Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 In a message dated 8/16/03 6:38:40 AM, writes: > Do tell them! I want to hear everyone's stories! > I too have dated some real doozies myself. In fact, so bad that I > want to give up men! > Has your not eating meat really caused some serious problems? I've > never had that cause any big problems except in my reaction to it. > > I want to hear also about others' situations involving meat-eating > partners. What do you do? Do you let them have it in the house, or > do you make them go out to eat? > I had some friends whose husbands eat meat and they won't allow it > in the house at all. > wow, but there are so many! well, let's see. first of all, i went to the university of wisconsin/madison, which is a very interesting place to be a non-drinking vegetarian. so that in itself led to lots of interesting stories. ( " huh? you don't drink? you don't eat meat? what do you DO? " ) as far as dating goes, i'll give a few examples. there was one guy who hated the fact that i don't drink (his life revolved around beer and playing pool). he never introduced me to any of his friends because he was ashamed of me. we ran into some of his friends on the street one time and he introduced me as " melody " and nothing more. he actually, amazingly, took me to a friend's wedding one time; he ended up plunking an amaretto sour in front of me and then threw a fit because i didn't want to drink it. another boyfriend would get very upset when we went to restaurants because i would special order food so that it had no meat in it. then there was the guy who took me to a mexican restaurant, got mad at me when i realized there was nothing on the menu that i could eat (i didn't make a fuss at all; i even ended up eating a wilted iceberg lettuce salad because i knew how much he wanted to eat there), and he broke up with me soon afterwards. this one doesn't have anything to do with my eating habits, but it has to be told--there was the guy who wouldn't " let " me have friends he didn't approve of, got mad whenever any other man looked at me, had a daughter he wanted nothing to do with, belonged to some kind of weird cult, changed his name to his cult's word for " god " , and wanted to start his own religion. i didn't know about any of this stuff at first. why was i with him for longer than an hour? well, he also wouldn't " let " me break up with him. i broke up with him 5 times before it stuck, and then he stalked me for 5 months afterwards. actually, by the time i left chicago, i had 3 guys stalking me. i seem to attract the odd ones. but that is another story. as far as dating a carnivore goes, i think you have to base it on the way he treats you and your needs. it is easier, i think, to be with someone who shares your values. if he doesn't, but he respects you and what you believe in, it's a beautiful thing, even if he doesn't go along with it himself. you two do need to establish the " house rules " well in advance, though, so that you know it won't be a problem down the road. melody http://www.melodysmusic.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2003 Report Share Posted August 16, 2003 I think most of my exs dumped me because I had an ed and depression and they didn't want to deal with me. At least now I found someone who really cares about me no matter what I eat or don't eat. Jessika Nadiana1 wrote: In a message dated 8/16/03 6:38:40 AM, writes: > Do tell them! I want to hear everyone's stories! > I too have dated some real doozies myself. In fact, so bad that I > want to give up men! > Has your not eating meat really caused some serious problems? I've > never had that cause any big problems except in my reaction to it. > > I want to hear also about others' situations involving meat-eating > partners. What do you do? Do you let them have it in the house, or > do you make them go out to eat? > I had some friends whose husbands eat meat and they won't allow it > in the house at all. > wow, but there are so many! well, let's see. first of all, i went to the university of wisconsin/madison, which is a very interesting place to be a non-drinking vegetarian. so that in itself led to lots of interesting stories. ( " huh? you don't drink? you don't eat meat? what do you DO? " ) as far as dating goes, i'll give a few examples. there was one guy who hated the fact that i don't drink (his life revolved around beer and playing pool). he never introduced me to any of his friends because he was ashamed of me. we ran into some of his friends on the street one time and he introduced me as " melody " and nothing more. he actually, amazingly, took me to a friend's wedding one time; he ended up plunking an amaretto sour in front of me and then threw a fit because i didn't want to drink it. another boyfriend would get very upset when we went to restaurants because i would special order food so that it had no meat in it. then there was the guy who took me to a mexican restaurant, got mad at me when i realized there was nothing on the menu that i could eat (i didn't make a fuss at all; i even ended up eating a wilted iceberg lettuce salad because i knew how much he wanted to eat there), and he broke up with me soon afterwards. this one doesn't have anything to do with my eating habits, but it has to be told--there was the guy who wouldn't " let " me have friends he didn't approve of, got mad whenever any other man looked at me, had a daughter he wanted nothing to do with, belonged to some kind of weird cult, changed his name to his cult's word for " god " , and wanted to start his own religion. i didn't know about any of this stuff at first. why was i with him for longer than an hour? well, he also wouldn't " let " me break up with him. i broke up with him 5 times before it stuck, and then he stalked me for 5 months afterwards. actually, by the time i left chicago, i had 3 guys stalking me. i seem to attract the odd ones. but that is another story. as far as dating a carnivore goes, i think you have to base it on the way he treats you and your needs. it is easier, i think, to be with someone who shares your values. if he doesn't, but he respects you and what you believe in, it's a beautiful thing, even if he doesn't go along with it himself. you two do need to establish the " house rules " well in advance, though, so that you know it won't be a problem down the road. melody http://www.melodysmusic.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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