Guest guest Posted May 7, 2005 Report Share Posted May 7, 2005 For a large portion of my life, I felt it was necessary to keep myself open to anyone who came across my path, always be a good listener, etc. However, as an introvert and also as someone who is very sensitve to others' moods and emotions, trying to be that way has been both mentally and physically exhausting. While continuing to care about others, I have found for my own health (at several levels), I do have to set some boundaries, close some doors, set some limits, or I end up being overwhelmed by all that energy. So while I guess I survive all encounters, not all encounters help me thrive. Some relationships also begin to enter the realm of the abusive, and I have chosen to not allow that into my life. Maybe more strength comes with greater physical well-being, but for now, I really need those boundaries. Peace, Valerie Froggy <seconaphim wrote: For myself, I only view messages at the site, that way I can pick which ones I want to read. I wouldn't want to exclude anyone on a permanent basis though, sometimes writers that I'm not real fond of have something worthwhile to say. I'm not worried about insulating myself from people whose energy, intentions, and/or language seem severely mismatched to my own, I think I can survive pretty much what anyone says. Rich rawfood , " INFO @ Vibrant Life " <VLinfo@e...> wrote: > Hi Joanie, > > I can truly appreciate and empathize with your feelings. May I offer a > suggestion, which I have implemented in a couple of cases where I found > myself repeatedly " not enjoying " posts from one or two individuals? I simply > went into my email program and created a rule that deletes all messages from > those individuals, so that I never have to see them. That way, I can remain > in the group and enjoy what everyone else has to share, and at the same time > I effectively insulate myself from people whose energy, intentions, and/or > language seem severely mismatched to my own. > > Just a thought. > Elchanan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2005 Report Share Posted May 7, 2005 Valerie~ Thanks for sharing this valuable lesson that you have learned! Funny (or not!) that it takes years for many of us to learn that lesson (often learned the hard way). A good book for introverts is " The Introvert Advantage. " Very eye-opening book about how introverts may learn to navigate (more painlessly) this extrovert world we live in! Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2005 Report Share Posted May 7, 2005 Thanks, Leslie, I'll look for that book! Peace, Valerie " chai_mama " <chai_mama wrote: Valerie~ Thanks for sharing this valuable lesson that you have learned! Funny (or not!) that it takes years for many of us to learn that lesson (often learned the hard way). A good book for introverts is " The Introvert Advantage. " Very eye-opening book about how introverts may learn to navigate (more painlessly) this extrovert world we live in! Mail Stay connected, organized, and protected. Take the tour Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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