Run, Melody, and Read Fast

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On Sunday, August 17, 2003, at 08:43 AM,

wrote:

 

> wow, but there are so many! well, let's see. first of all, i

> went to

> the university of wisconsin/madison, which is a very interesting place to

> be

> a non-drinking vegetarian. so that in itself led to lots of interesting

> stories. ( " huh? you don't drink? you don't eat meat? what do you

> DO? " )

 

reminds me of the old Adam Ant song in which he sang, " You don't drink,

you don't smoke? What do you do? Subtle innuendo follows: Must be

something inside. "

>

> as far as dating goes, i'll give a few examples. there was one guy who

> hated the fact that i don't drink (his life revolved around beer and

> playing

> pool). he never introduced me to any of his friends because he was

> ashamed of me.

> we ran into some of his friends on the street one time and he

> introduced me

> as " melody " and nothing more. he actually, amazingly, took me to a

> friend's

> wedding one time; he ended up plunking an amaretto sour in front of me and

> then threw a fit because i didn't want to drink it.

 

Wow, run. Abusive alcoholic personality alert. Read The Gift of Fear by

Gavin de Becker, a wonderful, life-changing book about trusting one's

instincts.

>

> another boyfriend would get very upset when we went to restaurants

> because i

> would special order food so that it had no meat in it.

 

LOL - why does this upset so many? It's bizarre that they even care, isn'

t it?

>

> then there was the guy who took me to a mexican restaurant, got mad at me

> when i realized there was nothing on the menu that i could eat (i didn't

> make a

> fuss at all; i even ended up eating a wilted iceberg lettuce salad

> because i

> knew how much he wanted to eat there), and he broke up with me soon

> afterwards.

 

Oh, Melody, you really must not bow to others so much.

>

> this one doesn't have anything to do with my eating habits, but it has to

> be

> told--there was the guy who wouldn't " let " me have friends he didn't

> approve

> of, got mad whenever any other man looked at me, had a daughter he wanted

> nothing to do with, belonged to some kind of weird cult, changed his name

> to his

> cult's word for " god " , and wanted to start his own religion.

 

Holy hell, run twice as fast.

 

> i didn't know

> about any of this stuff at first. why was i with him for longer than an

> hour?

> well, he also wouldn't " let " me break up with him.

 

Oh, you MUST read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker, no kidding. Ask PT,

she'll concur.

 

> i broke up with him 5

> times before it stuck, and then he stalked me for 5 months afterwards.

 

Jeesh.

>

> actually, by the time i left chicago, i had 3 guys stalking me. i seem

> to attract

> the odd ones. but that is another story.

 

Read the book. Honest to the goddess it will help.

>

> as far as dating a carnivore goes, i think you have to base it on the way

> he

> treats you and your needs. it is easier, i think, to be with someone who

> shares your values.

 

Much.

 

> if he doesn't, but he respects you and what you believe in,

> it's a beautiful thing, even if he doesn't go along with it himself.

 

Rare, too.

 

> you

> two do need to establish the " house rules " well in advance, though, so

> that you

> know it won't be a problem down the road.

 

Very good advice.

>

> melody

>

> http://www.melodysmusic.net

>

>

" A clean house is no place to raise children. "

--Kim Chambers

[Guest guest]

Yes indeed. Read this book. I have a bit of a reputation

for buying it in paperback and sending it as a gift to

friends I see who might need the wisdom it contains.

I read it aloud to the whole family once. Wonderfully

written and very eye opening on the subject of trusting

yourself and listening to your inner voice. Reminds us

all why those first impressions are not something to

sneeze at... they are indeed a gift.

 

~ PT ~

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, The Stewarts <stews9@c...>

wrote:

 

> Oh, you MUST read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker, no kidding.

Ask

PT,

> she'll concur.