Alia & baby =)...OT..

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Go, Jenni....

I slept with all of my daughters....I wish I had known about nursing and

the family bed when I had my sons but I had not found LLL yet at the time.

 

It is so much easier to get a good night's rest if you tuck your nursing

baby in with you. After I found out how great it was to sleep with your

baby at night it made much more sense to me why tiny babies don't like

being off in another room. They have just spent the first 9 months of

their lives in a warm place where they were constantly hearing their

mother's heartbeat, and feeling movement and other voices. Why would

they be happy off in a room all by themselves far away from everything

they know that is familiar.

 

I sat one day, many years ago, and talked to my ex-husband's grandmother,

who would be over a hundred-twenty old if she were still alive today, about

having babies, nursing, sleeping with babies, making handmade diapers and

baby clothes, making your own baby food....she was a wealth of information.

 

She told me that when her second child was born...my former, late father-in-

law who passed away this summer, 7-7-07, at 96 (born in 1912), her husband

built

a platform bed that had a separate piece of wood that fitted under their

mattress and two legs....she made a small mattress for it....he also built a

rail around three

sides of it. She moved the older " baby " who was 3 yrs. old onto the platform

bed at night and the

new baby slept in the middle. With the next baby, he built a trundle bed at

the foot

of their bed...the oldest baby went to the trundle, the second baby went to

the platform

bed and the new baby went in the middle. She said they kept this rotation up

with all 9 of her children.

When the 4th baby arrived, the trundle child was moved to a double bed in a

second

bedroom and so on and so on. They all grew up to be a close-knit, loving

family.

 

I loved her.....she reinforced for me that what I was doing was good, and the

right

thing to do for my family. She also helped run a farm, milked cows, baked

their

bread, made their clothes, weeded the garden, canned produce, and she didn't

have

any help until the kids started getting old enough to help...she had one

girl...the oldest

and the rest were boys......she was an

amazing lady and if she was 5 feet tall, I would be surprised. She also

breastfed

all of her babies.

 

The whole Sears family of doctors seem to be pretty smart people.

 

What you need to remember now is " people before things " ....the housework

will still be there....children, the easiest food that can be prepared, rest

when

ever you can, you and your husband....that is what is important.

Remember:

 

" Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,

For babies grow up, I've learned to my sorrow.

So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep.

I'm nursing my baby and babies don't keep.

( a variation of a poem by Ruth Hulburt Hamilton)

Nancy C.

 

 

 

 

 

 

hi alia!

i don't know your thoughts on attached parenting... but your son sound like he

likes being

attached... i'm writing this while holding my almost 6 month old son... sep

27th bday =)

I think people (myself included) tend to think babies should just sleep

through the night,

when in reality, most people do not sleep all night long! We co-sleep with our

baby and it

is the best thing! I can't even imagine getting up to care for him. When he

wakes, we

cuddle closer and he nurses... it's not a major disruption to my sleep or his.

 

if you haven't read anything by dr sears you might want to google him. he

wrote the baby

book as well as many others.

 

I want to say, I've been through this before, and am doing much better this

time around. It

helps that I have more help (my oldest babies are 12 years & almost 10 years!)

but also, i

have a more relaxed demeanor about everything this time around.

 

some suggestions (from my baby to yours! >>

do you have any music he might like?

my baby LOVES the gypsy kings, Louis Prima, Mozart, and this crazy french

music we

have... stereo totale - musique automatic, =)

maybe some music will give you a little bits of time to deal with things...

 

most importantly MOST MOST important...

do you nap when your baby naps?

 

seriously.. don't clean, don't prep food, don't do anything.. NAP... at least

once.. it will

help you much more than a clean house

 

if you feel like talking baby stuff, comparing notes and such.. feel free to

email me off list

and I'll get back to you as soon as I can !=)

 

jenni

 

, " alia robinson " <aliar4 wrote:

>

> I never have liked it much, going to give it a second try. I still have yet

> to go full veg, but I so want to. My family isn't supportive, and I am a

> zombie from dealing with a four month old who refuses to sleep through the

> night, and cries constantly if he's put down. I need recipes that are so

> simple I can throw them together while holding a baby.

>

> Alia