OT: Getting Along ** Was - Wedding Pictures

October 29, 2005

Hey Michelle,

> Hey Butch,

>

> Just wanted to chime in and agree with what you shared below. My

> husband and I will have been married 2 years on November 8th. With

> 50 just a few weeks away (he's 55) and a couple of marriages under

> my belt, I think I've FINALLY gotten the concept of " mutal

> interdependence " .

Good it is .. and wishing you many, many more years of the good life. I

reckon the need came to me slowly over a lotta years .. maybe I learned

or began to grasp the concept due to a lack of having it in my life .. I

just sorta knew something important was missing.

> As a woman, I sometimes still have " Cinderella " fantasies ~

> conditioned beliefs from childhood. I find that as long as I stay

> clear of those romantic expectations, I'm pretty much a bliss baby.

I doubt that many men can continue to play the Prince Charming role for

too long without feeling a heckuva lotta stress. ;-)

> While I still love flowers and a sweet little " for no reason " gift

> now and then, it's the acts of love, support, respect, kindness and

> friendship on a daily basis that I'm enjoying most.

Yep .. I hear you that. Such a role has always come easy for me cause

I'm basically a romantic at heart .. says those who could get past the

armor I wore for a lotta years. ;-)

> It's so cool you're married after 18 years solo. Enjoy those feasts

> and dry those dishes!

Thankee ma'am .. I like my life now. I don't miss a thing about the old

Butch or any of the male folks I associated with in those days. Most

were drinking buddies but when we got past the drinks .. there was very

little substance to the relationship.

> Michelle

Y'all keep smiling. :-) Butch

> I believe that marriage is a symbiotic relationship of mutual

> interdependence .. some folks try to assign more romantic terms to

> it but most of that is but wishful thinking and they are often

> frustrated. If we can keep in mind what its really all about

> we can avoid disappointment and remain happy .. methinks. :-)

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