Guest guest Posted December 18, 2005 Report Share Posted December 18, 2005 i need yous all advice on this. please read the attachment Elizabeth Elizabeth <a href= " http://lilypie.com " ><img src= " http://lilypie.com/pic/050911/9mrf.jpg " alt= " Lilypie Baby Pic " border= " 0 " /><img src= " http://b4.lilypie.com/mg5Up2 " alt= " Lilypie Baby Ticker " border= " 0 " /></a> ---------- Ok, I need yous all advice. As some of you know, my son and I are vegetarians. We are stationed in Italy, and my son currently attends the American DODDS school. His classroom policy is the kids can not bring a packed lunch to school-and they have to eat whats on the school menu. Well, just about EVERY day, the menu has a meat dish (like today is Hamburgers, tommorow is Spaggetti with meat sauce etc). I have aleady asked his teachers not to give him meat (no problem there) however, he misses out on eating b/c he gets the side dishes (which often are meat based-like baked beans and rice with pork) and he comes home hungry. I talked to tha Cafeteria manager and he said unless i get a doctors note saying he can not have meat there is nothing i can do (i cant order a differnt a la carte item). SO i went to our priest (we are Roman Catholic) and he said that i should contact the ADC (area defence counsol-aka JAG). SO i did. And he wasnt much help either. He said my rights are not being violated (b/c its not a relious reason why we are veg.) and he said that the school will see it that i am pushing my belifs on my son and not taking his health into consideration. Which is bunk, b/c my son is healthy. and he said that the school and nurses and child services will look at this like neglect. So, i wonder WHY is the gov. like this? I mean I support the military and I support democracy...BUT since when is FREEDOM of choice not allowed? I can choose to have an abortion, I can choose to practace my religion, heck i can CHOOSE who i want to marry and I can CHOOSE who i want my gov officals to be. I can vote, I can fire a gun, if i wanted i could get a hunting licence (which i dont want-just making my point) and i can join the military and volunteer to go to Iraq. But i cannot choose what my family eats? THAT IS CRAP. I should not have to do all this. If it were for a religious reason, i would have the constitution behnd me 100%...but b/c i choose to be a veg. for ethical and health reasons??? There are Catholics who are veg. there is an entire congigation of monks who are vegan...the Bible says " THOU SHALL NOT KILL " ...But I do this b.c i want to be healthier and i want my son to be healthy. SO- what should i do? Elizabeth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2005 Report Share Posted December 18, 2005 Dear Elizabeth, I'm so sorry to hear that you are having this treatment from the officials. Also it stinks that your son is the one that really suffers. I'd contact a Dr. in the states and then have them send a note to the effect that your son cannot eat meat. Something to the effect of his body doesn't produce the enzymes to digest these products. That is true, since his body is used to eating veg ... In our state, they are not allowed to ask us what our religion is, so we have it a bit easier. Please keep me posted. Peace, Laura veggiemama05 writes: ..But I do this b.c i want to be healthier and i want my son to be healthy. SO- what should i do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 Elizabeth, What a nightmare!! I definitely agree with you. I wish I knew more about cases like this. Hopefully someone in this group has good advice. Jenny --- Elizabeth Ster <veggiemama05 wrote: > i need yous all advice on this. please read the > attachment > > Elizabeth > > > > Elizabeth > <a href= " http://lilypie.com " ><img > src= " http://lilypie.com/pic/050911/9mrf.jpg " > alt= " Lilypie Baby Pic " border= " 0 " /><img > src= " http://b4.lilypie.com/mg5Up2 " alt= " Lilypie Baby > Ticker " border= " 0 " /></a> > > > > > > Tired of spam? Mail has the best spam > protection around > > ---------- > > Ok, I need yous all advice. As some of you know, my > son and I are vegetarians. We are stationed in > Italy, and my son currently attends the American > DODDS school. His classroom policy is the kids can > not bring a packed lunch to school-and they have to > eat whats on the school menu. Well, just about > EVERY day, the menu has a meat dish (like today is > Hamburgers, tommorow is Spaggetti with meat sauce > etc). I have aleady asked his teachers not to give > him meat (no problem there) however, he misses out > on eating b/c he gets the side dishes (which often > are meat based-like baked beans and rice with pork) > and he comes home hungry. I talked to tha Cafeteria > manager and he said unless i get a doctors note > saying he can not have meat there is nothing i can > do (i cant order a differnt a la carte item). SO i > went to our priest (we are Roman Catholic) and he > said that i should contact the ADC (area defence > counsol-aka JAG). SO i did. And he wasnt much help > either. He said my rights are not being violated > (b/c its not a relious reason why we are veg.) and > he said that the school will see it that i am > pushing my belifs on my son and not taking his > health into consideration. Which is bunk, b/c my > son is healthy. and he said that the school and > nurses and child services will look at this like > neglect. > So, i wonder WHY is the gov. like this? I mean I > support the military and I support democracy...BUT > since when is FREEDOM of choice not allowed? I can > choose to have an abortion, I can choose to practace > my religion, heck i can CHOOSE who i want to marry > and I can CHOOSE who i want my gov officals to be. > I can vote, I can fire a gun, if i wanted i could > get a hunting licence (which i dont want-just making > my point) and i can join the military and volunteer > to go to Iraq. But i cannot choose what my family > eats? THAT IS CRAP. I should not have to do all > this. If it were for a religious reason, i would > have the constitution behnd me 100%...but b/c i > choose to be a veg. for ethical and health > reasons??? There are Catholics who are veg. there > is an entire congigation of monks who are > vegan...the Bible says " THOU SHALL NOT KILL " ...But I > do this b.c i want to be healthier and i want my son > to be healthy. > > SO- what should i do? > > Elizabeth > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 Elizabeth, You ARE doing this for religious reasons. Your religion is such that you need to do what you believe is healthiest - being veg. Just because not everyone who shares your religion in name believes this (and even if every priest disagrees with you) doesn't mean you aren't valid in interpreting your religion that way. If you don't understand what I'm getting at, I can elaborate, but because I've time constraints, I'm keeping it simple above. Best Wishes, Allison , Elizabeth Ster <veggiemama05> wrote: > > i need yous all advice on this. please read the attachment > > Elizabeth > > > > Elizabeth > <a href= " http://lilypie.com " ><img src= " http://lilypie.com/pic/050911/9mrf.jpg " alt= " Lilypie Baby Pic " border= " 0 " /><img src= " http://b4.lilypie.com/mg5Up2 " alt= " Lilypie Baby Ticker " border= " 0 " /></a> > > > > > > > > ---------- > > Ok, I need yous all advice. As some of you know, my son and I are vegetarians. We are stationed in Italy, and my son currently attends the American DODDS school. His classroom policy is the kids can not bring a packed lunch to school-and they have to eat whats on the school menu. Well, just about EVERY day, the menu has a meat dish (like today is Hamburgers, tommorow is Spaggetti with meat sauce etc). I have aleady asked his teachers not to give him meat (no problem there) however, he misses out on eating b/c he gets the side dishes (which often are meat based-like baked beans and rice with pork) and he comes home hungry. I talked to tha Cafeteria manager and he said unless i get a doctors note saying he can not have meat there is nothing i can do (i cant order a differnt a la carte item). SO i went to our priest (we are Roman Catholic) and he said that i should contact the ADC (area defence counsol-aka JAG). SO i did. And he wasnt much help either. He said my rights are not being violated (b/c its not a relious reason why we are veg.) and he said that the school will see it that i am pushing my belifs on my son and not taking his health into consideration. Which is bunk, b/c my son is healthy. and he said that the school and nurses and child services will look at this like neglect. > So, i wonder WHY is the gov. like this? I mean I support the military and I support democracy...BUT since when is FREEDOM of choice not allowed? I can choose to have an abortion, I can choose to practace my religion, heck i can CHOOSE who i want to marry and I can CHOOSE who i want my gov officals to be. I can vote, I can fire a gun, if i wanted i could get a hunting licence (which i dont want-just making my point) and i can join the military and volunteer to go to Iraq. But i cannot choose what my family eats? THAT IS CRAP. I should not have to do all this. If it were for a religious reason, i would have the constitution behnd me 100%...but b/c i choose to be a veg. for ethical and health reasons??? There are Catholics who are veg. there is an entire congigation of monks who are vegan...the Bible says " THOU SHALL NOT KILL " ...But I do this b.c i want to be healthier and i want my son to be healthy. > > SO- what should i do? > > Elizabeth > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2005 Report Share Posted December 20, 2005 Elizabeth, One of Merriam Webster's definitions of the word religion, though not the traditionally thought of definition is: " a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith " . The word faith is defined as: " sincerity of intentions " and " something that is believed especially with strong conviction " . Another of Merriam Webster's definitions of the word religion is: " a personal set or institutionalized system of religious attitudes, beliefs, and practices . " The word religious is defined as: " scrupulously and conscientiously faithful " . And another: " scrupulous conformity: conscientiousness " Synonyms for the word religious are given in Merriam Webster as: " fervent " and " zealous " . I think your practice or commitment to veg*nism fits here pretty well. Most people think of the word religion meaning the worship of a god or deity of some kind and that is the widely accepted definition. However, that isn't the only definition. Maybe you can do something with this. As far as the neglect part goes, arm yourself with knowledge. Being one who has been investigated by DCF for feeding my children a vegan diet, I found that my best defense was a good offense. I have always made sure I knew about the nutritional requirements for my children and the nutritional values of the foods I feed them and am constantly trying to learn more. I referred the social worker to different web sites (the VRG website was one of them) and gave her titles of several books I refer to quite frequently. In short, I knew more about nutrition than she did as well as the doctors she conferred with. When they checked out all of my resources, they found that feeding my kids a vegan diet was not neglect in any way. The fact that my kids were in good health and growing well didn't hurt either. Good Luck. God's Peace, Gayle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2005 Report Share Posted December 21, 2005 Elizabeth, I have to jump on the religion bandwagon here. I don't follow an organized religion, but I think in this situation I would use this word and the protection that our laws afford to my advantage. I was really ANGRY when I read your first message about this issue, and I wish you the very best in what is undoubtedly an extremely frustrating situation!! Peace, Melissa , <quintmom@n...> wrote: > > > Elizabeth, > One of Merriam Webster's definitions of the word religion, though not the > traditionally thought of definition is: " a cause, principle, or system of > beliefs held to with ardor and faith " . The word faith is defined as: > " sincerity of intentions " and " something that is believed especially with > strong conviction " . Another of Merriam Webster's definitions of the word > religion is: " a personal set or institutionalized system of religious > attitudes, beliefs, and practices . " The word religious is defined as: > " scrupulously and conscientiously faithful " . And another: " scrupulous > conformity: conscientiousness " Synonyms for the word religious are given in > Merriam Webster as: " fervent " and " zealous " . I think your practice or > commitment to veg*nism fits here pretty well. Most people think of the word > religion meaning the worship of a god or deity of some kind and that is the > widely accepted definition. However, that isn't the only definition. Maybe > you can do something with this. > > As far as the neglect part goes, arm yourself with knowledge. Being one who > has been investigated by DCF for feeding my children a vegan diet, I found > that my best defense was a good offense. I have always made sure I knew > about the nutritional requirements for my children and the nutritional > values of the foods I feed them and am constantly trying to learn more. I > referred the social worker to different web sites (the VRG website was one > of them) and gave her titles of several books I refer to quite frequently. > In short, I knew more about nutrition than she did as well as the doctors > she conferred with. When they checked out all of my resources, they found > that feeding my kids a vegan diet was not neglect in any way. The fact that > my kids were in good health and growing well didn't hurt either. Good Luck. > > God's Peace, > Gayle > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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