Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Ask your husband to do his own socks .....perhaps? Just a suggestion..............Igor. : karen_pckrng: Wed, 13 Jun 2007 14:02:24 +0000Subject: Anger Hi AllCan anyone who has been through more than I please try and help me with this.Today, I have been calm and quiet, my partner got up from bed at lunchtime as hes on nights in work,he started giving out as his socks werent dry yet,my immediate reaction was to give out back,then i felt this explosion of anger,like i could scream my head off,but then i just felt drained,couldnt deal with it,so i left the room,then i got this sick feeling in my belly and now the energy is flying around my body but it feels nervous,i just feel like crying.I did the forgiveness part,hes still mumbling to himself about the socks and all i want to do is run away,can handle the confrontation.Anyone?Karen _______________ Discover the new Windows Vista http://search.msn.com/results.aspx?q=windows+vista & mkt=en-US & form=QBRE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 With the emotional shakti rollercoaster the best you can do is ride it out. Do the alternate nostril breathing to balance and try not to judge yourself too harshly. I went through an anger period quite recently, I wrote about it to the list. Just keep on surrendering and releasing, blowing it out, asking shakti to help you clear it. It's perfectly fine and natural. If my husabnd was moaning about wetsocks and going on about it I would probably do my nut ! I may be sweetness and light but I'm not prone to putting up with peoples whining!!! It's quite liberating actually. I find things don't build up as much, just nip it in the bud. Hope you can enjoy your emotions..... Big loving hug, Elektra x x x _________ Mail is the world's favourite email. Don't settle for less, sign up for your free account today http://uk.rd./evt=44106/*http://uk.docs./mail/winter07.html Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Yeah..seriously! Maybe; " Honey, I've been thinking..and I want to make sure that we each have the clothes we need right when we need them..so lets do our own laundry from now on. " He should not have exploded at you..maybe he's a little under developed..a little immature still. Maybe doing his own laundry will help him to be more thankful and more appreciative, and all together a happier person in life. Umm..not right away, but down the line a little bit. Right away, he'll probably walk around grumbling about how first his socks weren't dry, and now they are not even washed and how he even has to wash them himself, but he will get it eventually. Just tune him out. Be loving, but be strong as well, and don't let him make you feel bad about anything. Love, Tara Igor Alphus <Alphu-s wrote: Ask your husband to do his own socks .....perhaps? Just a suggestion..............Igor. : karen_pckrng: Wed, 13 Jun 2007 14:02:24 +0000Subject: Anger Hi AllCan anyone who has been through more than I please try and help me with this.Today, I have been calm and quiet, my partner got up from bed at lunchtime as hes on nights in work,he started giving out as his socks werent dry yet,my immediate reaction was to give out back,then i felt this explosion of anger,like i could scream my head off,but then i just felt drained,couldnt deal with it,so i left the room,then i got this sick feeling in my belly and now the energy is flying around my body but it feels nervous,i just feel like crying.I did the forgiveness part,hes still mumbling to himself about the socks and all i want to do is run away,can handle the confrontation.Anyone?Karen ________ Discover the new Windows Vista http://search.msn.com/results.aspx?q=windows+vista & mkt=en-US & form=QBRE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Karen, I'm sorry. Well, be strong, first of all. Forgive not only others, but yourself as well! Shine the light that you have inside of you towards him. Wet socks is such a small thing ... try to step outside of the situation and observe what is going on, instead of being a participant. Let him whine I guess, but, realize it is not 'your' fault that the darn socks were still wet. Just tell him that you love him. (as hard as it may be to say it at this time) It is his choice to be angry. It is also your choice if you get angry..so, you can re-direct your anger into something positive. Blessings, Leslie , " Karen Pickering " <karen_pckrng wrote: > > Hi All > Can anyone who has been through more than I please try and help me > with this. > Today, I have been calm and quiet, my partner got up from bed at > lunchtime as hes on nights in work,he started giving out as his socks > werent dry yet,my immediate reaction was to give out back,then i felt > this explosion of anger,like i could scream my head off,but then i > just felt drained,couldnt deal with it,so i left the room,then i got > this sick feeling in my belly and now the energy is flying around my > body but it feels nervous,i just feel like crying. > I did the forgiveness part,hes still mumbling to himself about the > socks and all i want to do is run away,can handle the confrontation. > Anyone? > Karen > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Thank you Elektra, In the end I just sat down and asked for help,tiredness just washed over me and I closed my eyes,I let is pass.......felt better after it, Im all outve silly bickering,not able for it anymore,its like a lid has been placed over it and it dont seem important anymore. , Elektra Fire <elektra.fire wrote: > > With the emotional shakti rollercoaster the best you > can do is ride it out. Do the alternate nostril > breathing to balance and try not to judge yourself too > harshly. > I went through an anger period quite recently, I wrote > about it to the list. Just keep on surrendering and > releasing, blowing it out, asking shakti to help you > clear it. > It's perfectly fine and natural. > If my husabnd was moaning about wetsocks and going on > about it I would probably do my nut ! I may be > sweetness and light but I'm not prone to putting up > with peoples whining!!! It's quite liberating > actually. > I find things don't build up as much, just nip it in > the bud. > > Hope you can enjoy your emotions..... > Big loving hug, > Elektra x x x > > > _________ > Mail is the world's favourite email. Don't settle for less, sign up for > your free account today http://uk.rd./evt=44106/*http://uk.docs./mail/winte r07.html > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Guys,LOL,the washing is not an issue,we both share that chore,lol,he was just grumpy.......my issue was how i felt when i responded with anger back at him,i can usually hold a corner in an argument with him but what i was looking at were the feelings that accompanied it...... hee hee,he wouldnt get away with being a lazybones in my house.... thanks for the support anyway.... luv Karen , tara jacoby <tjmassage7777 wrote: > > Yeah..seriously! > Maybe; > " Honey, I've been thinking..and I want to make sure that we each > have the clothes we need right when we need them..so lets > do our own laundry from now on. " > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Thank you Leslie, Im sure i will get a handle on dealing with even the most minor conflicts,its the complete opposite to how i used to feel,the anger left me quite quickley and i just felt exasperated. Kundalini-Awakening-Systems- 1 , " i_ama_lighthouse " <i_ama_lighthouse wrote: > > Karen, > > I'm sorry. > > Well, be strong, first of all. Forgive not only others, but yourself as > well! Shine the light that you have inside of you towards him. Wet > socks is such a small thing ... try to step outside of the situation > and observe what is going on, instead of being a participant. Let him > whine I guess, but, realize it is not 'your' fault that the darn socks > were still wet. Just tell him that you love him. (as hard as it may > be to say it at this time) It is his choice to be angry. It is also > your choice if you get angry..so, you can re-direct your anger into > something positive. > > Blessings, > Leslie > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Karen, Its good that you can see the difference in yourself!Keep on keepin on! Blessings, Leslie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Hug, Karen. K magnifies things, so even the smallest tinge of annoyance can flare into a bonfire. Be gentle with yourself, and others. If you can see the humor in things that will help a lot. Getting bent out of shape over wet socks can be kind of funny, yes? If the emotions get really intense, put on some music and dance intensely...get lost in the dance and channel the energy into fun. Hope that helps. Love, dhyana --- Karen Pickering <karen_pckrng wrote: > Hi All > Can anyone who has been through more than I please > try and help me > with this. > Today, I have been calm and quiet, my partner got up > from bed at > lunchtime as hes on nights in work,he started giving > out as his socks > werent dry yet,my immediate reaction was to give out > back,then i felt > this explosion of anger,like i could scream my head > off,but then i > just felt drained,couldnt deal with it,so i left the > room,then i got > this sick feeling in my belly and now the energy is > flying around my > body but it feels nervous,i just feel like crying. > I did the forgiveness part,hes still mumbling to > himself about the > socks and all i want to do is run away,can handle > the confrontation. > Anyone? > Karen > > ______________________________\ ____ Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. http://videogames./platform?platform=120121 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Yes Dyhana, Dancing most DEFINITLY helps,myself and my daughter spend time each day singing into hairbrushes and dancing to our hearts content, I have a beautiful piece of music by a man i know who is a channel, spirit channels music through him,its called the Fairy Ring and its so relaxing.Humour too, is very important, i agree. Thank you Karen , novalees <Novalees wrote: > > Hug, Karen. K magnifies things, so even the smallest > tinge of annoyance can flare into a bonfire. Be gentle > with yourself, and others. If you can see the humor in > things that will help a lot. Getting bent out of shape > over wet socks can be kind of funny, yes? If the > emotions get really intense, put on some music and > dance intensely...get lost in the dance and channel > the energy into fun. Hope that helps. Love, dhyana > > > --- Karen Pickering <karen_pckrng wrote: > > > Hi All > > Can anyone who has been through more than I please > > try and help me > > with this. > > Today, I have been calm and quiet, my partner got up > > from bed at > > lunchtime as hes on nights in work,he started giving > > out as his socks > > werent dry yet,my immediate reaction was to give out > > back,then i felt > > this explosion of anger,like i could scream my head > > off,but then i > > just felt drained,couldnt deal with it,so i left the > > room,then i got > > this sick feeling in my belly and now the energy is > > flying around my > > body but it feels nervous,i just feel like crying. > > I did the forgiveness part,hes still mumbling to > > himself about the > > socks and all i want to do is run away,can handle > > the confrontation. > > Anyone? > > Karen > > > > > > > > > ___________________ _______________ > Be a PS3 game guru. > Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. > http://videogames./platform?platform=120121 > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 karen, I experienced this in 2000. It felt like a huge zap...it was my husband at the time impuning my integrity about money. I was zapped so hard...i couldn't stand anylonger and went to my bed and slept for two day. I see it now as an anger that had built up in me and was held in my body for many years (we were married for 17 years) and it needed to come up and out as it was destroying my liver at that time...(my liver was destroyed...4th stage of cirrhosis and I was dying) This I feel is a natural response of the kundalini cleansing my body of one of those things that it needed to let go of...the force of it was strong...but then...the pent up anger was strong. I would just send love and forgiveness to your companion on the inner level...and allow all to heal over. It won't take long... Adina Sick sense of humor? Visit TV's Comedy with an Edge to see what's on, when. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Igor, You are so funny...I just couldn't stop laughing at your response to Karen.. Adina Now that's room service! Choose from over 150,000 hotels in 45,000 destinations on Travel to find your fit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Karen, When you go back to the argument, you might ask yourself whether it was worth it to send angry words to your husband over a pair of socks. You will likely feel that it just simply was not worth it. Anger pretty much starts in your head, and sometimes we repeat angry nasty things over and over again. The key is catching ourselves doing this. When we become aware of what we are thinking, we can begin to stop it. If you catch yourself thinking over and over again about angry things, you can stop yourself. This can be difficult. It is better not to live in anger, however. You might have a positive saying that you say over and over in your head, so that you become aware of what you are thinking. When your mind wanders back to the anger, force it back to the positive statement. It helps greatly! Peace, Shankari Kali Don't get soaked. Take a quick peak at the forecast with the Search weather shortcut. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 To react in anger over the " sock argument " or something as horrible as the killing of a loved one will cause dangerous reactions. I wonder how many deadly arguements started over a matter as simple as wet socks? The topic of an argument is not the problem---it's the anger. Anger can be distilled with practice. I was a very -very angry young man. I justified it often enough; but I couldn't justify the results of my anger. It took years, but I slowly learned to drop the nastier effects of my own controlling mind (referred to as " Ego " in the Far East). You can't change others, but it's wonderful when you discover the power of controlling your own reactions. You then enter a peaceful world (and the Nasty Vacations from this world get further and further apart). :) SC , Shankari Kali <shankari_kali wrote: > > Karen, > > When you go back to the argument, you might ask yourself whether it was worth it to send angry words to your husband over a pair of socks. You will likely feel that it just simply was not worth it. > > Anger pretty much starts in your head, and sometimes we repeat angry nasty things over and over again. The key is catching ourselves doing this. When we become aware of what we are thinking, we can begin to stop it. If you catch yourself thinking over and over again about angry things, you can stop yourself. This can be difficult. It is better not to live in anger, however. > > You might have a positive saying that you say over and over in your head, so that you become aware of what you are thinking. When your mind wanders back to the anger, force it back to the positive statement. It helps greatly! > > Peace, > Shankari Kali > > > > > > Don't get soaked. Take a quick peak at the forecast > with the Search weather shortcut. > > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Stephen AKA Master Condrey wrote: >You can't change others, but it's wonderful when you discover the >power of controlling your own reactions. You then enter a peaceful >world (and the Nasty Vacations from this world get further and >further apart). > > Stephen, Can you elaborate on how you overcame anger? As near as I can see in the present, this is hands down my biggest issue to face. Just the other day I was driving home from the store with my daughter, talking about spiritual matters and how I was trying to better myself, overcoming anger and learning to forgive. Suddenly a woman pulls right in front of me without looking, and in half a heart beat, I'm yelling " effin Moron! " Then sheepishly look at my daughter, who is laughing at me, and explain this was a good example how hard it can be.... Would be most interested in what techniques you used to deal with your anger. Thank you, Jon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Stephen-- Well put. You have to learn to control your reactions, and realize that you are the one who reacts. The other person does not force you to do this. Learning to control reactions takes time, and plenty of meditation. It also requires awareness of oneself. Great Post. Peace, Shankari Kali Stephen AKA Master Condrey <stephencondrey wrote: To react in anger over the " sock argument " or something as horrible as the killing of a loved one will cause dangerous reactions. I wonder how many deadly arguements started over a matter as simple as wet socks? The topic of an argument is not the problem---it's the anger. Anger can be distilled with practice. I was a very -very angry young man. I justified it often enough; but I couldn't justify the results of my anger. It took years, but I slowly learned to drop the nastier effects of my own controlling mind (referred to as " Ego " in the Far East). You can't change others, but it's wonderful when you discover the power of controlling your own reactions. You then enter a peaceful world (and the Nasty Vacations from this world get further and further apart). :) SC -- Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Games. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 LMAO! I am not laughing at you Jon, but with you. I think it's happened to us all. I also think that we are constantly being tested to see if we can reign it in or if we wallow in it like a pig in...you know. Sarita , Jon Anderson <janders1957 wrote: Suddenly a woman pulls right in front of me without looking, and in half a heart beat, I'm > yelling " effin Moron! " > Then sheepishly look at my daughter, who is laughing at me, and explain > this was a > good example how hard it can be.... > > Would be most interested in what techniques you used to deal with your > anger. > > Thank you, > > Jon > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 13, 2007 Well thank you i'm glad you found it funny. Anything for a laugh Eh! Igor. : whitefeatherprincess: Wed, 13 Jun 2007 12:27:01 -0700Subject: Re: Anger Igor,You are so funny...I just couldn't stop laughing at your response to Karen..AdinaNow that's room service! Choose from over 150,000 hotels in 45,000 destinations on Travel to find your fit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 14, 2007 Jon, I used to be the same way. The slightest infraction on the road and the reptilian portion of my brain kicked in. Then I don't know why I realized I do the same to others not on purpose but because of inatention, distraction or other reasons. when I realized that I ended up laughing when cut off and at other infractions while driving. It's much better than carrying the incident in my head all day. John Colanzi ______________________________\ ____ Take the Internet to Go: Go puts the Internet in your pocket: mail, news, photos & more. http://mobile./go?refer=1GNXIC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 14, 2007 Hi, I'm late to the thread but thought I'd share a few reflections on how I deal with anger... Some time ago I noticed that when something or someone triggers my anger, I feel it in my body during and immediately afterwards. If I scan my body to see how I'm feeling there will be a place of tightness, pain, ache, or hurt. An emotional " sore spot " . It's not always in the same place. It may be in my back, my liver (Chinese Traditional Medicine believes that anger is stored in and harms the liver) or elsewhere, but I can usually locate it if I look for it. If I can focus on this location with loving understanding and compassion it usually brings me back into balance and helps to release some of the energy that is contained in the reservoir of blocked anger that I may have stuffed down in the past. Sometimes it takes longer than others but I try and stick with this observing/compassion until it clears. This is not about suppressing it out of guilt but rather just observing and releasing pent up energy. Its the opposite of storing anger. I'm not a master of this yet (I'm an Aries/Pisces cusp, heh), but I used to suppress stuff all the time which resulted in me holding grudges way longer than was reasonable or appropriate. That road is self-destructive and plays havoc with your mental, physical and emotional health. It also guarantees further flareups down the road. After doing this for a while I started to notice the feeling before the flareup. Its a pre-verbal signal that my " anger valve " is about to blow. Just being able to notice this objectively has prevented me lashing out more than a few times saving myself and others from further pain. These days if I'm particularly irritable when I get up I try to run an emotional/physical scan and look for the " sore spot " and gently and compassionately ask it to relax and release. I find that this helps get my day going in the right direction. The Gratitudes that Chrism has given us help in this too if done at the beginning of your day. I even prepare myself for future events by imagining how I'll feel if I miss that bus say, and deal with it ahead of time. This works with other button pushers too and its interesting to observe the body's reactions to these imaginary situations. There are always challenges and you DO need stand in truth and strength when appropriate but its easier to do when there isn't an anger reservoir waiting to burst all the time. Remembering that others have pent up emotions from the past goes a long way too. Peace, g. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 23, 2009 I had a lot of pelvic floor fluttering yesterday with cold chills running up my spine and alot of cold fluttering behind my heart. When I saw my last client, I felt such intense anger and heat that I was trying to act professional yet felt this intense feeling inside. As much as i tried to calm myself, it lasted the entire time she was there. I've been trying to sort through what was going on. I'm not even sure if the feeling was mine. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Blessings, Jan Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 23, 2009 This is my first post here. I have been lurking for some time and I found this list very useful and interesting. My awakening started (not consciously looked for) during last summer, but I realized of this fact only in november. I had very bad days in which I felt like a torch and in which I had to work with other people. The main question was " why am I here? there is not reason at all " . My head forced me to stay and my heart wanted me away. On that occasion I felt really angry. I was conscious that the only reason for the anger was that I was convinced I were loosing time with something that had nothing to do with my inner life. lol Grifomelo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 23, 2009 This is my first post here. I have been lurking for some time and I found this list very useful and interesting. My awakening started (not consciously looked for) during last summer, but I realized of this fact only in november. I had very bad days in which I felt like a torch and in which I had to work with other people. The main question was " why am I here? there is not reason at all " . My head forced me to stay and my heart wanted me away. On that occasion I felt really angry. I was conscious that the only reason for the anger was that I was convinced I were loosing time with something that had nothing to do with my inner life. lol Grifomelo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted January 22, 2010 Sat Kaur Khalsa's Kundaini Yoga book has kriyas for releasing anger. There are at least two. Sat nam, Jagatjeet Kaur Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
