Guest guest Posted October 28, 2005 Report Share Posted October 28, 2005 Hey Butch, Just wanted to chime in and agree with what you shared below. My husband and I will have been married 2 years on November 8th. With 50 just a few weeks away (he's 55) and a couple of marriages under my belt, I think I've FINALLY gotten the concept of " mutal interdependence " . As a woman, I sometimes still have " Cinderella " fantasies ~ conditioned beliefs from childhood. I find that as long as I stay clear of those romantic expectations, I'm pretty much a bliss baby. While I still love flowers and a sweet little " for no reason " gift now and then, it's the acts of love, support, respect, kindness and friendship on a daily basis that I'm enjoying most. It's so cool you're married after 18 years solo. Enjoy those feasts and dry those dishes! Michelle I believe that marriage is a symbiotic relationship of mutual interdependence .. some folks try to assign more romantic terms to it but most of that is but wishful thinking and they are often frustrated. If we can keep in mind what its really all about we can avoid disappointment and remain happy .. methinks. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2005 Report Share Posted October 28, 2005 Butch! Great pics!! Thanks so much for sharing! Sounds like you got a keeper if she can cook like that and what a bonus that she's a pretty little thing too! :-)) Seriously though, wishing you and your new bride eons of happiness! I like your philosophy on marriage too....food for thought! :-D Hugs! Kelly -- Version: 7.1.362 / Virus Database: 267.12.5/150 - Release 10/27/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2005 Report Share Posted October 28, 2005 Michelle wrote: <I find that as long as I stay clear of those romantic expectations, I'm pretty much a bliss baby. While I still love flowers and a sweet little " for no reason " gift now and then, it's the acts of love, support, respect, kindness and friendship on a daily basis that I'm enjoying most. > Well said. I don't think my husband has ever given me flowers, which is hard for a girl whose Dad bought Mom a bouquet every Saturday. But he did get, and unload, a truckload of manure for me once on Mother's day. Give me the sh^t and I'll grow the flowers. He is so much not a gardener, it meant something. DH is also totally date-challenged. On our 25th I cried. On our 30th I waited with some hope, in vain. On our 35th I took the initiative and organized a nice dinner togetherwith our co-grandparents who are good friends. He had NO idea of the occasion and it did not matter. I know several wives I used to envy because they got the celebrations etc. They have since been dumped. After 40 years we have weathered and let go the expectations, and are treating each other with consideration and kindness. Romance its not. But I'll buy my own chocolate. Ien in the Kootenays, grateful for her " Old Dutch " ***************************** You ought to be Thankful, a Whole Heaping Lot for the places and people you're lucky you're not! ~Dr Seuss who is this Kootenay person anyway? http://www.greatestnetworker.com/ien ****************************** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2005 Report Share Posted October 28, 2005 Butch wrote: <I believe that marriage is a symbiotic relationship of mutual interdependence > In a way, it was easier when men didn't know how to cook and women did not have a clue about carburetors. These days people are too darned romantic for their own good. Life might be easier if fairy tales ended with " And they lived tolerably ever after " . Le meilleur est l'ennemi du bien. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 29, 2005 Report Share Posted October 29, 2005 Hi Nancy, > Butch and Tanya, > > What a lovely couple you make > Beautiful Bride and Handsome Groom. Thank you ma'am. I think you are correct .. and also too kind. I gave thought to entitling the set as " Beauty and the Beast " . ;-) > Glad you put the photos up. My pleasure it was .. it was a long road these last years .. but I'm now grinning each time I think of how my life has turned out. We gave our first dinner party for 6 Russian friends last night .. Tanya spent at least 7 hours in the kitchen yesterday .. she loves to cook and does a splendid job. Russians (like folks in many countries where you watch your money well) cook from the gitgo .. no packaged goods, etc. And lemme tell you .. its been many years since I've had larpin' gud chow like I experienced last night. It was so good .. I agreed to dry the dishes later .. and now I think I have started something that might likely be expected in the future .. but after having done it for myself for most of 18 + years .. I don't mind at all. ;-) > Smiles Nancy And to you .. thanks much .. and keep smiling. :-) Butch > Speaking of weddings .. I posted some photos of ours on the list .. at > URL lst .. click on > Butch (top line .. far right) and then on the yellow folder inside that > main folder. :-P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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