Important: Are you Caught in the Unselfishness Trap?

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Important: Are you Caught in the Unselfishness

Trap? Part 1

 

This might be an extremely important article for

you to read if you are having trouble going raw. I

see so many of my coaching clients, friends and

family members suffer under the false idea of what

is the unselfish thing to do and those ideas often

make it next to impossible for them to succeed at

eating a Raw Food Diet.

 

Let me share an email with you, from one of my Raw

Food Coaching Clients and member of

www.HowToGoRaw.com.

 

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Hi Roger-

 

Thanks for mentioning the Harry Browne-How I Found

Freedom... book. Paul Nison suggested it to me quite

a while ago. I bought it and only read parts. So

much of it already sounded like me I put it down.

Today I'm looking through it again, I think I'll

read it cover to cover this time. I have pretty much

lived my life trying to please others. For at least

a year I've never considered 'my own interests' of

health. I'd have raw food in mind, but after

preparing cooked food for loved ones I'd be too

tired to prepare my own raw food.

 

I mention all of this because I'm certain in your

coaching you've come across many people who have

bought into ' spiritual ' ideas that others come

first, their desires, their wants, wishes. Its one

of the hidden reasons I hadn't went raw. I know it

sounds ridiculous, giving till it hurts, but I'm

learning. I don't have physically forever to live,

to wait till others 'get it'.

 

This is really an eye opener for me. DO WHATS IN MY

OWN BEST HEALTH INTERESTS!!

 

And no, I haven't sleep much yet or been

consistently raw yet but each day I'm making much

better choices. I'm gonna do this Roger. You may not

hear much from me, but I know you're out there along

with the group supporting me.

 

I remember going raw a few days in-a-row and

experiencing bliss. That was scary. " Could it be

like this a lot more? " , were my questions to myself.

Believe it or not this is one of my main reasons.

And I just know that a greater part of my potential

will come out. I think I'm ready now, not too much

fear of being a 100 watt light bulb instead of a 60

watt!

 

Regards, Maurice

Las Vegas, Nevada

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Maurice, I want to thank you for sharing a very

insightful email. I was writing an article about

this very topic yesterday and what you wrote was a

perfect compliment to the article.

 

First of all I definitely recommend you do read

" How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World, " from cover

to cover. That book really changed my life for the

better. I don't agree with every point, but it was

liberating nonetheless. I read of stuff there that I

had often thought about but I had never crystallized

my thoughts. It is chock filled with useful ideas to

improve your life in many different areas of life.

 

I also applaud you for deciding not to prepare

cooked food for your family anymore. You broke out

of the unselfishness trap. The 'unselfishness trap'

as defined by Harry Browne is the belief that you

must put the happiness of others ahead of your own.

 

It's tough for your family since you are a chef,

but they'll have to adjust or maybe they'll start

eating your raw creations. You have to do what is

most important for your health. In the long run,

your choice will actually help your family as they

see your health improving. Maybe they'll start

adding more raw foods into their diets. The main

point is that you have the freedom to do what is

best for you and your wife and kids have the freedom

to do what is best for them according to their

judgment.

 

I've had so many raw coaching clients who couldn't

go raw because they BELIEVED they had to prepare the

cooked food for their spouse and family. They were

trapped in these artificial societal roles and

rules. The funny thing was that some of these

clients were well enough off so that they could have

easily hired a live in cook or had food delivered to

them. Why does the wife have to prepare food? Did

you marry a cook and maid or your wife?

 

Once people have been in these roles for a long

time and are dependent on their spouses, they are

often afraid to make any changes because it has the

potential to ruin the relationship. This also has

financial and survival implications. You just have

to ask yourself, what is more important, your

health, or your marriage? In most cases, you can

stay raw and keep your marriage without a problem.

But you have to be willing to answer that you would

prefer health; otherwise you will have a slim chance

of going 100% raw. Your health has to be one of your

top priorities for you to succeed.

 

It would be like a chain smoker trying to quit

smoking, while living in a room of other chain

smokers. These are not favorable conditions to quit

smoking with. If you want to succeed at going raw

you want to stack as many success factors in your

favor as you can.

 

The more you avoid the smells and images of cooked

food, the easier it will be for you. Those smells

and images click off strong emotional memories that

are associated with cooked food. If you are

constantly bombarded with these smells and images,

you are likely to eventually give in and want to

indulge in the mood altering drug of cooked food.

 

I know in my case I've gotten to the point where I

no longer think of what cooked food I can eat to

change my mood. But I remember I used to constantly

have those thoughts. A habit will die or end, if you

don't pay it any attention. If you limit yourself to

raw foods only, all of those old thought patterns

eventually die out and you establish the habit of

eating raw food only. You don't think of eating

cooked food anymore, because you simply don't allow

yourself that choice.

 

I've written much more on this. So there will be a

part two email coming up soon.

 

To Your Radiant Health, Happiness and Fitness,

Roger Haeske

The Raw Motivator

 

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What a blessed place to be. I hope I make it there someday.

 

Rich

 

rawfood , " Roger Haeske " <roger2@m...> wrote:

>

> I know in my case I've gotten to the point where I

> no longer think of what cooked food I can eat to

> change my mood. But I remember I used to constantly

> have those thoughts. A habit will die or end, if you

> don't pay it any attention. If you limit yourself to

> raw foods only, all of those old thought patterns

> eventually die out and you establish the habit of

> eating raw food only. You don't think of eating

> cooked food anymore, because you simply don't allow

> yourself that choice.