Teaching the heart to let go

October 26, 2007

Hi everyone!

I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants it?

I'm confused.

I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights. I've

been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell my

heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging me

to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more than

the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it. What

am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

Anne

October 26, 2007

If it were me, I would explore the reasons that my heart is not

letting go of this person. I would meditate on what it is that

connects us. Perhaps there are things that need to be dealt with

(not necessarily that he will be involved with, but inside you)

before you are able to move on.

As for the other, I don't think we can make ourselves love someone,

nor should we try imho. Trust your inner guidance. Sometimes we

want love so badly that we project it upon someone who is wrong for

us. I think many of us have probably done this at one time or

another.

Maybe some quality time ALONE is in order. Spend some time getting

to know Anne and her Higher Self. Perhaps then you will be able to

discern who is the right partner, not just who is convenient or you

have put so much time and effort into that you want to salvage it.

My thoughts on this. Bless you Anne, may you find true contentment

and happiness.

Sarita

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants

it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

I've

> been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell my

> heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging me

> to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more than

> the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

What

> am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

>

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Anne,

My dear sweet sister I must say that I agree with Sarita 100%. Take time off for

you! Love Ya Girl!

Love,

Katherine

Maybe some quality time ALONE is in order. Spend some time getting

to know Anne and her Higher Self. Perhaps then you will be able to

discern who is the right partner, not just who is convenient or you

have put so much time and effort into that you want to salvage it.

My thoughts on this. Bless you Anne, may you find true contentment

and happiness.

Sarita

Kundalini-Awakening -Systems- 1 , " Anne "

<annicole72@ ...> wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants

it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> >

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Hello dear Anne. I know...sometimes it feels like the

heart has a mind of its own, and just won't listen to

us. I've been there many times. Hug. What I learned

is that the heart needs time to grieve the loss. And

if you allow it that time, it will come back to you.

Don't try to force anything. Just feel what is there

for you to feel, and love that inner child that is

hurting. imho

Love, dhyana

--- Anne <annicole72 wrote:

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not

> to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else

> who does wants it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> I've been meditating about this for the past few

> days and nights. I've

> been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so

> confused. I tell my

> heart not to love this person anymore but my heart

> keeps dragging me

> to that person. Even though there is someone who

> wants it more than

> the other, but I have no feelings for the one who

> does wants it. What

> am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

>

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Hello, me again...

You could do an awful lot worse than having this running in the

background through headphones as you meditate:

http://www.new-

mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

My hat really goes off to this CD set, it's not to be under-estimated

in any circumstances. *Warning - may induce K*

Tom

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants

it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

I've

> been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell my

> heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging me

> to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more than

> the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

What

> am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

>

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Hi Tom,

Could you please repost that link or else tell me the website so I can find it

on my own....the link doesn't work even when I copy and paste it.

Thanks!

Love,

Claudia

etomireland <singaporenoodles wrote:

Hello, me again...

You could do an awful lot worse than having this running in the

background through headphones as you meditate:

http://www.new-

mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

My hat really goes off to this CD set, it's not to be under-estimated

in any circumstances. *Warning - may induce K*

Tom

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants

it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

I've

> been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell my

> heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging me

> to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more than

> the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

What

> am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

>

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Dear Anne!

What you could do is to ask archangel Michael to cut all etheric

cords that you share with this person that is keeping you perhaps

tied to him and all cords that are not for your highest good! This is

the only thing i can think of,i hope it helps!

Good luck

Birgitta

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does wants

it?

>

> I'm confused.

>

> I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

I've

> been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell my

> heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging me

> to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more than

> the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

What

> am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

>

> Anne

>

October 26, 2007

Pranams Anne.....

You are loving a person and now u try not to love him and divert the

love to some one else????........it would be difficult.......

first of all your heart does not work on instructions from

mind........the more you tell it do/dont do...the more it will do what

i t feels.......it has no place for thoughts since it is filled with

only feelings......if you are really truly in love with some

one....how can u say i would stop loving that person.......believe me

a true love is an ever lasting river that flows in the

heart......first of all accepting that u love some one is very

important......acceptance and then try to divert your love river to

the other person....

thanks and regards

prasad

October 27, 2007

Hi Claudia,

Second time lucky maybe:

http://www.new-

mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

or if that still doesn't work (I think it split it up again), maybe

just try

http://www.new-mind.com/

and click on the " meditation " category link - half way down the list

that brings up there should be an " Opening the Heart " link you can

click...

Tom

, Claudia

<newtfoodbowl wrote:

>

> Hi Tom,

>

> Could you please repost that link or else tell me the website so

I can find it on my own....the link doesn't work even when I copy and

paste it.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Love,

> Claudia

>

> etomireland <singaporenoodles wrote:

> Hello, me again...

> You could do an awful lot worse than having this running in the

> background through headphones as you meditate:

>

> http://www.new-

> mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

>

> My hat really goes off to this CD set, it's not to be under-

estimated

> in any circumstances. *Warning - may induce K*

> Tom

>

> , " Anne "

> <annicole72@> wrote:

> >

> > Hi everyone!

> >

> > I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> > anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does

wants

> it?

> >

> > I'm confused.

> >

> > I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

> I've

> > been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell

my

> > heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging

me

> > to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more

than

> > the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

> What

> > am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

> >

> > Anne

>

October 27, 2007

Thanks, Tom! Got there using the second option you mentioned.

Love,

Claudia

etomireland <singaporenoodles wrote:

Hi Claudia,

Second time lucky maybe:

http://www.new-

mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

or if that still doesn't work (I think it split it up again), maybe

just try

http://www.new-mind.com/

and click on the " meditation " category link - half way down the list

that brings up there should be an " Opening the Heart " link you can

click...

Tom

, Claudia

<newtfoodbowl wrote:

>

> Hi Tom,

>

> Could you please repost that link or else tell me the website so

I can find it on my own....the link doesn't work even when I copy and

paste it.

>

> Thanks!

>

> Love,

> Claudia

>

> etomireland <singaporenoodles wrote:

> Hello, me again...

> You could do an awful lot worse than having this running in the

> background through headphones as you meditate:

>

> http://www.new-

> mind.com/HemiSyncOpeningTheHeart/hemisyncopeningtheheart.htm

>

> My hat really goes off to this CD set, it's not to be under-

estimated

> in any circumstances. *Warning - may induce K*

> Tom

>

> , " Anne "

> <annicole72@> wrote:

> >

> > Hi everyone!

> >

> > I have a dilemma. How does one teach the heart not to love someone

> > anymore and give that love and heart to someone else who does

wants

> it?

> >

> > I'm confused.

> >

> > I've been meditating about this for the past few days and nights.

> I've

> > been asking goddess Shakti for clarity. I am so confused. I tell

my

> > heart not to love this person anymore but my heart keeps dragging

me

> > to that person. Even though there is someone who wants it more

than

> > the other, but I have no feelings for the one who does wants it.

> What

> > am I going to do? I'm so confused >.<

> >

> > Anne

>

October 28, 2007

Here's another dilemma:

Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

(younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to commit

(older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be alone.

Anne

October 28, 2007

Hiii

Anne.....its always said its better to be with those who love us than

whome we love......i feel u need to give ur heart some time to accept

the transitions.........when some one is extending love to u....feel

it once truly by heart....then it shall respond by its own.......my

prayers to goddess to lead your heart to the best.......and give u all

happiness......

thanks and regards

prasad

October 28, 2007

My Darling Dearest Anne -

What's your hurry?

If the younger fella doesn't want a commitment then why ponder any longer

about it? I know it can be painful but what's the purpose of being in a

relationship that's not reciprocal? I should know....I have my issues with that

right now. The same goes with the older fella, he Loves you but you don't share

the same feelings.

You are young, you are beautiful, you are blessed, you are wonderful, you are

smart, you are precious, you are Loving......why give all those gifts to someone

that clearly does not want to receive them. I say keep those gifts for yourself

until the real " right " recipient comes along and revels in the beautiful person

that you are.

This is just an opinion from an old hag.

Love for you, Anne

Becky

Anne <annicole72 wrote:

Here's another dilemma:

Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

(younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to commit

(older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be alone.

Anne

October 28, 2007

Dear Abby says to explore friendship with them. Not everything has to

be a deep commitment. =] Loving you, dhyana

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Here's another dilemma:

>

> Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

> (younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to commit

> (older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

> no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be alone.

>

> Anne

>

October 28, 2007

Dear Anne,

My answer would be 'neither.' Wait until you love someone who loves you back,

someone to whom you are ready to commit and who is ready to commit to you.

There is nothing wrong with being alone! You don't need a man to make your

life complete. You have everything inside to do that all by yourself. Until

the time comes that I described in my second sentence, get to know and love

yourself better.

Blessings & love,

Claudia

Anne <annicole72 wrote:

Here's another dilemma:

Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

(younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to commit

(older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be alone.

Anne

October 28, 2007

Claudia, I love it! How beautiful your words are! They ring true to situations

like that! Don't rush love, it will find you when it is ready! First know and

love yourself better and the rest will fall in place.

Love,

Katherine

Claudia <newtfoodbowl

Sunday, October 28, 2007 3:28:43 PM

Re: Re: Teaching the heart to let go

Dear Anne,

My answer would be 'neither.' Wait until you love someone who loves you back,

someone to whom you are ready to commit and who is ready to commit to you.

There is nothing wrong with being alone! You don't need a man to make your life

complete. You have everything inside to do that all by yourself. Until the time

comes that I described in my second sentence, get to know and love yourself

better.

Blessings & love,

Claudia

Anne <annicole72 > wrote:

Here's another dilemma:

Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

(younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to commit

(older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be alone.

Anne

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October 28, 2007

Neither! I have been there Anne. I decided that I would rather be

alone than with Mr. Right Now or Mr. Wrong. Once I made that

decision, I felt free. I also made a list of what I DID want in my

perfect man, what was acceptable and what was absolutely NOT

acceptable. Three months after I let it go to the universe I met my

husband! I really think letting go is a big part of being able to

find the right person for you. You really must be able to be on your

own and love yourself just the way you are before you can be a

complete part of a couple imho.

Sarita

, " Anne "

<annicole72 wrote:

>

> Here's another dilemma:

>

> Would you rather be with the one you love, but isn't ready to commit

> (younger) or be with someone who wants to love you and wants to

commit

> (older), but you do not love/have no feelings for? Ughh =( .. It's a

> no win situation I guess. I guess .. the best solution is to be

alone.

>

> Anne

>

October 28, 2007

I thikn you've cracked it, it's bettter not to be

attached or need to be with anyone.

The divine union within is where it's at!!!

Just enjoy the moment, and certainly do not commit to

someone you have no feelings for, you will seriously

regret it.

If you wait and are strong in yourself you will

attract a similar mate.

Ask Arch Angel Chamuel to help you make a soulmate

connection and then sit back and wait.

Love Elektra x x x

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October 29, 2007

Thank you all for your advice. I already received answers to my

prayers - clarity.

First I realized not or to never resist to what my heart tells me

anymore.

Second, I found out some very interesting and not so great stuff about

the guy I have no feelings for. He's the guy who seems too good to be

true - prince charming (wanna be).... I guess there's a reason why I

couldn't make myself warm up to him even though he " seemed " to be the

sweetest thing. Never fall for the bait. I never did. Sad for him.

Good for me. Very very sad for him, because karma bit him very hard.

There are 3 others involved, but 1 that he really messed up with. In

the end he didn't get anything out of it - just hurt others and

himself. Luckily and thankfully I am not one of them.

I am thankful that my angels keep guarding me.

Here we go again. I know my mom and friends keep reminding me that I'm

not getting any younger and they worry that if I don't get married

soon, I might not have kids anymore. I'm not really worried or rushing

to get married. I do want to get married and have kids when I'm ready,

but not now. My mom and friends are the ones who keeps reminding me

that my clock is ticking. I have a cousin who had her first born when

she was 41, so there is hope for me. I'm only 35. For them, I am

getting old, but for me... I still feel young and a kid - your little

sister.

Becky, you are not an old hag. None of my K sisters are. I think the K

will always keep us young(er). I know I'm the youngest pain in the

butt sister. Still learning and growing. You guys are my only sisters

- I'm the only child. Maybe that's why I'm so behind with things.

The thing that confuses me now is this - I know that we're not

supposed to be attached to the person we love. But isn't that part of

having emotional feelings for someone? If we are not attached, we are

detached .. then how can we have feelings for them? I'm a little

confused about that. I know that to love unconditionally, we don't

have to be attached. So does that mean that we should set them free?

Sowiee ...

Loony sister,

Anne

October 30, 2007

Hi, Anne! Glad that you are feeling more clarity.

Most of us have parents filling our heads with THEIR ideas of what our lives

should be like. What your life 'should' be like is what YOU want it to be, not

what they want. Just smile and tell your mother and friends that you're exactly

where you need to be right now and that they need not worry about you.

Attachment. That is a good question. IMHO, it is possible to love without

attachment. Two example come to mind for me. One is my son. Needless to say,

I love him dearly. When we moved 6 years ago, he stayed in Athens (GA), which

is where he had lived for his entire 24 years. He was/is an adult and it was

right for him to choose to live in Athens and not to follow his parents. I miss

him, but not as terribly as I thought I would. I know he is happy, I know that

he feels quite independent and 'on his own,' and I know how proud he feels of

himself. That makes ME proud. To me, I love him but I am not attached.

Then there is always the issue of death. When we lose someone we love, we

learn much about attachment. If we cannot let go of them, we suffer here on

earth and THEY suffer in the afterlife because they are literally held back

(attached) by our grief. We must let go in order for them to fulfill their

destiny in the afterlife. My brother is a good example of this. He suffered

the unimaginable horror of losing his youngest son 5 years ago, which I have

told this group before. He CANNOT let go...still. His suffering is immense, it

colors his entire life, and he is not really 'living' anymore. He is morbidly

attached to his son.

The greatest gesture we can make for someone we love is to be able to let them

go. Putting their happiness above our own. To me, that is perfect love...and

non-attachment.

I hope some of it helps.

Much love and many blessings, Anne,