Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hey ya'll, I've heard a good bit about flexitarianism. Like, where you're in a current situation where eating meat at some points are inevitable, but you adhere to a vegetarian diet as much as possible. What do you all think of this and are there any here? The reason I'm looking into it is because it can be hard to avoid eating meat in my current living situation. I live with my grandparents, both meat eaters. My uncle comes and visits every day and often cooks dinner here, also a meat eater. My mom and little sister (whom I don't live with) are also meat eaters. Almost everywhere I turn, I'm faced with meat. In a way, well, this is going to sound weird, but I feel like I'm disrespecting my Grandma or my uncle when I won't eat what they've made, as they slave over making this meal, a meal that I won't eat. I mean, once I'm out on my own, meat would be out of the question. I would go back to being a full-time veggie. But, here comes another point. None of my friends are vegetarian. I mean, I'd hate to go to a friend's house and her dad make lasagna or something and then have to sit there and refuse to eat it. I think you all get what I'm saying - it's not that I wanna give up vegetarianism, I just want a route I can take until I'm out on my own and I can make my own meals and buy my own food and all that. It's not like I'm going to be wiping vegetarianism out of my life for the next few years. As I said, it's all about " flexing " between the two, until I can be a full-time veggie again. The last question I have, LOL, and this one is kinda dumb, but, since I'd still be a vegetarian when possible, would I still be welcome in this group? I'm open to all opinions about this, but please be nice about it to me. It's a hard decision to make that I'm still not sure about, and that's why I'm asking for a bit of advice, so if any of you have it, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks! Love & Peace Up, ***Sara*** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 Sara you sweet little thing you! We are not going to judge or flame you. I do understand what you are going through, and trying to ask us. When I made the decision to become a vegetarian I did it cold mock-turkey and never looked back. There were times I did have to dig the meat out of spaghetti or pull the pepperoni off pizza because I was faced with your situation. Being somewhere and there was no other food available. I've never done the flexitarian thing. You are welcome in here with us whether you are a vegetarian or not. We have non-vegetarians within the group. The only rule is to respect the vegetarians and post recipes we can eat. The vegans and vegetarians in here respect one another also. When we post recipes we try to make alterations or consider one another. Jenni is vegan and she always tries to answer any questions a member has with replacing a dairy or egg ingredient if a member needs help. Mel H. is another vegan willing to help, there are others also. Wishing you a lot of luck, is seems like a heavy load on you right now. BIG hugs, Donna RhymeMaster0313 wrote: Hey ya'll, I've heard a good bit about flexitarianism. Like, where you're in a current situation where eating meat at some points are inevitable, but you adhere to a vegetarian diet as much as possible. What do you all think of this and are there any here? The reason I'm looking into it is because it can be hard to avoid eating meat in my current living situation. I live with my grandparents, both meat eaters. My uncle comes and visits every day and often cooks dinner here, also a meat eater. My mom and little sister (whom I don't live with) are also meat eaters. Almost everywhere I turn, I'm faced with meat. In a way, well, this is going to sound weird, but I feel like I'm disrespecting my Grandma or my uncle when I won't eat what they've made, as they slave over making this meal, a meal that I won't eat. I mean, once I'm out on my own, meat would be out of the question. I would go back to being a full-time veggie. But, here comes another point. None of my friends are vegetarian. I mean, I'd hate to go to a friend's house and her dad make lasagna or something and then have to sit there and refuse to eat it. I think you all get what I'm saying - it's not that I wanna give up vegetarianism, I just want a route I can take until I'm out on my own and I can make my own meals and buy my own food and all that. It's not like I'm going to be wiping vegetarianism out of my life for the next few years. As I said, it's all about " flexing " between the two, until I can be a full-time veggie again. The last question I have, LOL, and this one is kinda dumb, but, since I'd still be a vegetarian when possible, would I still be welcome in this group? I'm open to all opinions about this, but please be nice about it to me. It's a hard decision to make that I'm still not sure about, and that's why I'm asking for a bit of advice, so if any of you have it, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks! Love & Peace Up, ***Sara*** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hey Sara, whatever you decide to do, YOU alone have to live with the decision., you have to be at peace with it. We welcome you into the group, regardless! The only advice I could possibly offer is for you to do more of the cooking for your uncle and Grandma. At least then you'd have more chances to eat vegetarian meals, and you would share those meals with those you care about. Another suggestion would be to search out other vegetarians in your area. (I say this because you sound as if you would like to not be alone in your desire to eat meat free meals.) www.earthsave.com is one way to find fellow vegetarians. I'm sure there are many more ways. I believe Linda McCartney was noted as saying that even one meat free meal a week is better than none... she and Paul were my inspiration for going veg over 12 years ago.. so I owe them both a great debt. You are on a path that only you can walk. Be kind to yourself as you make your way in the world, Good luck to you, ... Regardless of what you do, you are not alone... you have found us, and we are here for you. Welcome to the group, and best of luck with your decision. and Welcome to our Vegetarian group! =) jenni (vegetarian for 12 years, vegan 3 ) > > > RhymeMaster0313 wrote: > Hey ya'll, > > I've heard a good bit about flexitarianism. Like, where you're in > a current > situation where eating meat at some points are inevitable, but you > adhere to > a vegetarian diet as much as possible. What do you all think of > this and are > there any here? > > The reason I'm looking into it is because it can be hard to avoid > eating > meat in my current living situation. I live with my grandparents, > both meat > eaters. My uncle comes and visits every day and often cooks dinner > here, also a > meat eater. My mom and little sister (whom I don't live with) are > also meat > eaters. Almost everywhere I turn, I'm faced with meat. In a way, > well, this is > going to sound weird, but I feel like I'm disrespecting my Grandma > or my > uncle when I won't eat what they've made, as they slave over > making this meal, a > meal that I won't eat. I mean, once I'm out on my own, meat would > be out of > the question. I would go back to being a full-time veggie. But, > here comes > another point. None of my friends are vegetarian. I mean, I'd hate > to go to a > friend's house and her dad make lasagna or something and then have > to sit there > and refuse to eat it. I think you all get what I'm saying - it's > not that I > wanna give up vegetarianism, I just want a route I can take until > I'm out on > my own and I can make my own meals and buy my own food and all > that. It's not > like I'm going to be wiping vegetarianism out of my life for the > next few > years. As I said, it's all about " flexing " between the two, until > I can be a > full-time veggie again. The last question I have, LOL, and this > one is kinda > dumb, but, since I'd still be a vegetarian when possible, would I > still be > welcome in this group? > > I'm open to all opinions about this, but please be nice about it > to me. It's > a hard decision to make that I'm still not sure about, and that's > why I'm > asking for a bit of advice, so if any of you have it, I'd really > appreciate it. > Thanks! > > Love & Peace Up, > ***Sara*** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 Sarah, Years ago I sat down to dinner while visiting my father's home and quitetly passed the meat dishes on and took only veggies, bread and salad. In the begining which was over 20 years ago being Vegetarian was not what it is today. There were no health food stores or organic veggies, and I didn't want to call attention to my eating lifestyle or fib about it. Any way my father noticed that I had not taken a portion of the main dish and asked why? I replied that I had become a Vegetarian and no longer ate meat. My father said " at this table we eat what we are served " . I asked to be excused and left the table. From that time on no one in the family questioned my decision to be a Vegetarian. If someone asks why, I tell them ,otherwise I eat what I can or bring my own. It takes a while for family and friends to adjust but they will. You might try having a heart -to -heart talk with family members who you think might be offended and explain why you are chosing a new eating lifestyle. What a sweetheart you are for caring about their feelings. What works for me is to remember that *everyone is at their own level of understanding*, or people do the best they can with the information they have at the time " . Welcome to a whole new physical and emotionally healthy lifestyle. Smiles and hugs. Deanna , Donnalilacflower <thelilacflower> wrote: > > Sara you sweet little thing you! We are not going to judge or flame you. I do understand what you are going through, and trying to ask us. > When I made the decision to become a vegetarian I did it cold mock-turkey and never looked back. There were times I did have to dig the meat out of spaghetti or pull the pepperoni off pizza because I was faced with your situation. Being somewhere and there was no other food available. I've never done the flexitarian thing. > You are welcome in here with us whether you are a vegetarian or not. We have non-vegetarians within the group. The only rule is to respect the vegetarians and post recipes we can eat. The vegans and vegetarians in here respect one another also. When we post recipes we try to make alterations or consider one another. Jenni is vegan and she always tries to answer any questions a member has with replacing a dairy or egg ingredient if a member needs help. Mel H. is another vegan willing to help, there are others also. > Wishing you a lot of luck, is seems like a heavy load on you right now. > BIG hugs, Donna > > RhymeMaster0313@a... wrote: > Hey ya'll, > > I've heard a good bit about flexitarianism. Like, where you're in a current > situation where eating meat at some points are inevitable, but you adhere to > a vegetarian diet as much as possible. What do you all think of this and are > there any here? > > The reason I'm looking into it is because it can be hard to avoid eating > meat in my current living situation. I live with my grandparents, both meat > eaters. My uncle comes and visits every day and often cooks dinner here, also a > meat eater. My mom and little sister (whom I don't live with) are also meat > eaters. Almost everywhere I turn, I'm faced with meat. In a way, well, this is > going to sound weird, but I feel like I'm disrespecting my Grandma or my > uncle when I won't eat what they've made, as they slave over making this meal, a > meal that I won't eat. I mean, once I'm out on my own, meat would be out of > the question. I would go back to being a full-time veggie. But, here comes > another point. None of my friends are vegetarian. I mean, I'd hate to go to a > friend's house and her dad make lasagna or something and then have to sit there > and refuse to eat it. I think you all get what I'm saying - it's not that I > wanna give up vegetarianism, I just want a route I can take until I'm out on > my own and I can make my own meals and buy my own food and all that. It's not > like I'm going to be wiping vegetarianism out of my life for the next few > years. As I said, it's all about " flexing " between the two, until I can be a > full-time veggie again. The last question I have, LOL, and this one is kinda > dumb, but, since I'd still be a vegetarian when possible, would I still be > welcome in this group? > > I'm open to all opinions about this, but please be nice about it to me. It's > a hard decision to make that I'm still not sure about, and that's why I'm > asking for a bit of advice, so if any of you have it, I'd really appreciate it. > Thanks! > > Love & Peace Up, > ***Sara*** > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 HI Sara: I would say that do what is best for you and what you feel most comfortable with. So if your grandmother or uncle or anyone has slaved over a meal for you if you feel comfortable eating then do so. I also suggest that sometimes you make a vegetarian meal for them so they can see what you are eating is healthy. I think everyone's diet of choice is a personal desicion. In my house my daughter and I are vegetarian my husband and son are not. I make whatever it we are having for dinner and my husband cooks up some kind of meat dish for him and our son if he is home for dinner. Gayle RhymeMaster0313 Tue, 24 Jan 2006 19:30:11 EST Questions about flexitarianism Hey ya'll, I've heard a good bit about flexitarianism. Like, where you're in a current situation where eating meat at some points are inevitable, but you adhere to a vegetarian diet as much as possible. What do you all think of this and are there any here? The reason I'm looking into it is because it can be hard to avoid eating meat in my current living situation. I live with my grandparents, both meat eaters. My uncle comes and visits every day and often cooks dinner here, also a meat eater. My mom and little sister (whom I don't live with) are also meat eaters. Almost everywhere I turn, I'm faced with meat. In a way, well, this is going to sound weird, but I feel like I'm disrespecting my Grandma or my uncle when I won't eat what they've made, as they slave over making this meal, a meal that I won't eat. I mean, once I'm out on my own, meat would be out of the question. I would go back to being a full-time veggie. But, here comes another point. None of my friends are vegetarian. I mean, I'd hate to go to a friend's house and her dad make lasagna or something and then have to sit there and refuse to eat it. I think you all get what I'm saying - it's not that I wanna give up vegetarianism, I just want a route I can take until I'm out on my own and I can make my own meals and buy my own food and all that. It's not like I'm going to be wiping vegetarianism out of my life for the next few years. As I said, it's all about " flexing " between the two, until I can be a full-time veggie again. The last question I have, LOL, and this one is kinda dumb, but, since I'd still be a vegetarian when possible, would I still be welcome in this group? I'm open to all opinions about this, but please be nice about it to me. It's a hard decision to make that I'm still not sure about, and that's why I'm asking for a bit of advice, so if any of you have it, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks! Love & Peace Up, ***Sara*** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2006 Report Share Posted January 30, 2006 I do the cooking 90% of the time, so it's easy for me. When I go somewhere the food I am given is a gift, so I don't want to be rude...but usually I can find something, even if it's a coleslaw sandwich like i had yesterday, LOL. In hubby's family you don't take food to someone else's house, that's considered rude. I have to eat meat, eat nothing or hope there is something without meat. I opt for hoping first (including a don't ask, don't tell policy), scraping meat off discreetly second and not eating third. My MIL's idea of vegetarian means straining the chicken meat out of the broth, LOL. thankfully my hubby is pretty sensitive and doesn't particularly like large family gatherings anyhow, so it's not often an issue. That said, my husband is not vegetarian, nor are 3 of my 4 children. One of my kids won't eat meat, but that's because she hates the taste of it. If one of them asks for meat once in a while I won't say no, and I keep veggie burgers in the freezer for me for these occasions. Hubby also cooks meat when he cooks, but he is considerate enough to almost always make the same thing in a vegetarian version for me. For instance, we were in an Indian mood and he make curried chick peas and chicken, but he made a smaller pot without chicken for me & child #2 to eat. So, I'd say hubby and 3 kids are 80% vegetarian by default. I'd say child #2 and I are 90% vegetarian, even if we don't eat meat we still ingest gelatin in our medications and such. I imagine it'd be difficult if you aren't the main cook, but do what you can when you can and don't feel guilty. I also imagine it's harder for people with social lives, LOL. I don't have much of a social life that doesn't involve the hubby and kids. Meg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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