Guest guest Posted August 14, 2003 Report Share Posted August 14, 2003 On Thursday, August 14, 2003, at 01:05 AM, (AT) (DOT) com wrote: > Message: 15 > Thu, 14 Aug 2003 01:21:11 -0000 > " Sheryl " <ssarndt > Question for the group!! > > I have been a vegetarian for 15+ years after having become very > squeamish at the sight, smell and thought of dead flesh in and > around the house and on my plate. I really developed a disgust for > a bloody mess of flesh sitting in the refrigerator, in the freezer > etc--not to mention the ethical implications of eating animals. The > entire time as a teenager, I never ever ever thought I would allow > it in my house or cook it for anyone ever again. I actually worked > in a pizza shop and had to quit because I didn't like putting meat > on pizzas and sub sandwiches. I felt hypocritical. Well, several > years ago I actually stooped to allow some of it in my house and > cooked it for the boyfriend I had at the time. I primarily did it > to keep the failing relationship afloat. The entire time, I really > felt like I was compromising my beliefs and was entirely disgusted > by the whole thing both physically, emotionally, ethically and > mentally. I have now resigned that I will never again live in a > house where there is raw meat, nor will I ever cook it again for > anyone. It just feels so wrong to me knowing that there are dead > animals in my freezer and that it is being cooked in my house. I > don't like the smell, the blood, the idea of it nor anything related > to killing animals. I guess I feel that by allowing it into my home > for other people, even though I don't eat it myself is compromising > my belief system and doesn't feel right to me. Stick with your beliefs and trust your own instincts. > My question for the group is what others' thoughts are on this. I > am a single girl who would one day maybe like to have a husband and > a family, but am concerned that my thoughts on this issue (among > other things) are preventing it. No, all you're doing is stating your standards. Believe me, you don't want a husband who doesn't respect them, or you, enough to join you in upholding them. > My friends all think I'm > unreasonable and don't understand. Then I'd question whether they are truly friends or not. > They think that if I have a > relationship with someone who eats meat, that I should allow them to > carry out storing, cooking and eating meat in the house. That's absurd. Are an non-smokers? Would they feel the sex is important enough to allow smoking around them? Etc. > They also > think that I should allow any future children to choose what they > want to eat, including meat. We raise our children vegetarian and they are far healthier as a result. It isn't loving to allow children to hurt themselves, even if they like it. Would you feed them chips and ice-cream for every meal? > My thoughts are that you raise > children to believe in the same things you do and teach them values > according to your own beliefs, but at some point they will be old > enough to make their own decisions about what to put in their own > bodies. Exactly. Once they read the age of reason they will decide for themselves. This makes it all the more important to give them a solid grounding in your values. Comrpomising them so you can have sex or a companion is ridiculous. What would that teach them, that ideals are contingent on convenience? > Ideally I should find me a husband who shares these same > feelings, Like attracts like. You will find such a person, honestly you will. We're everywhere. > but I have never had a relationship with another > vegetarian and the chances of finding that ideal are not as good as > they are with someone who eats meat. Now now, don't panic. lol You should be what you would attract. That's the best advice. Be true to yourself. If you're not, if you compromise just to " get " a relationship, then it will be founded on self-repression and deceit anyway, and fail. > What do you all think?? Am I > being unreasonable? Not at all. Not even slightly. They are being cultural bullies, is all. > Should I compromise my ethics here? No because if you do it's not true to who and what you are -- would you wear a mask and lie about yourself to get a date? I know many do, but would you? > This is all hypothetical as I do not currently have a relationship > or children. I live alone. (If anyone knows of any single > vegetarian guys in Albuquerque, let me know!) Thanks in advance for > all your help!! I know Albuquerque has a fairly strong gay, lesbian, and artistic community, so I can't believe vegetarians are that scarce. Keep resonating, your vibes will attract the right type soon, I'm sure. You do need to get out and meet lots of people and let them know, of course, too. > > sheryl in albuquerque " Falsehood is the child of fear. " --Aleister Crowley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2003 Report Share Posted August 14, 2003 You all are awesome! I just wanted to make sure that I'm not being unreasonable. Thanks!! > Stick with your beliefs and trust your own instincts. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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