Mothers... an offshoot into OT! Chanda

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yeah for you with the car.......never stop giving and it will always come back

to you.........really!

 

Chanda/Maria <puterwitch wrote:Jiraph, I am sorry, but you made me

laugh my butt off about the Christmas part. I know it's not funny, but that

shocking line threw me off my chair.

My mom was not the worst. I love her dearly and she loves me. She would give her

left arm for me. She loves me dearly. It's just that she is so jealous of anyone

and everyone. If she sees me give my mother in law a hug she will burn up

inside. If she sees anything anyone has bought my daughter she insists that

their only motive is that they are trying to " show her up " she attacks anyone

that is close to me. This makes it so hard to carry on a relationship with her.

I love her,a nd sometimes we can talk and I enjoy talking with her and vise

versa, but he jealousy thing has caused me much pain my whole life. (not to

mention the fact she would stand there and be ok with my father beating us with

a belt) but then again, that was ages ago. She is good hearted with my sister

and me and would give us anything, but she is not so good hearted with other

people. I was helping to raise a little boy who is now 17 years old. back then

when he was 9 and on up he would stay with me for weeks at a

time. (his parents were going through a drug program and are now doing very

well and raising him nicely) but at the time he needed us, and my mom would

complain that I was an idiot for letting him eat up all our food and I would

never " get anything back " everything is tit for tat.

Well, a day came when I was down on my luck, new job and no car to get there.

Didn't know what I as gonna do, I was a single mom and all. out of the blue

there was this woman who was GIVING AWAY a car to someone who needed it, and

voila! car was mine for free. nice car too. I told my mom, " see, I DID get it

back, because God was watching what I did, and rewarded me " so there

ppffftthhhhhht!! LOL

Blessings,

Chanda

 

 

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Jiraph Wirpel

Sunday, March 27, 2005 7:37 AM

Re: Re: Mothers... an offshoot into OT!

 

 

 

Hum...

I don't want to just say " mothers! " Mine was above

and beyond exasperating!

 

My mother could only feel good about herelf by putting

other people down. I was one of her favorite people

to put down!

 

When I was in my 20s, and took care of friends' kids,

she'd tell me I wasn't responsible! Wasn't

responsible!?? I was " responsible " enough to be on

call my entire life to drop whatever I was doing to

come rescue her from her crisis-of-the-moment!

 

And she had her crisises! She'd call me in the

evening, to tell me she'd fallen earlier that day in a

parking lot. She wanted me to be there to rescue her!

Had she been using her cane, I asked. " No. "

But my favorite crisis was when she called me, all sad

and depressed, from a hospital. It was Christmas, she

moaned, and she was in the hospital. I reminded her

that WE ARE JEWISH!

But then... I went into the Orthodox Jewish part of

town to find an open store. I bought her a blue

Star-of-David sun-catcher. Brought it to her, in the

hospital, " for Christmas! " Did she thank me? Of

course not! She just k'vetched (complained)!

 

She's dead, now.

 

I remember asking her for her pea soup recipe. She

refused, saing I couldn't afford the ingredients!

 

Humph!

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Don't stress over it, she loves you in her own odd

way, I'll bet she will be excited inside that you want

to share her recipe, what do you think? Maybe?

 

 

 

 

" The cat did not respond. She did not believe in paraphrasing anybody. If

people pursued this same feline wisdom, there'd be a lot fewer

misunderstandings. "

From Kinky Friedman's

Meanwhile, Back at the Ranch

 

 

 

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