Guest guest Report post Posted June 16, 2004 Ladies and gentlemen: We do not want conflits here. Right? so please do not post too much criticism. And the way out is not to respond to criticism that you think is uncalled for. Jus smile and get along please. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 16, 2004 Sometimes it is necessary to respond to criticism by standing up for oneself or others. This way of dealing with criticism is not about doing battle, nor about looking for a way out, but about creating a space for respectful communication, even when there are differences. This can, in my opinion, prevent "explosions" by alleviating the pressure of misunderstandings as they occur. , sankara menon <kochu1tz> wrote: > Ladies and gentlemen: > > We do not want conflits here. Right? so please do not post too much criticism. And the way out is not to respond to criticism that you think is uncalled for. Jus smile and get along please. > > > > Tired of spam? Mail has the best spam protection around > > > Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 16, 2004 Mary Ann wrote:Sometimes it is necessary to respond to criticism by standing up for oneself or others. This way of dealing with criticism is not about doing battle, nor about looking for a way out, but about creating a space for respectful communication, even when there are differences. This can, in my opinion, prevent "explosions" by alleviating the pressure of misunderstandings as they occur. Perhaps it is one of the ways Mary Ann. Eventually one will have to decide to give away. Giving away and being silence does not mean that you are wrong but a noble way to do. This is what I think. The Problem is when people do not know the limits. Continue to argue unendlessly. It is very distracting to others especially when you are in a public forum and they do not realise it. They should take it up privately. Are you strong enough to create that so called space? Can you control when that space starts to get wider and wider? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest guest Report post Posted June 16, 2004 I am not sure what you are asking. Do you mean allowing space for people to treat each other hurtfully? Certainly, the world over, this space exists. There is a man named Monty Roberts who is a "horse whisperer." He has tuned into the way horses raise their young, and utilizes what he has learned in his training method called "gentling," rather than "breaking" (the traditional way of horse training). Monty observed that when a young horse exhibits anti-social behavior (nipping or other behavior that hurts other horses) its mother shuns it and runs it outside of the circle of the social group. Eventually, through a long process, the youngster is let back into the social group, after several go-rounds of being put out and welcomed back, and the hurtful behavior is curbed. In human society, I think we have come to tolerate a lot of anti-social behavior without proper "gentling," whether it's in public spiritual formats, or other arenas. Am I misunderstanding you, or do you feel this is addressing your question? , "N. Madasamy" <ashwini_puralasamy> wrote: > Mary Ann wrote:Sometimes it is necessary to respond to criticism by > standing up for oneself or others. This way of dealing with criticism > is not about doing battle, nor about looking for a way out, but about > creating a space for respectful communication, even when there are > differences. This can, in my opinion, prevent "explosions" by > alleviating the pressure of misunderstandings as they occur. > > Perhaps it is one of the ways Mary Ann. Eventually one will have to > decide to give away. Giving away and being silence does not mean that > you are wrong but a noble way to do. This is what I think. The > Problem is when people do not know the limits. Continue to argue > unendlessly. It is very distracting to others especially when you are > in a public forum and they do not realise it. They should take it up > privately. > > Are you strong enough to create that so called space? Can you control > when that space starts to get wider and wider? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
