Your Medical Conditions -- Is the Root Your Relationships?

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http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/05/your-medical-conditions-is-root-your.htmlMany women don't know that ongoing stress (recognized or not) leads to very predictable medical conditions. Our mental state is our physical state so women with the worst health issues are often women with the worst emotional stressors.Women

who were raised in addicted, mentally ill, abusive, or pathological

families often have the most severe and lingering of medical symptoms

and diseases. One reason is that they have an accumulative effect of

stress-related disorders because of the length of time they have been

'stressed.' Since many women who were in disordered families go on to

pick disordered men, their stress simply rolls over into the next

relationship.Or if she is able to avoid the disordered intimate

relationship, her previous exposure to the disordered family or

resulting stress may go untreated. In those cases, the stress is still

stored in the body.We

now know that stress has to go somewhere. It goes into your body as

deep as the cellular level as well into your muscles and tissues. This

type of stress storage can result in diseases that effect the muscles

and tissues like MS, Lupus, Fibromyalgia.Stress attacks the

immune system and renders it ineffective. This can result in diseases

like Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome, Epstein-Barr Syndrome

and other auto-immune disorders like Lupus and Fibromyalgia that end up

moving from the immune system to the muscles and tissues. (Ever say 'He's wearing me out?' He literally is!)Stress

negatively effects blood pressure -- high blood pressure can lead to

strokes, heart disease, and other long term diseases. (Ever say, 'He's killing me?')Stress

floods the body with cortisol that produces too much adrenaline in the

body causing irritability, sleep diruptions, and fight/ flight

symptoms. Cortisol effects metabolism which produces weight loss or

weight gain especially in the stomach area and blood sugar instability

which can lead to hypoglycemia, insulin resistance or diabetes. (Ever

say 'I just feel like I want to jump out of my skin'?)Stress

negatively effects hormones causing chronic menstrual problems,

endometriosis, early menopause, PMS, and other female related disorders.Stress

causes inflammation in the body which we now know is the beginning of

most disease processes. This can lead to arthritis and other

inflammation-based diseases.Stress causes tension which can be held almost anywhere in the body.This

effects the skeletal system resulting in back or neck pain requiring

chiropractic adjustments. Sometimes it's stored in the face that

produces TMJ or migraines.(Ever say, 'He's such a pain!'?)Stress

causes the release of gastric juices which inflame the throat, stomach

and colon resulting in digestive disorders like Irritable Bowel

Syndrome. (Ever say he was a 'pain in your butt'?)Stress

negatively effects certain vitamins in your body which get depleted

during ongoing stress which can result in fatigue, hair loss,

allergies, and skin problems. (Ever say 'he really gets under my skin?')Stress

screams to be managed which is why so many women end up with addictions

trying to 'manage' the chronic stress condition -- addictions with

anxiety medication, pain meds, street drugs, alcohol, food, sex,

religion and overachieving. (Ever say 'he is going to drive me to drink?')Over

the past 20 years of treating women, I've seen everyone of these

disease processes at work in women. PATHOLOGICAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE A

LEADING NEGATIVE CAUSE IN WOMEN'S HEALTH ISSUES ON EVERY LEVEL!If we want to improve women's health in this country, we need to address these pathological relationships that are killing her!Stress

hides because we are adaptive in some ways and become 'use to' the

level of stress we are currently under OR have ALWAYS been under since

childhood. But that doesn't mean we aren't highly damaging our bodies

with it. Some women only become aware of their stress if it jumps

markedly. By then, you are in the severe category of stress disorders

which by that point, you probably have several of the conditions listed

above.By far, the condition of the 21st century for most people

is stress. Women with histories of abuse or current pathological

relationships have even higher stress levels than people without these

contributing factors. I have written extensively in these weekly

newsletters about learning to live 'The Gentle Life' that takes into effect the lasting stress that is stored in your body. (You can read past newsletters on our blog http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com. Keep clicking 'older posts' at the end of each page to go back further in the archives.)Stress demands to be treated and then managed... either do it now or it will demand it in medical issues.Many

women say they don't even know where to begin in managing the stress

that is contributing to their medical conditions because they have had

it so long. On our shopping cart is an mp3 download for "Relaxation Techniques for Stress Disorders" --

that's a good start. Consider physical exercise, yoga, pilates, some

way of metabolizing all those stress hormones. Learn deep breathing,

relaxation techniques, or quiet meditation. Find a counselor or a group

in order to verbally express the underlying issues of your stress.

Manage addictions of sex, relationship-hopping, drugs, even

prescriptions and alcohol.When assessing your overall health,

do consider the underlying possible reasons for your health issues --

your emotional stressors and HIM!--------------------That blog is one of the best resources I've seen in that area.best,navegante