Dear Shriram,
Here is a couple things I recommend. Someimes, god gives us situations that help us to grow. Looking back, you would thank god for providing you the opportunity to learn and work tings out.
Start a heart to heart dialog with your wife and find out why she is doing what she is doing. It is not going to be easy to start this dialog, but, approach it a fresh look. Ask yourself if you can change your attitude and work things out. Things may not always be what you want it to be, but the alternative could be worse. It could mean you would need to change somethings about yourself. Shed your ego for your own benefit and change. Change is good. When she sees the sincerity from your end, I am positive your wife will also change her attitude over a period of time. Keep your options open.
Recite Durga saptashati or start learning to recite it and learn the meanings along the way. This helps transform your feelings to positive thinking and helps surrender yourself and your ego to the divine. Once you do this you should be least worried about what she could be doing to hurt you. The Devi will take care of everything once you surrender yourself completely to her. The combination of these two will definitely yeild results. Remember there is always two sides to a situation. When you can see this with clarity, you would realize how easy it is to over come them.
