a bit of a meddler in our marriage which did not help at all! You will think I am dead evil now Angie! Confession time. I did actually once many years ago make a pass at someone who had a g/f but she was an animal eater and he was a nice pro-life life respecting vegan man I was friendly with in a local veggie group I was in (no K@ it wasn't R@!). I really liked him and if his g/f had been vegan or even a lacto-ovo veg I probably would not have ever tried to entice him away from her, because I would think she was probably too nice a person to deserve me doing anything so mean. I have a different code of ethics when dealing with animal eaters because if they eat animals I think that is so evil that I think it's OK to try and take a vegan boyfriend from one of them! All's fair in love and war when it comes to animal eaters in my book, he was not interested in me anyway, so nowt happened. Lesley Angie Wright [angiewright]14 July 2002 15:34 Subject: RE: Re: Marrying meaties How weird . I have family friends and single people friends , old and young . I know when people are off limits (If they are spoken for they are off limits ) you have to trust your other half to be faithful and trust your friends to keep relationships platonic . I've never had a problem with infidelity and don't know anyone who has . . kiwi2000 [kiwi2000] 13 July 2002 02:28 Subject: Re: Re: Marrying meaties Lesley, I 've found that single people and families don't mix well. There is an underlying fear that one's partner will flee the nest with the single friend so they are avoided and not made welcome. You're right about choosing whom you associate with. When people grow and need support for their new direction, they may need to let go of past relationships that hold them back and only reinforce the way they were and don't help them to be the new "Me". Brad To send an email to - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 I think it is Ok to be friendly and even flirt with people but if they are committed to their partner they should make it clear they are not interested .I would never come between a couple , but if the man were vegan ( and not the woman ) it might be tempting !!!! as you say the rules might be different then Lesley Dove [Lesley] 14 July 2002 18:06 Subject: RE: Re: Marrying meaties You will think I am dead evil now Angie! Confession time. I did actually once many years ago make a pass at someone who had a g/f but she was an animal eater and he was a nice pro-life life respecting vegan man I was friendly with in a local veggie group I was in (no K@ it wasn't R@!). I really liked him and if his g/f had been vegan or even a lacto-ovo veg I probably would not have ever tried to entice him away from her, because I would think she was probably too nice a person to deserve me doing anything so mean. I have a different code of ethics when dealing with animal eaters because if they eat animals I think that is so evil that I think it's OK to try and take a vegan boyfriend from one of them! All's fair in love and war when it comes to animal eaters in my book, he was not interested in me anyway, so nowt happened. Lesley --- Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.370 / Virus Database: 205 - Release 05/06/2002 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 At this stage in my life I just want some veggie/vegan extended family, like auntie/uncle/granny/babysitter for the kids, not another man! I'm more mature now than I was when I would given half the chance have enticed away an animal eater's vegan boyfriend, that was about 15 years ago, I was only in my early twenties. Even then I would have been happy to babysit a friend's kids, would have liked to have been an "auntie" if asked. That's what friends are for when you have a family. Still would do that but it would have to be a reciprocal thing now. I think when you are young it can sometimes be harder to stick to what is off-limits, but mostly we mature! Lesley Angie Wright [angiewright]14 July 2002 15:34 Subject: RE: Re: Marrying meaties How weird . I have family friends and single people friends , old and young . I know when people are off limits (If they are spoken for they are off limits ) you have to trust your other half to be faithful and trust your friends to keep relationships platonic . I've never had a problem with infidelity and don't know anyone who has . . kiwi2000 [kiwi2000] 13 July 2002 02:28 Subject: Re: Re: Marrying meaties Lesley, I 've found that single people and families don't mix well. There is an underlying fear that one's partner will flee the nest with the single friend so they are avoided and not made welcome. You're right about choosing whom you associate with. When people grow and need support for their new direction, they may need to let go of past relationships that hold them back and only reinforce the way they were and don't help them to be the new "Me". Brad To send an email to - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 Jojo No - was it good? Jo Has anyone seen Fantastic Planet?... -- jojo ---Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).Version: 6.0.375 / Virus Database: 210 - Release 10/07/02 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 Yes I just saw it recently. It was excellent. I loved it. - jojo Sunday, July 14, 2002 6:42 PM Re: Marrying meaties Has anyone seen Fantastic Planet?... -- jojo - EBbrewpunx Sunday, July 14, 2002 11:58 AM Re: Marrying meaties In a message dated 7/13/02 1:07:21 AM Pacific Daylight Time, kiwi2000 writes: Have you never seen Dr.Who or heard of the Daleks? The Daleks ARE human destrying robots. oh usefull those guys would be.."relaese the daleks""curses, the humans ran up some stairs again, foiled again!"maybe they could build big bubbles like in the prisoner to stop those pesky naked apes...fraggle To send an email to - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 14, 2002 Has anyone seen Fantastic Planet?... -- jojo - EBbrewpunx Sunday, July 14, 2002 11:58 AM Re: Marrying meaties In a message dated 7/13/02 1:07:21 AM Pacific Daylight Time, kiwi2000 writes: Have you never seen Dr.Who or heard of the Daleks? The Daleks ARE human destrying robots. oh usefull those guys would be.."relaese the daleks""curses, the humans ran up some stairs again, foiled again!"maybe they could build big bubbles like in the prisoner to stop those pesky naked apes...fraggle To send an email to - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted July 15, 2002 Fantastic Planet is an extremely well done, full-length animated science fiction feature and the premise of it is somewhat relevant to that thread that I posted to. I don't want to say what it's about though, because it would ruin it for those who've never seen it. I highly recommend it for anyone who likes science fiction. -- jojo - Heartwork Sunday, July 14, 2002 3:04 PM Re: Marrying meaties Jojo No - was it good? Jo Has anyone seen Fantastic Planet?... -- jojo ---Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).Version: 6.0.375 / Virus Database: 210 - Release 10/07/02To send an email to - Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
