RE: Succeeding with RF: Looking for Friends' communication suggestions [s]

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Gypsi [aromatic_wings] Thursday, April 21, 2005 1:14

PM Re: [Raw Food] Looking for Friends' communication suggestions

Bob,

I am sure that as friends this can be worked out nicely...

 

Do you expect them to be against your new lifestyle? Maybe they will be

interested enough to ask questions and who knows your continued adherance to

your lifestyle with your old time friends might just give them the boost

they need to make a change too.

 

If they are TRUE friends as they sound then I should think they will maybe

tease a bit (as friends do) but then once seeing you are serious ..that they

would either drop the subject or ask more questions with interest,...

 

Just be gentle and kind... and change the suject to something all agree on

if it gets kind of hot...

 

Good luck to you both and keep us posted.... but I am sure everything will

go just great!!

 

Hey, people grow up right?? and all the drinking and such gets old after

awhile.... you ahve found a new way to be happy and enjoy life... let this

shine in your meeting with old friends.

_____

Hi Bob,

As I reread your original message, I'm inclined to ask what you may be

feeling, rather than on focusing on what to do or say just yet. I sense some

fear or apprehension on your part, perhaps? And I wonder whether you are

unsure of your ability to communicate about the choices you have made, or

perhaps whether you are concerned about how these friends may respond, maybe

about being judged, criticized, or even ridiculed?

 

I think it might help you to get really clear about how you perceive

yourself, having taken this course of action, and how you perceive these

friends, how you trust them, how you connect with them, and in particular

how important that connection is to you, going forward. If you are feeling,

for example, some strong attachment to how they respond, then you may be

disappointed by almost any response they have. If you enter the

communication feeling defensive, you pretty much know the likely outcome,

right!

 

And consider this: how well did things go when you called the restaurant and

found that chef? Perhaps just good attraction energy. While you are at the

restaurant, ask for the chef to come out to the table and talk about his/her

experience, what was made, etc. Turn this into an opportunity to connect and

to play.

 

That's my 2 cents, bill is in the mail!

Elchanan

 

 

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> Hi Bob,

> As I reread your original message, I'm inclined to ask what you may

be

> feeling,> fear or apprehension on your part, perhaps?

 

Thanks Gypsi and Elchanan...

 

the feeling is fear: fear that I may lost one of the best friends

that I've got/ever had (and yes, I know that what we fear, we

create...working on it...)

some attachment to how they respond (particulary the male...); as I'd

said, for some reason, his " understanding " is important to me...yes,

working on the clarity issue..>

> And consider this: how well did things go when you called the

restaurant and found that chef?

*went great with the restaurant...*

 

Perhaps just good attraction energy. While you are at the

> restaurant, ask for the chef to come out to the table and talk

about his/her

> experience, what was made, etc. Turn this into an opportunity to

connect and

> to play. *good idea*!

>

> That's my 2 cents, bill is in the mail! *thanks...worth all of

the price paid*....;=)

 

all the best,

 

Bob