During my years of experience in the field of providing astrological guidance, I saw that a very great number of people who contacted me were in fact victims of low self-confidence, fear, depression, anxiety and were confused due to their lack of overall idea as to what life is all about. It was very clear that the roots of such problems lie deep within the mind of such persons. I could see that logical guidance, counseling, had very little impact on the persons suffering. It led me into the quest to find effective tools to help such persons.

During my years of experience in the field of providing astrological guidance, I saw that a very great number of people who contacted me were in fact victims of low self-confidence, fear, depression, anxiety and were confused due to their lack of overall idea as to what life is all about. It was very clear that the roots of such problems lie deep within the mind of such persons. I could see that logical guidance, counseling, had very little impact on the persons suffering. It led me into the quest to find effective tools to help such persons.

In my pursuit to help them, It became very essential that I myself, first understand what the mysteries of mind and life are. This ultimately turned out to be a valuable gift to me in the form of gaining spiritual wisdom.

As I expanded my search, I could find good enough literature from various western Rishis. Let me be frank and humble here. Frank to state, that I could not find Hindu scriptures helpful. Humble to state that this could be my own unworthiness to decode the secrets from our scriptures. I studied ideas on Near Death Experiences, Past life, Reincarnation and Consciousness as presented by Dr. Brian Weiss, Seth, Burt Goldman, Michael Newton, Edgar Cayce, William Buhlman, Florence Scovel Shinn, Jay Lakhani, Deepak Chopra, Gregg Braden, Tom Campbell, Ekhart Tole etc. I prefer their work, over our ancient literature, for simple reasons e.g., (a) their way of presentation is simple and not coded or presented in condensed Sutras (b) well formatted and good enough to convince an intellectual mind © They don’t just present metaphors or notions; they support their work with scientific research. After considerable efforts; I could devise a blue print about life and conscious.

I am a Hindu by birth and am happy being so because it gifted me with its spiritual precepts and freedom to explore truth from any direction. I expect the readers of this forum to be free from the cultural and religious conditioning as they read the following.

To understand the cause of emotional pain; we need to understand what is life in its spiritual perspective? To make things easy, we need to understand what is our ‘Self ‘ and what is Soul, Heart, Mind, Ego and their respective roles. So, let us begin..


We have an eternal form of pure self… its True, eternal and Joyous… Sat – chit – Anand swaroop. Just a shapeless intelligent energy. This pure form of consciousness sends parts of its being on different planes to gain experience of life in different planes. The part of this pure consciousness that visits our physical world, is called Atma or Soul or Jeevatma. As it enters the plane of the earth, it cannot operate on its own, it has to accept the conditions of this world. The life on earth can be experienced only within the constraints of physical world. Thus, the incarnating soul has to manifest through a physical body and operate through its Heart, Mind and Ego.


Human heart is not just a blood pumping organ. In its subtle form, it is a center of our consciousness where we experience emotions. It has frequencies different from the conscious mind. The heart understands the language of emotions. It cannot express itself through words.


Mind is the logical part of our consciousness. It interprets the stimulus signals collected through the sense organs and manipulates them in the form of thoughts. It also commands the body parts for different functions.


Ego is the form of consciousness that creates identity of the self. It creates a sense of being distinct. It is the part of our consciousness that observes; experiences; takes decisions, creates its esteem and commands discretion. It relates the effects with causes and assign relationship. Because of Ego we feel belonging with ‘Me’ and ‘Mine’.

Life & Pain

Our worldly life is a part of a grand divine scheme. In the process ‘The law of Karma’ and the principle of evolution of the entire human species works together.
As we look at life in its entirety, it is seen that people get into different kinds of relationship on the basis of kind of karmic dues accumulated out of the transactions they did during the past lives. In the process of settlement of the dues, persons keep experiencing joy and pain and keep learning. Side by side, as a result of reactions during this settlement; new karmas are generated..and the cycle keeps rotating!

Our soul besides learning and developing higher qualities from different dimensions; keeps on settling the karmic dues with related persons. In this way, the friendly and related souls come in contact with each others; imparts certain lessons; learn themselves and keep evolving.

Before the soul incarnates in the physical world, it decides its syllabus to learn things (divine qualities e.g. Love, Patience, Sympathy, Empathy etc.) during respective life. However, the soul does not involve in transactions of the world, directly. Instead, it has to accept the basic conditions of earth life e.g. it has to experience the world through Body, Mind, Heart and Ego. The incarnating soul can only communicate with the heart of individual. The communication from Soul to heart is known as Intuition or Inspiration. The soul can only transact with the heart because the vibrations of the higher qualities like Love, Patience, Sympathy, empathy etc. are received only by Heart.

The scope of the Soul is very wide. It travels from one plane to another and operates on different dimensions simultaneously. The vision and power of its purpose of the soul is very magnanimous. On the other hand, the heart being an instrument at individual level, falls too small to receive and accommodate the vibrations of Soul’s communication and gets overwhelmed. These instances are known as inspiration or intuition.

Now, here is the real trouble. The heart receives messages from the soul but it has no mechanism to get it executed in the individual life. Individual human life is administrated through mind and ego. Because of this, the heart experiences romance and then either get settled or feels melancholy or frustration due to feelings of being ignored.

Taking clue from the experiences and inspiration felt at heart, it is for the mind to put the same in the form of logical thoughts. The ability of Mind is always dependent upon input provided by the sense organs and its manipulation. The whole scope of mind is therefore frequency constrained perception. Further, it has its own attitude formed upon previous experiences. As such, the mind always fails to interpret feelings of heart in true sense. The spectrum of experience and perception are quite different.

The mind has all worldly smartness and selfish attitude inculcated within its constitution. As such, it presents the feelings of the heart to Ego in such a way that Ego gets agitated. Ego experiences insecurity and inferiority as it is exposed to the higher virtues e.g., Love, Sacrifice etc. It simply gets scared at the idea of accepting those virtues and apprehend that accepting such qualities would foil all its efforts and strategies built upon self oriented philosophy.

Sometimes, the mind has inherited broad and noble attitude from the previous experiences and can accept the inspiration felt in the heart. However, its own nature is such that it would fabricate the perception in logical way and would present pros and cones – positive and negative arguments at the same time. This creates ups and downs and the person would experience joy for some time and get frustrated later. This conflict between the heart and the mind creates the pain of confusion.

The heart rejoices whenever life passes through such happenings where it is exposed with development of higher virtues or relationship demanding settlement of some Karmic dues. However, when the mind and ego cannot execute it in true sense, the paradox of despair is generated. The Heart feels tremendous pain and expresses it only in the form of tears. Thus, the pain and tears are nothing but the lessons of wisdom generated from the inner churning. This is the reason, one experiences a feeling of relief after shedding tears.

The pain, that we experience, is eventually an inevitable part of the process of evolution and learning the lessons. Our psyche will miss the impact necessary for development of a particular emotional quality if we don’t experience the pain. The experience of pain itself is an indication that we are undergoing the process of learning some very vital lesson and that some deep rooted Karmic dues are being settled.

The persons who operate through mind; whose mind is dominant over the heart, find it very tough to accept the feelings of the heart. They strive to reject what they might have accepted in the state of overwhelmed condition.. The mind shows its skills here, by presenting several excuses to nurture the ego.

It is the function of Our Ego to exercise discretion out of the feelings of the heart and logical dual arguments presented by the mind. The Ego has its own image about its (false) identity. It is made up of summation of all experiences it has enveloped with social norms and values. No wonder, therefore, that the Ego cannot afford to accept and adopt the higher qualities like selfless love, compassion, patience, equality, faith etc. It only keeps these qualities for display and secure its false esteem. When Ego faces a situation where it might have to exercise higher qualities; it experience a great crisis of losing its self-worth. Ultimately, it puts forward some worldly excuses like ‘being practical’ etc. and would reject the options presented by heart.

It is always almost impossible or at least very hard for the Ego to accept that it suffers from certain deficiencies and that it needs to learn something. Expressing ‘Sorry’ is very very painful for the Ego. And the funny thing is, Ego always portrays that it is down to earth..!!

The souls who have karmic dues with another person and has accepted to teach and learn from this person approaches him/her during the life time. This is done through interactions. These souls are called soulmates. However, such souls are also subject to constraints of the world and may not be perfect in their dealings.

Rather than learning something from the approaching Soulmate, our ego tries to establish its dominance. It tries to reject and would counter any suggestion about need to learn something. On the contrary it will abuse the other of being Judgmental.

On the other hand, if the degree of the spirit of the interacting soulmate is higher, his/her behavior would be quite different. Where other worldly relatives pamper the Ego; such evolved soulmates would strike at the Ego. It has nothing to do with the Ego and would not pamper. It is concerned with only imparting necessary lessons through interaction. Guided with the purpose, it would strive hard to get the other person convinced about higher qualities.. it can go to any extent to pursue even if it has to do it at the cost of his own self-esteem. The soulmates approaches us inspired with the wishes of settlement of past Karmic dues and to learn and evolve.

So, now you can make out what this pain is all about…. It is nothing but the conflict between the heart and the mind / ego. It is not very easy for mind and ego to understand the purpose of the pure soul and to get ready to pay the karmic dues. Their capacity to imbibe the virtues remains too low.

However, if you can observe the happenings of life in a neutral manner, with some efforts you can be able to take out some lessons:
· Not to react quickly. Mostly the preconceived notions prove wrong.
· Not to allege other people foolishly.
· Patience is a virtue we need to develop from such events.
· Not to expect other person to respond to your emotions in the same way. Because, you might need some tough treatment so that you can learn a particular thing.
· Appreciate that every person’s way of expressing love could be different.

Here again, even after you know all this things and that you understand the reasons; how far you will be able to implement into behaviour depends upon:

· At what level of evolution, the two soulmates interact.
· Interference created by the free-will
· the volume and kind of balance Karmic dues
· The virtues yet to be learnt

However, once the lessons are learnt and the Karmic dues have been settled between particular soulmates, there shall not be any pain.