Guest guest Posted July 15, 2002 Report Share Posted July 15, 2002 Lesley wrote >are pretty > lively and wear us both out. I know other parents like Angie who had to > (understandably) cut right back on activism when their kids were young, but > you seem to go on and on and on like the Duracell Bunny! > I want to get the balance right, and feel a little envious that you seem so > capable with organisation of your life. Well all I can say is our lifestyle works for us- there's no set guidelines to who does what or anything- we both pursue our own intersts. I don't go to the pub that much- if I do (probably once every couple of weeks) it's usually with Debby- Chloe babysits, she is 16- so that's our vegan baby sitter problem solved...). Once every couple of months or so I go to a local quiz night which tends to be a bit of a 'bloke thing'. debby isn't interested in coming to that. our other kids arn't that small (4, 9 & 11) so make there own entertainment much of the time, they are usually playing with each other so it's not like they've got to be 'looked after' all the time. They all get loads of 'quality time' from both of us tho... I go away for the odd weekend or day now and then. Sometimes it's paid work (eg teaching a bit of permaculture or something- not much but it helps...) It's not like it's every weekend. i just fit stuff in- there's no 'golden rules' to follow... we just do what works for us.... As for the compost toilet course, I owe Crass (the band/people) alot. Doing this project was giving something back, and will hopefully help open up their home as a centre for many positive uses by increasing the capacity of the number of people who can use the place for courses, workshops, gatherings, etc... > you seemed to have it all so sorted, I was hoping for some tips for us, Ha! me sorted??? that's a laugh! I do too much. not as much as I used to, because following counselling after I made myself ill from stress and had 3 months off work I recognised that basically i'm an 'actvity addict' so let go of alot things, like running the local LETS group. At the end of the day, 'doing stuff' is better than watching telly in the evening. One thing we've agreed is that I spend too much time on the internet. i'm going to cut back on the groups I to- there's alot of unhealthy energies flowing around these groups at the moment anyway.... maybe I'll duck out of here for a while. > Just don't know who else to ask for advice, that's all. fair enough but there was no need to be judgemental and attacking. It's not about how much time you you have but the qualirty of how you use it. I'd advise reading some time mangement books. Steven Covey's 'First Things First' is a good one. As is his '7 habits Of Highly effective people'. Borrow them from the library and give them a try. Graham Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2002 Report Share Posted July 16, 2002 Thanks for explaining how it works for you, and sorry I was mean, it was partly jealousy talking. The key difference is that we don't have a babysitter these days who can look after all our three kids, except on the odd occasion we are in Cheshire with relatives and they can babysit, which is not often at all. Our local babysitter (and she is not veggie) reckons she can't cope with a baby with her back trouble, so we have mostly no-one to leave Lucy with at all. All the vegan potential babysitters it seems live far away and none of the vegans or veggies near us are at all willing to do it. We do manage to do the vegan families thing about 4 times a year, it's something anyway. I've not been to the library for ages, but those books sound like a good suggestion. I don't watch much TV anyway, Paul watches more than I do and I definitely do too much chatting on . If I want to go to something in an evening it's difficult because Paul works in London and is not home very early, usually a little too late for me to have time to get to any meeting or anything in time. I hope you don't leave these groups completely, wouldn't want to lose you, you have a lot to contribute of value IMO. Lesley quercusrobur2002 [grahamburnett]15 July 2002 22:26 Subject: Time management... Lesley wrote>are pretty> lively and wear us both out. I know other parents like Angie who had to> (understandably) cut right back on activism when their kids were young, but> you seem to go on and on and on like the Duracell Bunny!> I want to get the balance right, and feel a little envious that you seem so> capable with organisation of your life.Well all I can say is our lifestyle works for us- there's no set guidelines to who does what or anything- we both pursue our own intersts. I don't go to the pub that much- if I do (probably once every couple of weeks) it's usually with Debby- Chloe babysits, she is 16- so that's our vegan baby sitter problem solved...). Once every couple of months or so I go to a local quiz night which tends to be a bit of a 'bloke thing'. debby isn't interested in coming to that. our other kids arn't that small (4, 9 & 11) so make there own entertainment much of the time, they are usually playing with each other so it's not like they've got to be 'looked after' all the time.They all get loads of 'quality time' from both of us tho...I go away for the odd weekend or day now and then. Sometimes it's paid work (eg teaching a bit of permaculture or something- not much but it helps...) It's not like it's every weekend. i just fit stuff in- there's no 'golden rules' to follow... we just do what works for us....As for the compost toilet course, I owe Crass (the band/people) alot. Doing this project was giving something back, and will hopefully help open up their home as a centre for many positive uses by increasing the capacity of the number of people who can use the place for courses, workshops, gatherings, etc... > you seemed to have it all so sorted, I was hoping for some tips for us, Ha! me sorted??? that's a laugh!I do too much. not as much as I used to, because following counselling after I made myself ill from stress and had 3 months off work I recognised that basically i'm an 'actvity addict' so let go of alot things, like running the local LETS group.At the end of the day, 'doing stuff' is better than watching telly in the evening.One thing we've agreed is that I spend too much time on the internet. i'm going to cut back on the groups I to- there's alot of unhealthy energies flowing around these groups at the moment anyway.... maybe I'll duck out of here for a while.> Just don't know who else to ask for advice, that's all.fair enough but there was no need to be judgemental and attacking.It's not about how much time you you have but the qualirty of how you use it.I'd advise reading some time mangement books. Steven Covey's 'First Things First' is a good one. As is his '7 habits Of Highly effective people'. Borrow them from the library and give them a try. GrahamTo send an email to - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2002 Report Share Posted July 16, 2002 >I hope you don't leave these groups completely, wouldn't >want to lose you, you have a lot to contribute of value IMO. I second that. Jo ---Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free.Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com).Version: 6.0.375 / Virus Database: 210 - Release 10/07/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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