Guest guest Report post Posted January 19, 2010 Namaste all! I've had a little something on my mind so I thought I'd consult the smartest people I could think of! I've never been a very decisive person. I over-think everything and I never quite feel like I know the right thing to do. But lately I've been trusting the process of self-realization to take care of it for me. " I don't know what I should be doing now but once I'm living in that state of realization, I'll figure it out. " " I don't know what the best option is but after I figure out the important thing, I'll just know. " For a while, it has given me comfort but I'm beginning to think it might be more of a pipe dream. So I'm wondering what you all think. For those of us who are currently householders and seeking realization of the self, how do we make major decisions while we're still seekers? Buying a house or land, having children, getting married, choosing a career, those sorts of things. I suppose there's no point in putting our lives on hold until we figure it all out but it's hard not to feel frozen. I haven't done any of those things yet and I'm afraid of getting latched down to a mortgage or bringing another life into the world if it isn't the best option for the long run. I know we have a wide range of people with a wide range of experience in this group. I would love to hear about everyone's experiences and thoughts. Thank you! Namaste! ~Manya Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 20, 2010 Namaste Manya, here's something from The Nectar of Eternal Bliss (p275f): " M. (thinking): Who am I? From where have I come? What will happen to me in this lifetime? Where will I go? What will I experience? Only Mother knows, and She knows everything. What human being cares for me even a particle as much as my Divine Mother? She is my true Mother. She has given me my body, mind, vital force and soul. I don't need to know any more than that. If there is something that She wants me to know, She will tell me. Who else cares for me so much? Truly, Mother's children live in unbroken bliss. Outside the Master's room the moonlight was laughing, as it were. Within the room Sri Ramakrishna was sitting immersed in the bliss of divine love. " dear Manya, I hope this helps a little, with love, Henny , " weeshe83 " <weeshe83 wrote: > > Namaste all! > > I've had a little something on my mind so I thought I'd consult the smartest people I could think of! > > I've never been a very decisive person. I over-think everything and I never quite feel like I know the right thing to do. But lately I've been trusting the process of self-realization to take care of it for me. " I don't know what I should be doing now but once I'm living in that state of realization, I'll figure it out. " " I don't know what the best option is but after I figure out the important thing, I'll just know. " For a while, it has given me comfort but I'm beginning to think it might be more of a pipe dream. > > So I'm wondering what you all think. For those of us who are currently householders and seeking realization of the self, how do we make major decisions while we're still seekers? Buying a house or land, having children, getting married, choosing a career, those sorts of things. I suppose there's no point in putting our lives on hold until we figure it all out but it's hard not to feel frozen. I haven't done any of those things yet and I'm afraid of getting latched down to a mortgage or bringing another life into the world if it isn't the best option for the long run. I know we have a wide range of people with a wide range of experience in this group. I would love to hear about everyone's experiences and thoughts. > > Thank you! > Namaste! > > ~Manya > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 28, 2010 Namaste Manya, There is no right answer to your question, as you might have guessed. I would say make a list of all your dreams. You could call these goals or desires. Swami says to do prana pratishta (breathe life) into your dreams everyday. Then figure out whether the mortgage, new life, etc. would aid or obstruct the achievement of these dreams. I recommend reading the workbook by John Maxwell called Dream Map. It would help you better formulate and achieve your dreams. You can get the ebook from Barnes & Noble for $9.99. The principal challenge is social and family pressures which tend to ask you to buy the house, etc. How you deal with these challenges are the test of how strongly believe in your dreams. And of course, pray. Love srini , " weeshe83 " <weeshe83 wrote: > > Namaste all! > > I've had a little something on my mind so I thought I'd consult the smartest people I could think of! > > I've never been a very decisive person. I over-think everything and I never quite feel like I know the right thing to do. But lately I've been trusting the process of self-realization to take care of it for me. " I don't know what I should be doing now but once I'm living in that state of realization, I'll figure it out. " " I don't know what the best option is but after I figure out the important thing, I'll just know. " For a while, it has given me comfort but I'm beginning to think it might be more of a pipe dream. > > So I'm wondering what you all think. For those of us who are currently householders and seeking realization of the self, how do we make major decisions while we're still seekers? Buying a house or land, having children, getting married, choosing a career, those sorts of things. I suppose there's no point in putting our lives on hold until we figure it all out but it's hard not to feel frozen. I haven't done any of those things yet and I'm afraid of getting latched down to a mortgage or bringing another life into the world if it isn't the best option for the long run. I know we have a wide range of people with a wide range of experience in this group. I would love to hear about everyone's experiences and thoughts. > > Thank you! > Namaste! > > ~Manya > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
