Help - how do I tell people that I'm coming back to the fold?

[Guest guest]

I'm a long-time not posting member, as I gave up being vegan for the second time

and never got round to leaving the group. I gave up partly through pressure

from my family to go back to being vegetarian and partly through my own lack of

willpower. But it just... well, it just feels wrong, and here, just under a

year later, I find myself longing to be vegan again.

 

My problem is how do I tell my family? My husband is on board, albeit worried,

and has agreed that there should be a trial period in which I am vegan at home

but not generally vegan to the wider world, so I can prove to him that I can

manage and will be able to take care of myself in terms of nutrition. My

parents, on the other hand, are unlikely to be so tolerant. I don't know how to

tell them... it's mad, because they are vegetarians because of the impact of

meat consumption on the world's resources. I am just taking their beliefs to

the logical conclusion. I think though that there is a belief that my

depression is impacted on by being vegan - also mad, as I've been near my lowest

ebb this last year when I was back on the dairy. I just don't know how to

approach telling them.

 

My friends too. This will be the third time that I have tried being vegan,

which is why I'm going to do it on the quiet first. I need to prove to myself

and to my husband that I can do it. But I know that everyone will be waiting

for me to fail again, and that's going to be a hard thing to live with. It's my

own fault, but it will be hard and I don't know how to approach telling people

that I'm trying again. Any advice would be welcome.

[Guest guest]

Hiya,

 

What is it that your parents need to be tolerant about?

 

As regards to what friends/people think about you giving it another go, it

(personally) wouldn't enter my head. You're doing it for yourself, not for them.

And it's better to give it a third go (whether you succeed or not) than to just

give up.

 

What part of being vegan do you find so hard? If you say, hopefully there'll be

a few suggestions on here to get you better prepared this time.

 

Cheers,

James

 

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gayalondiel99

Wednesday, December 23, 2009 5:04 PM

Help - how do I tell people that I'm coming back to the

fold?

 

 

 

I'm a long-time not posting member, as I gave up being vegan for the second

time and never got round to leaving the group. I gave up partly through pressure

from my family to go back to being vegetarian and partly through my own lack of

willpower. But it just... well, it just feels wrong, and here, just under a year

later, I find myself longing to be vegan again.

 

My problem is how do I tell my family? My husband is on board, albeit worried,

and has agreed that there should be a trial period in which I am vegan at home

but not generally vegan to the wider world, so I can prove to him that I can

manage and will be able to take care of myself in terms of nutrition. My

parents, on the other hand, are unlikely to be so tolerant. I don't know how to

tell them... it's mad, because they are vegetarians because of the impact of

meat consumption on the world's resources. I am just taking their beliefs to the

logical conclusion. I think though that there is a belief that my depression is

impacted on by being vegan - also mad, as I've been near my lowest ebb this last

year when I was back on the dairy. I just don't know how to approach telling

them.

 

My friends too. This will be the third time that I have tried being vegan,

which is why I'm going to do it on the quiet first. I need to prove to myself

and to my husband that I can do it. But I know that everyone will be waiting for

me to fail again, and that's going to be a hard thing to live with. It's my own

fault, but it will be hard and I don't know how to approach telling people that

I'm trying again. Any advice would be welcome.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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