Your experience of love will be yours alone, it cannot be understood by me. Hate is an reaction born out of fear it is not an emotion opposite to Love.
A dog bites, he doesn't hate. The dog perceives fear and reacts.
A human being physically harms another, if we delve deep into his psyche it will be the same; a perception of fear which leads to a violent reaction.
Love Joy Anger and Fear are our primary emotions as beings.
As Human beings we have a multitude of reactions which we perceive through the primary emotions; A Guru, an experience, meditative contemplation and seeking lead to an understanding of the deeper meanings of these basic emotions. We learn to understand our reactions and our true emotions.
What we learn is eventually for us and by us. Yes, experiential learning is the best teacher.