raw lifestyle (was Fruitarian)

[Guest guest]

When I came back from the raw retreat, after 8 weeks, I was easily

irritated by my environment at home. I had to get more aggressive,

less feeling, and that was only brought about by eating differently.

IT was a bit of a shocker. Until one understands what is happening it

seems like one is failing completely in lifestyle change as opposed

to adapting to the environment because the reality we cannot always

change our environment sufficiently. I was either going to strangle

my housemate or change myself. So I backed up and am now

transitioning more slowly. This is so important what you write. IT

would be so helpful if more people could see and understand this in

the beginning of starting a raw lifestyle. I watched a young man at

the raw institute decide to split from his wife because of the

changes he went through after being raw and her non-interest in the

change of food. While he obviously made a decision to chanage his

environment, radically, I wonder if a better understanding of the

internal changes might have changed the outcome. Anyway, it is a

decision I faced. And I decided to adapt and compromise. Perhaps that

will change again, later. -a

 

rawfood , mary <marymassung> wrote:

 

As we transition mentally and

> emotionally, we instinctively change our environment

> and lifestyle to conform to what we are feeling

> (emotion). Again, there are times when those around

> us are not able to make such transitions with us.

> What do we do then?

>

> This is where each person must make a personal

> decision. If I am fruitarian and my spouse is a

> meat-eater, it is possible that we would no longer be

> compatible. Therefore, for the marriage to survive,

> he would either have to begin his own transitioning

> away from meat or I would have to step back from 100%

> fruitarianism.

[Guest guest]

Anne,

 

I know of some who started trying to become raw

fooders who gave up for this very reason.

 

Intellectually, I understood the need to transition

more slowly to insure the survival of my marriage. I

did not understand how fruitarianism would impact me

emotionally and psychologically as compared to 90% raw

foodism. As long as I withdrew from my family,

everything was fine. However, one cannot withdraw

forever...esp with 2 young adults in the house! LOLs

They have a way of bringing us back to reality VERY

QUICKLY aaaand without any advance warning! lols

 

Only after my fruitarian period did I start to

research this aspect of diet (phychological) and

discovered it was a pattern...food impacts your

psyche. Your diet determines the lifestyle and

environment in which your psyche can feel comfortable.

When there is a clash, you must either change the diet

or the environment/lifestyle. Some people are willing

to try and forcefully mesh their environment and

lifestyle with their diet but it will eventually 'blow

up'.

 

I believe relationships are more important than even

optimal health. Even though my body will eventually

die (no matter how healthy it appears), I believe my

relationships will continue for eternity. However,

for those who do not share my beliefs, I guess living

as long as possible...even if alone...is the more

important choice.

 

Our beliefs really do influence our choices. That

having been said, I intend to get as close to optimal

health as I can without destroying my relationship

with my hubby. Should he go first,I can then pursue

the 100% fruitarian diet without the loss of his

companionship.

 

mary