Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 First of all I'd like to address an answer that was posted to me earlier. " Of course this is the onset of The Change, duh! " When I first read this, I was insulted. I turned off my computer for the evening and was going to let this pass. However, the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. My friend and I are not stupid. Neither one of us has gone through " The Change " (another term, though innocuous in and of itself shouldn't be irritating but is, especially connected with this sentence. I went through " the Change " when I was a pre-teen. I went through " the Change " again when I started menstrating, again when I was pregnant, again when I was breast feeding, again when I stopped Lactating, and soon enough, again when I hit menopause. Our whole lives as women we are going through " the Change " ). Both my friend and are ignorant of the onset signs because it's something that has never happend to either of us and are without the benifit of the knowledge and experience of those who have. This was and still is, a legitimate question. So far the consensus is, it probably is, but COULD be something else. If you feel the need to make someone feel stupid or inferior, then perhaps this is not the list for you. The first and foremost rule on this list is to treat other people with kindness and respect. This was obviously not respectful or kind. If you think that the question is stupid, then have the kindness to just delete it and not reply. There have been a few other posts today that have bordered on rudeness. I'm not sure if the poster is just unusually blunt or if they are being deliberately antagonistic, so I have let them pass without comment. At this point I just want to remind people that we don't attack people (Unless it's Gary Young, he's fair game ;-) ) on this list. Question certainly, but please do it respectfully. Challenge opinions, ideas and arguments, but do it nicely. No. I'm not the list owner but I am a moderator and just wanted to remind everyone, show tolerance, show respect and and try and be kind to those of us who are ignorant on subjects that you are more knowledgable about. Kathleen Petrides An extremely annoyed Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 I hope you don't mind but I would like to post my 2 cents. Maybe you are right and maybe you are wrong about the post. Maybe the person who sent this was sending a message and when you read it you took it the wrong way. Sometimes we read in the wrong tone. Our attitude/feelings when we read something is affected by the day we are having. I have this problem sometimes. The message is sent with good intentions but is misinterpted on the other end. I'm not saying you are right or you are wrong but could this have happened. Please understand I was very interested in this post as I have no one to ask these questions of as my mom and one of my aunts has had complete histo and so has my little sister. My other aunt is too old to remember and always had female problems anyway. I will be going through this with no one to ask questions of. Please don't think I'm sticking up for anyone just wanted to add my 2 cents. Kathy in Ohio - Woobey Queen 11/30/2004 2:21:07 AM Rude posts First of all I'd like to address an answer that was posted to me earlier. " Of course this is the onset of The Change, duh! " When I first read this, I was insulted. I turned off my computer for the evening and was going to let this pass. However, the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. My friend and I are not stupid. Neither one of us has gone through " The Change " (another term, though innocuous in and of itself shouldn't be irritating but is, especially connected with this sentence. I went through " the Change " when I was a pre-teen. I went through " the Change " again when I started menstrating, again when I was pregnant, again when I was breast feeding, again when I stopped Lactating, and soon enough, again when I hit menopause. Our whole lives as women we are going through " the Change " ). Both my friend and are ignorant of the onset signs because it's something that has never happend to either of us and are without the benifit of the knowledge and experience of those who have. This was and still is, a legitimate question. So far the consensus is, it probably is, but COULD be something else. If you feel the need to make someone feel stupid or inferior, then perhaps this is not the list for you. The first and foremost rule on this list is to treat other people with kindness and respect. This was obviously not respectful or kind. If you think that the question is stupid, then have the kindness to just delete it and not reply. There have been a few other posts today that have bordered on rudeness. I'm not sure if the poster is just unusually blunt or if they are being deliberately antagonistic, so I have let them pass without comment. At this point I just want to remind people that we don't attack people (Unless it's Gary Young, he's fair game ;-) ) on this list. Question certainly, but please do it respectfully. Challenge opinions, ideas and arguments, but do it nicely. No. I'm not the list owner but I am a moderator and just wanted to remind everyone, show tolerance, show respect and and try and be kind to those of us who are ignorant on subjects that you are more knowledgable about. Kathleen Petrides An extremely annoyed Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 of course you are correct, kathleen. the course of a woman's life is full of changes. i am 47 and over the past few years have had very similar things happening as your friend. regular as clock work but slowly changing to the heavy days and then almost nothing. i did go to the doctor about them. they checked my hormones and said that it was slightly low but not quite to the menepausal phase. their suggestion was to put me on birth control. now i've had my tubes tied for over 11 yrs now. i certainly didn't have any other symptoms of the change. i went thru 3 different types of pills with them experimenting on my system. each had it's own set of problems for me and in the end, i just decided to drop the pills and go with the flow. my theory on the clots is that this is the inner lining of the uterus, slogging off. as we get older, there is less elasticity in our system. the vagina area gets drier thus the lining has less liquid content to it, thus making it thicker and stickier. the body knows that it has to flush this from the system so it does. so what you get is the more concentrated clots. i don't know if more water added to the system would change this, it hasn't for me. it's also no more painful then what it was before. so i would say, if your friend is worried about this, by all means go to the doctor, specially if she's got additional pain that she didn't have before. i am not one to go to the doctors either. you have to take me kickin & screaming in pain to get me there. i'm almost at that point now as i took a fall a couple of weeks ago and now it feels like someone is poking an ice pick in my butt cheek and it's starting to travel down the back of my leg. i suppose that when it gets to the ankle and i can't get out of bed in the morning, i'll take the plunge and go. a friend sent me a list of 35 signs of peri-menopause. i will send it to you. maybe you can go over this list with your friend and see if she's experiencing some of these symptoms also. deb c chillicothe, mo > >My friend and I are not stupid. Neither one of us has gone through " The Change " (another term, though innocuous in and of itself shouldn't be irritating but is, especially connected with this sentence. I went through " the Change " when I was a pre-teen. I went through " the Change " again when I started menstrating, again when I was pregnant, again when I was breast feeding, again when I stopped Lactating, and soon enough, again when I hit menopause. Our whole lives as women we are going through " the Change " ). Both my friend and are ignorant of the onset signs because it's something that has never happend to either of us and are without the benifit of the knowledge and experience of those who have. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Debra, would you mind sending me that list as well .... i have yet to go any symptoms of menopause, and i am also 47. I do have normal menses and compared to most have it a much shorter duration than many women. I am lucky if it last 3 full days ... been that way all my life. I have never heard of a list like this and it intregues me.. Thank You Vicki Peters Debra <echo7c wrote: a friend sent me a list of 35 signs of peri-menopause. i will send it to you. maybe you can go over this list with your friend and see if she's experiencing some of these symptoms also. deb c chillicothe, mo The all-new My – Get yours free! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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