FW: RE :suicide

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Sent this morning and bounced by Yahell.

 

Hi Chris

So sorry to hear about your friend, suicide must be one of the hardest

losses to deal with as in addition to coping with the loss of a loved one on

a daily level, those left to grieve must also cope with feelings of guilt

that they " should " or " could " have done " something " to prevent it. There

will also be feelings of anger ( " why did you DO this to us! " ) and

helplessness ( " if only he'd talked me! " ) to try to come to terms with. So

many emotions, grief, loss, guilt, anger, helplessness, mixed together are

very hard to deal with.

Because Reiki can stir turmoil in those who are not ready to address their

emotional problems I would not recommend it for someone in your friend's

position. Her hurt is too raw for her to face yet. She need time to " just

grieve " before she can move forward to address the other feelings that will

eventually emerge. Reiki is a two way process, the receiver must be ready to

work though issues that Reiki may bring up, if they are not, then the person

can be left feeling agitated, depressed or angry without understanding why

they feel that way. As your friend will already be experiencing these kinds

of emotions, Reiki could intensify them. So although Reiki wont cause

physical harm in the way an irritant essential oil could, it can be " too

much to handle " emotionally just now. As the grieving process moves on, she

will find comfort in Reiki.

Using EO's at a time like this may also not be a good idea, because the mind

can become " conditioned " to aroma, locking the person in to the memory of

grief, so that each time the oil is encountered in the future, the aroma

returns them back to the emotional feelings of grief and sadness. I had a

client who found lavender overwhelmingly saddening; we eventually worked it

though to the time care assistants used lavender room fragrance in her

mothers palliative care unit. For this lady, innocuous lavender brings back

the memories and sadness that accompanied her mother's death.

Any therapy, used too soon after such a loss can be counter productive.

Time to come to terms with this is what they both need before they will be

able to move forward. The grieving process can't be rushed; it's a necessary

part of eventual acceptance that the loved one has gone. The best way to

help through this very painful time is to do what you are doing - just being

there to listen and hold them through the pain they will both need to

express before they can address the deeper feelings.

 

St John's wort may give a lift to help get through the worst days.

Hope some of this helps, and sorry it's not more positive.

Liz

 

<snip> I've never heard of this type of therapy.....obviously heard of the

Reiki. I find it strange tho that the Reiki practitioner doesn't want to

treat her....even if the wounds are very fresh. I was under the impression

that Reiki can do no harm?..........