RE: defensiveness (was: Baby Food (WAS: Would love to hear your opinion on this.... about banana diet)

May 19, 2007

Sarah, i want to give you a hug. because i have been in groups before where i

felt attacked and so i was defensive before i took the time to really really

absorb what was being said. it is really a hard position to be in.

i saw no judgement at all Elchanan's words. no, it is not a perfect world.

but we can choose to make our small part of it the best it can possibly be. it

is unfortunate that extended breastfeeding is considered child abuse where you

live.....some one better lock me up.

i hope that you will re read what he said. absorb it without defensiveness.

there is so much to learn.

peace,

laura

sarah shaw <hppymummy wrote:

In a perfect world this would work great. But we cant be following our kids

to school to breastfeed them. Plus where I live this would be considered

child abuse and my kids would be taken away. Along with that most people

have jobs outside of the home so they can support their families and keep

roofs over their heads. I am finding alot of your comments to be judgmental

on how we raise our kids without leaving a chance to discuss. You talk as

though we are bad parents for not doing it the way you see it. When there

is not alotof information out there to support that this way is infact safe

for a child. I just feel your comments are picking at our abilities as

parents and the negitive. Do you have children, have you done everything

perfectly with them?

> " Elchanan "

>rawfood

>To:

>[Raw Food] Baby Food (WAS: Would love to hear your opinion on

>this.... about banana diet)

>Fri, 18 May 2007 09:47:45 -0700

>

>Marjorie,

>

>I agree that the only healthful primary food for babies at this age is

>mother's milk. At the same time, babies can begin to eat a bit of fruits.

>The problems often arise when parents wean too early and introduce foods

>too

>early, before the baby's metabolism is sufficiently developed to digest

>those foods. For example, if one were to introduce bananas at 4 or 5

>months,

>a baby might actually develop a lifelong intolerance to bananas ... a MOST

>unfortunate event!! Why? Because at that age, the baby's body is expecting

>ONLY mother's milk and might interpret the banana (or anything else) as

>foreign matter. This is why babies' bodies work SO hard to fight off

>formula

>... at a biological level, every part of their being knows it's not food

>for

>them. And this is why babies push away so many of the foods we decide they

> " need " . They NEED their own mother's milk ... pretty much to the exclusion

>of most other foods, and pretty much up to age 3 or even 4. And yes, this

>means that we are biologically designed to have small families. And there

>are MANY other implications.

>

>Please note that the ages I've chosen in this example are arbitrary. The

>optimal food for babies and young children is their OWN mother's milk ...

>just as with ALL the mammals.

>

>Make sense?

>

>Elchanan

> _____

>

>rawfood [rawfood ] On Behalf Of

>Marjorie

>Thursday, May 17, 2007 8:41 PM

>rawfood

>Re: [Raw Food] Would love to hear your opinion on this.... about

>banana diet

>

>Hi Sarah,

>

>In my extensive experience with babies of 9 months (3 of my own,

>numerous relatives, and daycare), ALL foods are constipating except

>mama's milk.

>

>Not to say your son can't have a banana to mouth and enjoy, but

>mashing up and spoonfeeding bananas is introducing food into a gut

>that is set up to digest milk.

>

>Hope that helps clarify the banana question a bit...

>

>Marjorie

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>

May 19, 2007

Sorry to butt in, BUT.......lol, I just couldn't help but toss my unsolicited 2

cents in:

As I've been reading these posts as an outsider and unbiased. I also see the

responses as " defensive " in nature. I don't see anyone attacking anyone. Often

times (it is my opinion) that people/we get defensive if we feel, some kind of

guilt about what choices we may make or feel we have to make in our lives. Often

times we fear we are being bad parents or that others may see us as " bad

parents " when, in fact, they are just giving sound information. If I don't feel

guilty of something then a statement or comment is not going to hit me as a

slight or personal attack in any way.

What I love about elchanan is the profound knowledge and generosity in sharing

this information for all of us who desperately wish to " soak it all up " .

I love this group!!!

Jeannie

your time is the most cherished gift of all, tomorrow is promised to no one.

laura b. <ladymomma

rawfood

Friday, May 18, 2007 8:28:33 PM

RE: [Raw Food] defensiveness (was: Baby Food (WAS: Would love to hear

your opinion on this.... about banana diet)