Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Hi all, A very good friend of mine just lost her 45 YO brother to suicide She is having a hard time dealing with it, as is his wife & daughter. She would like me to put together a basket of sorts, with some healing, calming items. She really likes my sheet spray....so thought I'd do that.....but what EO's? The first thing that came to mind is Back's Rescue Remedy....tho I've not ever used it. Here is the rest of her email to me......I've never heard of this type of therapy.....obviously heard of the Reiki. I find it strange tho that the Reiki practitioner doesn't want to treat her....even if the wounds are very fresh. I was under the impression that Reiki can do no harm? >>>>She went for Reiki last week but the practioner felt she needed to recommend a neuro-hynotherapist...too many painful layers for the Reiki master. Karen, my sister-in-law, has a Weds eve appt with neuro-hypotheraist. I am not familiar with this alternative method, but pray it brings Karen some relief. >>>>> Any other thoughts? I've already got my friend watching John......and I am sure she recommended it to the SIL as well. Think I'll send her a link to get a couple of his books. Thanks guys Chris Kelly Lots of NEW categories added 8/04 Tons of stone and silver jewelry http://www.scentsappeal.net ---------- --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.788 / Virus Database: 533 - Release 11/1/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Hi Chris, Very sorry to hear about your friend and her family. In addition to any number of wonderful oils that would give them some relief, flower essence would also be an excellent idea. My source for the essence is called " Flower Essence Repertory " . Most any health food store will have a copy, look up the symptoms i.e. brokenheartedness or deprression and despair, and there will be a list of essences that are recommended. My guess about the Reiki master is that it is her own stuff getting in the way. I've been a Reiki Master for a very long time and Reiki is very calming during times of grief and despair. And if its OK with you I'd like to send her Reiki from a distance. Rita Chris Kelly <Purrrdy wrote: Hi all, A very good friend of mine just lost her 45 YO brother to suicide She is having a hard time dealing with it, as is his wife & daughter. She would like me to put together a basket of sorts, with some healing, calming items. She really likes my sheet spray....so thought I'd do that.....but what EO's? The first thing that came to mind is Back's Rescue Remedy....tho I've not ever used it. Here is the rest of her email to me......I've never heard of this type of therapy.....obviously heard of the Reiki. I find it strange tho that the Reiki practitioner doesn't want to treat her....even if the wounds are very fresh. I was under the impression that Reiki can do no harm? >>>>She went for Reiki last week but the practioner felt she needed to recommend a neuro-hynotherapist...too many painful layers for the Reiki master. Karen, my sister-in-law, has a Weds eve appt with neuro-hypotheraist. I am not familiar with this alternative method, but pray it brings Karen some relief. >>>>> Any other thoughts? I've already got my friend watching John......and I am sure she recommended it to the SIL as well. Think I'll send her a link to get a couple of his books. Thanks guys Chris Kelly Lots of NEW categories added 8/04 Tons of stone and silver jewelry http://www.scentsappeal.net ---------- --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.788 / Virus Database: 533 - Release 11/1/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Hello Chris, So sorry to hear of your friends. They are fortunate to have your loving support. Like Rita, I don't get the decision made by the Reiki practitioner. Of course, I don't know the details, but as a long time Hypnotherapist, I would recommend some emotional balance before going into what can be very deep emotional work. This isn't yet the time for Hypnotherapy. But, that's just me and my humble opinion. Reiki would be extremely helpful right now. Bach Flower Remedies would be excellent. Rescue Remedy is a good place to start. Wild Rose will help with depression and Walnut would also be good now, to help with the change and release the past. As healing evolves, there will be others that will be of great support. The flower remedies are so wonderful for emotional and spiritual healing. Quick, and very effective. I would highly encourage Reiki healing from afar, and tapping into the power of prayer from which I've seen miracles. If inspired, the Unity prayer line is 1-816-969-2000. In heart, Michelle www.holisticmenopause.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Hi Chris, That is so sad! My heart goes out to your friend and the rest of the family affected by such a tragic loss. The flower essences sounds like a really good idea. Also, not the same situation as far as the manner of death, but after 9-11 I sent a few gift baskets that contained a variety of rose products to loved ones who lost ones . Rose is known to help sooth a grieving heart and aid in recovering from such traumatic losses. A good friend of mine passed last year and her family (who also are good friends of mine) find John Edward to be very comforting. They've even gone to see him live. Here is his web site http://www.johnedward.net/ More than anything, being there for them is the most important gift of all. *Hugs* Chris (list mom) http://www.alittleolfactory.com Chris Kelly [Purrrdy] Hi all, A very good friend of mine just lost her 45 YO brother to suicide She is having a hard time dealing with it, as is his wife & daughter. She would like me to put together a basket of sorts, with some healing, calming items. She really likes my sheet spray....so thought I'd do that.....but what EO's? The first thing that came to mind is Back's Rescue Remedy....tho I've not ever used it. Here is the rest of her email to me......I've never heard of this type of therapy.....obviously heard of the Reiki. I find it strange tho that the Reiki practitioner doesn't want to treat her....even if the wounds are very fresh. I was under the impression that Reiki can do no harm? >>>>She went for Reiki last week but the practioner felt she needed to recommend a neuro-hynotherapist...too many painful layers for the Reiki master. Karen, my sister-in-law, has a Weds eve appt with neuro-hypotheraist. I am not familiar with this alternative method, but pray it brings Karen some relief. >>>>> Any other thoughts? I've already got my friend watching John......and I am sure she recommended it to the SIL as well. Think I'll send her a link to get a couple of his books. Thanks guys Chris Kelly Lots of NEW categories added 8/04 Tons of stone and silver jewelry http://www.scentsappeal.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2004 Report Share Posted November 16, 2004 Hi Chris, I know this is old, but I just wanted to share that I've been through a suicide and it's rough, especially when you have been close to the person. My daughter's pediatrician committed suicide back in 1998 and I saw him spiraling out of control, and I did what I could to help him, but the worst part of it is the guilt you feel that you could have done more and that's part of the healing process along with the grief you feel over losing them. Just realizing that there is nothing you could have done to save them especially if you made yourself available to them and did your best. At least that's my experience. I have used the Bach Flower Rescue Remedy and it works somewhat, I've used it for times of extreme stress, but not by itself. The sheet spray is a good idea to help her sleep maybe even a dream pillow. But you have to be careful that she doesn't imprint certain scents to the death. I hope that makes sense. For instance, I had some new music I had just bought right before I found out about his suicide and I was playing one of them when I called his office to bring my daughter in when I heard the recording that he had died. For some reason, I cannot play those CDs anymore because they take me back to that mood from when he died. Strange. I didn't know something like that could happen. Just be careful what you give to her and if you do, just make it simple blend that you make specifically for her in this time. Chances are, she might not do it, but just a thought. I am first degree Reiki and I haven't heard of not being able to treat someone, but she may have a point and I am inclined to agree that the family should see an NLP practitioner to help them process their feelings. I have done NLP and it is very powerful and healing. It is best if they do not bog themselves down with two many therapies and stick to the one at the moment. Mourning is a process, even moreso with suicide, just relating my own experience. It's a walk through the darkness, but somehow you manage to come out on the other side. Hugs to you and your friend, Michele Robles , Chris Kelly <Purrrdy@c...> wrote: > Hi all, > A very good friend of mine just lost her 45 YO brother to suicide : ( She > is having a hard time dealing with it, as is his wife & daughter. She > would like me to put together a basket of sorts, with some healing, calming > items. She really likes my sheet spray....so thought I'd do that.....but > what EO's? The first thing that came to mind is Back's Rescue > Remedy....tho I've not ever used it. Here is the rest of her email to > me......I've never heard of this type of therapy.....obviously heard of the > Reiki. I find it strange tho that the Reiki practitioner doesn't want to > treat her....even if the wounds are very fresh. I was under the impression > that Reiki can do no harm? > > >>>>She went for Reiki last week but the practioner felt she needed to > recommend a neuro-hynotherapist...too many painful layers for the Reiki > master. Karen, my sister-in-law, has a Weds eve appt with > neuro-hypotheraist. I am not familiar with this alternative method, but > pray it brings Karen some relief. > >>>>> > > Any other thoughts? I've already got my friend watching John......and I am > sure she recommended it to the SIL as well. Think I'll send her a link to > get a couple of his books. > Thanks guys > > Chris Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2004 Report Share Posted November 16, 2004 Michele is right, music is a powerful connector to our memories and 'nerves'.. We buried my son to the tune of ' Imagine' by John Lennon and whenever I hear that music , I stand still and fall apart, quietly for just a split moment. He so much wanted Peace in this world and was afraid to grow up to become cannon fodder.. I think scent and music can pull things from our memory deep down and are very influential in our lives. Give me some woodsy scents and some Haydn or Mozart, Paul Simon and I will be ready for anything. Give me some floral scent and heavy metal and I just might feel totally out of whack, ready to hit something, someone... BUT that's ME, someone else might react just the opposite. C-M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2004 Report Share Posted November 16, 2004 Speaking of that, I have an interesting story about sandalwood. The first time I smelled it I was in Eureka Springs, Arkansas at this little oil shop, like 1980. It was the first oil I ever bought, and now every time I smell sandalwood, I still remember back to that trip because I was with my school. It was a perfume not the EO, but so far I haven't smelled a perfume sandalwood that good. Michele , Christa Maria <cmaria@t...> wrote: > Michele is right, music is a powerful connector to our memories and > 'nerves'.. > We buried my son to the tune of ' Imagine' by John Lennon and whenever > I hear that music , I stand still and fall apart, quietly for just a > split moment. He so much wanted Peace in this world and was afraid to > grow up to become cannon fodder.. > I think scent and music can pull things from our memory deep down and > are very influential in our lives. > Give me some woodsy scents and some Haydn or Mozart, Paul Simon and I > will be ready for anything. > Give me some floral scent and heavy metal and I just might feel totally > out of whack, ready to hit something, someone... > BUT that's ME, someone else might react just the opposite. > C-M > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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