Non-veg husband

[Guest guest]

While I am now single - maybe this is partly why but I also didn't buy,

cook or use anything that had touched meat. I have been veggie now for

15 years but have had relationships with meat eaters in 2 long term

relationships. (maybe I need to exam that)

In the first, I thought that this wasn't fair to put my

values on another and hated cooking or having him cook meat in our

house and was always disappointed in him for not making better

decisions secretly though and in the end regretted living that way. In

my second - I just refused to cook, have it cooked in or use anything

that had had meat in it. Told him that if he wanted it to go out to eat

which he did. He had been veggie and went back to meat eating. Anyway,

I felt so much better about being true to myself and was not upset with

him because I was who I was and he was who he was.

However, when we had a child, it did become a problem. he wanted

him to eat meat and I was adamant that he would not and it was like

being on guard to keep my son from being forced to eat meat. However,

he did listen and not feed him meat but only because I had held my

ground in the beginning with him. I believe that if I had cook or

supplied meat for him, he would have feed our son meat.

 

It is hard but if there is respect in a relationship, there will be

understanding and agreement. This is a life choice not a negotiable

issue for me so it was not up for discussing. I would have been more

upset about that than cheating on me so was not a forgivable " sin " . I

know I sound harsh but my children are my love and I want the best for

them and will not allow them to be subjected any kind of treatment I

consider to be bad for them or the environment.

 

Rachel