re: socializing with SAD-eaters

[Guest guest]

I usually eat before I go unless I know that the host is serving raw organic

SOMETHING.

And I'll take a snack with me-raw almonds or a banana-something to eat later to

carry me

through the evening. Isn't the idea to enjoy oneself and the company of others?

What

difference does it make what you put in your mouth?

 

If I fill my plate with greens and other veggies, who's going to say anything?

What? Am I

making someone uncomfortable? If that's what I'm hungry for, if that's what I

want, what

business is it of anyone else's, including the host? The definition for the

word " host "

should include some reference to accomodation, but the actual definition refers

to

entertaining. Cooked food is not entertainment to me. It's sedation and self

destruction.

When's the last time you went to a sedation and self-destruction party? Strong

words for a

strong subject. Hey, that's the way it is.

 

I can't say I've never been guilted into eating something I didn't want to eat.

I specifically

remember one incident and I'll tell you: to this day, the way that cooked meal

felt in my

body afterward only amplified my feelings of ill-will toward this person.

 

And one other time, when I went out with a group of friends to a Sushi

restaurant in Santa

Barbara, one of the girls tried to make a spectacle of me. I was being discreet

in my

questions to the server about a certain dish, but it upset one of the dinner

guests who

apparently had had enough of my selectivity. I didn't give in though, and it

just made me

realize she wasn't really my friend. You learn a lot about the people in your

life when

they're up against something you do for yourself that you genuinely believe is

in your best

interest. They either support you or they don't. Bottom line. And if it makes

them look at

their own life and choices, then I'm doing them a favor whether they see it that

way or not.

 

You should never have to compromise your diet to make someone else feel

comfortable.

If someone takes a cleaver to their left hand, should you do the same to make

them feel

better? I say, let them be uncomfortable. Don't conform. It's your body and

you're the

one who has to live in it.

 

rawfood , Lynne Moore <fountayn wrote:

>

> Hi Janet,

> Since you brought up about watching other SAD counterparts eating

> cooked flesh, I thought I would throw a question out to the group. Last

> week, we started the celebration of our Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah.

> We were invited to my best friend's house for a big Rosh Hashanah

> dinner. Even though they both KNEW that my diet consisted of raw fruits

> and vegetables (and they were sure to include these in their menu for

> the dinner plus I brought a huge fruit salad), they made it very clear

> afterwards that they would have been insulted if I hadn't eaten ANY of

> their prepared food. I did taste a few of their appetizers and side

> dishes, and when I told them this, they were extremely happy. I was

> telling them that I just couldn't resist and that I just had to go off

> of my diet. They said that I shouldn't feel guilty and that they are

> very happy that I indulged in their delicious food.

> I was wondering how everyone " handles " going to someone's house

> for dinner, especially a holiday dinner. How do you stay on your raw

> vegan low fat diet WITHOUT offending anyone?

> Thanks,

> Lynne