commitments and compromises

[Guest guest]

Chrism,

 

I want to put a question to you about choices, but ask that you

don't answer in terms of what choice I should make (who but me

can do that?) -- I just want to know if I'm misrepresenting these

choices in my own mind, or failing to see other options.

 

If I commit to a certain type of diet, but agree to eat one " ordinary "

meal a day, if only to avoid being antisocial at home, this is a

compromise. One might ask whether this is a commitment at all.

 

If I have sex with my spouse once a month because it's one of

the few remaining positive bonds between us, I'm obviously

going against your guideline (in a much earlier message) for

retention. This is a compromise, but probably not anyone's idea

of indulgence.

 

Naturally, a day might come when I am guided by the K in a more

forceful way, and then I can say I've got to do things such and

such way in order to achieve the intended results and to avoid

unnecessary pain. But, in the absence of such a voice, one

chooses. What I'm grappling with is: are compromises and

commitments totally incompatible? Does one have to choose

between a more or less ascetic lifestyle and ones social

commitments to family and others? Should I be seriously

considering saying (at home) I'll never have sex with you again?

or that I'll never eat your meals again? And if I don't do these

things, have I passed up a unique chance for " progress " or is

there a middle ground? (again, I don't want the questions

answered, I just want to know if I'm asking the right questions).

 

Also, I have committed (to my family) to attend your seminar. It's

not easy for me to ask to take a weekend off for myself (I usually

help out with other things on weekends), but I've done this. Does

this seminar exist? I understand that circumstances might make

difficult or impossible for you -- I just want to know...

 

John E

[Guest guest]

I must first indicate for full disclosure of K intentions before any commitments

are made.

 

Dietary choices are yours yes? They can be partaken of with others at the

dinner table. But perhaps other issues are before you and then it is a matter of

your own feelings of integrity.

 

Retention is for the withholding of ejaculation and not the abstinence of sex.

This will increase the sexual experience for you both.

 

Feel for what is true for you John E. Your questions are pointing you in the

right directions when you allow for moderation and yet steadfastness in your

practice and focus with regard to your Kundalini. Be honest with yourself and

those around you. Leave literature about that gives pointers of your interests.

 

I am coming to San Diego. It is still a bit soon to say about the seminar but

we can meet regardless - let me know how it goes for you -

 

nologo3 <esposito wrote:

Chrism,

 

I want to put a question to you about choices, but ask that you

don't answer in terms of what choice I should make (who but me

can do that?) -- I just want to know if I'm misrepresenting these

choices in my own mind, or failing to see other options.

 

If I commit to a certain type of diet, but agree to eat one " ordinary "

meal a day, if only to avoid being antisocial at home, this is a

compromise. One might ask whether this is a commitment at all.

 

If I have sex with my spouse once a month because it's one of

the few remaining positive bonds between us, I'm obviously

going against your guideline (in a much earlier message) for

retention. This is a compromise, but probably not anyone's idea

of indulgence.

 

Naturally, a day might come when I am guided by the K in a more

forceful way, and then I can say I've got to do things such and

such way in order to achieve the intended results and to avoid

unnecessary pain. But, in the absence of such a voice, one

chooses. What I'm grappling with is: are compromises and

commitments totally incompatible? Does one have to choose

between a more or less ascetic lifestyle and ones social

commitments to family and others? Should I be seriously

considering saying (at home) I'll never have sex with you again?

or that I'll never eat your meals again? And if I don't do these

things, have I passed up a unique chance for " progress " or is

there a middle ground? (again, I don't want the questions

answered, I just want to know if I'm asking the right questions).

 

Also, I have committed (to my family) to attend your seminar. It's

not easy for me to ask to take a weekend off for myself (I usually

help out with other things on weekends), but I've done this. Does

this seminar exist? I understand that circumstances might make

difficult or impossible for you -- I just want to know...

 

John E