Guest guest Posted June 8, 2005 Report Share Posted June 8, 2005 as a PS to my last post, even i, a breastfeeding mom of 3 kids find it slightly offensive that someone would think it was any of their business to say thanks to me for breastfeeding my kids..... i love the support and i do not want to be frowned at for my decisions but i think people have too much concern for what other people are doing. positive or negative, it should be a family's choice and no other. on the other side of the thanks thing there are all those people who think it is their business to frown upon or comment on our vegan food choices for our family. live and let live, whatever people do, unless the opinion is asked for it has the potential to cause controversy and/or hurt feelings. hope i did not step on anyone's toes with this. i am sure we all love our children and are doing what we think is best. heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2005 Report Share Posted June 9, 2005 It's also quite presumptious of people to assume that a baby being fed a bottle in public is getting formula -- I often used to pump breast milk so that I could feed my baby in a shopping mall/restaurant/wherever without worrying about his latching on, or lack thereof (he was fiddly about feeding in public). And it's nice for the American Academy of Pediatrics to make recommendations, but babies have wills of their own. Despite my best efforts to breastfeed for a full year, my second baby refused to breastfeed after the six-month mark. My health visitor and my doctor said that some babies just want to stop before the moms do. Alas, off to formula it was.... So people in general should stop making generalizations on all fronts...no one knows the personal circumstances the way the mother/family do. " CRANS,HEATHER NOELLE " <hcrans wrote: as a PS to my last post, even i, a breastfeeding mom of 3 kids find it slightly offensive that someone would think it was any of their business to say thanks to me for breastfeeding my kids..... i love the support and i do not want to be frowned at for my decisions but i think people have too much concern for what other people are doing. positive or negative, it should be a family's choice and no other. on the other side of the thanks thing there are all those people who think it is their business to frown upon or comment on our vegan food choices for our family. live and let live, whatever people do, unless the opinion is asked for it has the potential to cause controversy and/or hurt feelings. hope i did not step on anyone's toes with this. i am sure we all love our children and are doing what we think is best. heather For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2005 Report Share Posted June 9, 2005 , you beat me to it, I was just about to say this. I have not posted in a while - I have a 15 day old baby and have not had time - but I had to put in my two cents on this one. In a perfect world, I would be a SAH, cloth-diapering, breast-feeding, organic mom. Unfortunately, I work outside the home, use disposables and combo feed. Right now, my baby (our third) is getting only breastmilk, through nursing and bottles, depending on where I am and what my schedule is like. When I go back to work, he will get formula and bmilk, because I am not in a situation where I can pump frequently enough to produce all that he needs. I am blown away by, first of all, the assumption that bottles always contain formula, and, secondly, by folks' insistence that bf'ers " cover up. " Personally, when I am bf'ing in public, you would have to sit down beside me and stare in order to see any part of my breast. I am not going to cover my baby with a blanket so that I can bf " privately " in 95 degree Oklahoma heat. I am not embarassed or even modest really, but the point of bf'ing is not to show off my boobs. :-) I have to agree wholeheartedly with all the pps who have said if it offends you, whatever it may be, then look away. I have been on both sides, as I bf our first but not our second child, and trust me, there are enough people willing to tell a new mother what she " should " be doing without the " live and let live " group adding to it. - Ramchandran Thursday, June 09, 2005 1:23 AM Re: breastfeeding thank yous It's also quite presumptious of people to assume that a baby being fed a bottle in public is getting formula -- I often used to pump breast milk so that I could feed my baby in a shopping mall/restaurant/wherever without worrying about his latching on, or lack thereof (he was fiddly about feeding in public). And it's nice for the American Academy of Pediatrics to make recommendations, but babies have wills of their own. Despite my best efforts to breastfeed for a full year, my second baby refused to breastfeed after the six-month mark. My health visitor and my doctor said that some babies just want to stop before the moms do. Alas, off to formula it was.... So people in general should stop making generalizations on all fronts...no one knows the personal circumstances the way the mother/family do. " CRANS,HEATHER NOELLE " <hcrans wrote: as a PS to my last post, even i, a breastfeeding mom of 3 kids find it slightly offensive that someone would think it was any of their business to say thanks to me for breastfeeding my kids..... i love the support and i do not want to be frowned at for my decisions but i think people have too much concern for what other people are doing. positive or negative, it should be a family's choice and no other. on the other side of the thanks thing there are all those people who think it is their business to frown upon or comment on our vegan food choices for our family. live and let live, whatever people do, unless the opinion is asked for it has the potential to cause controversy and/or hurt feelings. hope i did not step on anyone's toes with this. i am sure we all love our children and are doing what we think is best. heather For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health professional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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