dating meat eaters

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No, I would never consider dating a man who wasn't already a vegan in all areas of his life. It wouldn't be fair to me or him. This of course does not apply to friends or family or anyone else, just to someone that I would date. It does have to do with recognizing the fact that one of the most important things in a relationship of this sort is shared values, whatever they might be. I don't know how you make a long term relationship with someone with whom you don't share your most basic core values. That dooms the relationship from the beginning. Just my take on it. I am a vegan for the ethical issues involved. It is my most basic value. Just to date casually would still make me have to sit with and watch someone else blithely partake of an animal that lived its life in brutality, pain, fear, agony just to satisfy someone's taste buds.

linda

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Susan

Someone at work asked me if I'd date someone who atemeat. That's a good question and I'm still thinkingabout it. I'm inclined to think not, because thisvalue is so important to me; however, I'm not reallysure to be honest with you (I don't want to getmarried again, so that wasn't an issue). My extendedfamily are all omnivors to varying extents and Ihaven't disowned any of them. I'd hate to think thatwhat someone ate was the only thing I valued aboutthem. It doesn't feel peaceful to me to discriminateon this, so I still need to figure this one out. Ithink my value for nondiscrimination is stronger thanmy value about being vegan, or maybe the two valuesare equally as strong. I hope I figure it out beforeI die and it won't matter anymore. :-) Susan--- earthstrm <earthstorm wrote:> Hi Jo> > Very well said, thank you! As someone in the> situation of living > with two carnivores whom I love very much, has a> Father who is my > role model and a carnivore and who knows not one> soul nearby who is > a vegan, I can completely relate to your post.> > BB> Nikki > > , "jo"> <jo.heartwork@g...> wrote:> >> > Would I give up Colin if he went back to eating> animals - NO. > Would I expect him to give me up if I started eating> animals - NO. > Would Peter or our daughter expect Colin and I to> part company over > a change of diet, even if we wished it was> different? Would I > disown Peter if he became unvegan - NO.> > > > Being vegan might be the right thing to do, but it> shouldn't rob > us of our compassion and feeling for others. > > > > As you pointed out when you posted about the vegan> vixens - you > knew I wouldn't like it. Now it doesn't matter> whether I am right > or wrong - most people think it is okay (just like> most people think > eating meat is okay). Should I not talk to you> because you like > something I think differently about? > > > > To me being unfaithful to a partner is as bad as> eating meat - > should I not mix with people who have been> unfaithful, or insist > that if they are in my house they will not be> unfaithful or use > different dishes to me? I think not, because these> people have > different ways of looking at things, just as meat> eaters do.> > > > Jo> > > > > ________ DSL – Something to write home about. Just $16.99/mo. or less. dsl.