Succeeding with RF: Socializing with SAD-eaters ... Dinner at a friend's home

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Lynne, I understand ... sounds as if you planned to do exactly what I

described, and just had to deal with other " matters " instead.

 

I understand, if you hadn't mentioned anything, they may not have, either. I

didn't notice that first time through,glad you emphasized it this time

around. And you are indeed fortunate to have such a friend as this!

 

Regarding your last paragraph, yes, I too have experienced the same many

times ... you intend to take " just one bite " , and that one bite triggers all

the sensory connections with memories, and you eat the whole thing, and the

next things, and the next ....

 

I find it MUCH easier not to take that first bite!

 

Best,

Elchanan

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rawfood [rawfood ] On Behalf Of

Lynne Moore

Saturday, September 22, 2007 6:14 PM

rawfood

Re: [Raw Food] Succeeding with RF: Socializing with SAD-eaters ...

Dinner at a friend's home

 

 

HI Elchanan,

Thanks for your quick response and your suggestions! Sorry I am late

writing back; I don't use the computer on Yom Kippor.

ACtually, my play WAS to bring a huge fruit salad for 16 people and

also a green leaf salad; however, with two young children at home all

day (they were off of school for the holiday), I just about had enough

time to make a 12 pound fruit salad! I ran out of time, which was a

shame, since that green leafy salad would have saved me from munching on

unhealthy foods.

I am sure that if I hadn't eaten any of their food, my friends

wouldn't have said anything. HOwever, since I told them that I tasted

their potato kegal and their fruit crisp, they WERE DELIGHTED and told

me that I should not feel guilty because it made them very happy that I

was able to enjoy their special foods!

Two days before the dinner, my friend, Ann, called me up in a

panic and said, " Lynne, I am SO STRESSED OUT!! " I asked her , " Oh no,

what's the matter? " She said, " I don't think there's anything on the

dinner menu that YOU CAN EAT!!! " " Can I make you some spaghetti?

Would you eat that or a raw plate of vegetables? Tell me what I can

make that you will eat. " Since Ann basically knows the foods that I

will and will not eat, she was very concerned. I told her, " Please

don't worry about me!! You have enough to concern yourself with 16

people coming over for dinner. I was going to tell you that I'm

bringing a big fruit salad over and possibly a regular salad too, so

I'll be fine. I " ll have plenty to eat. " I was very touched, though,

that she cared so much about pleasing me and making me feel

comfortable!! These are really good friends!

I actually DID try to just take a bite of a few things, but the

items were SO good, I ended up eating an entire brownie, a medium

portion of fruit crisp, and a couple of other things. However, I didn't

get sick the way I did the year before when I ate EVERYTHING they had!!

So I guess I am improving!! I " ll do even better next year!!

I appreciate your comments and suggestions!

Lynne