Can an Overall Lack of Trust in Life be a Core Issue?

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Can an Overall Lack of Trust in Life be a Core Issue?

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Most of us EFT practitioners are familiar with the lack of trust that can

occur in someone toward a specific other– a relative, friend, partner etc.

Often we see people tap successfully for this kind of distrust and greatly

improve their relationships.

 

But this is not the kind of trust I will discuss today. I am increasingly

impressed with the central role that a lack of trust, in GENERAL, in what we

might call the Universe –– that is in life itself, may play in many anxiety

states. This lack of trust involves a feeling of non-support, of being alone

against overwhelming odds. I do not mean an irrational suspiciousness, as in

paranoia, but a basic, all pervading feeling that somehow situations won’t

work out, that the worst will happen, and that what may look like a good

outcome in really is not what it seems –– it is not to be TRUSTED. This

kind of

distrust of life itself is actually quite common and it can be effectively

addressed by EFT.

 

Let me give you an example:

 

" Pamela " consulted me for a fear she had that was hard to explain. Some

health issues were challenging her and were certainly worthy of concern, but

these were gradually improving with medical treatment coupled with EFT. Why

then did she so often feel as though “the rug is being pulled out from under

meâ€

..

 

She came to my office recently in a semi-panic. She was not so anxious that

she was unable to function, but she was staving off what she described as a “

sense of dread†that had to do with a feeling of being doomed and trapped,

of having something “terrible†happen to her which was totally inescapable.

 

In formulating an EFT statement to tap on during the session, she discovered

that the issue of trust was paramount for her and seemed to underly all her

other fears. Here is the statement she devised for this:

 

“Even though I don’t believe that things can really be getting better for

me, I choose to trust that they really are.†Tapping on this “Choicesâ€

statement brought some interesting insights to Pamela.

 

She realized that, in fact, her financial circumstances were improving

markedly at the present time and that certain aspects of her health were

improving

as well. Like any road to recovery, however, there were days when things

seemed to worsen again, and other days when they seemed clearly better than

before. It was her inability to trust her “good†moments, coupled with an

all

too ready ability to thoroughly believe in the “bad†moments (her

set-backs)

that was creating her intense anxiety.

 

She pursued this further.

 

“Even though I can’t believe that the set-backs aren’t the real truth,

and

the progress an illusion, I choose to TRUST.â€

 

This statement was difficult for Pamela and it was also a revelation to her.

She realized for the first time that she was going to have to TRUST in her

physical healing, regardless of moment to moment “evidenceâ€, otherwise she

would be overwhelmed with anxiety and discouragement. Only by trusting could

she cease to become like a yoyo, bouncing back and forth between short-lived

encouragement and despair.

 

Her next EFT statement was:

 

“Even though things seem to be getting worse today, I choose to remember the

good moments I am experiencing.â€

 

After tapping on this issue for several rounds of the “Choices Trio†(see

description of this strategy in Chapter 3 of my Choices Manual) Pamela

announced to me that she now suspected that her negative convictions were a

distortion of the truth, but they still had a strong hold on her. So she

formulated

another Choice:

 

“Even though I can’t seem to let go of the negative, I choose to be keenly

aware of the good that is happening to me right now.â€

 

After tapping on this, Pamela suddenly realized that her negative thoughts

and fears had been acting almost as a “smokescreen†that had been obscuring

some very good things that were also happening to her in terms of her

relationships, her career and her health, and the fact that in many ways she

was now

handling her health issues much more responsibly than she had done before.

She then spontaneously reframed the entire situation by saying, “This

increase

in (certain) symptoms is serving me by making me responsible for my health in

a way I’ve never been beforeâ€. This made her suddenly grateful for the

increase in certain symptoms, they were actually serving her!

 

Since that therapy session, Pamela has continued to tap on these issues

using these statements and they have, in effect, turned her previous panic into

an awareness of a new maturity and responsibility to herself.

 

The lesson for all of us in this, I think, is that lack of TRUST can be an

excellent starting point for EFT that may lead to the uncovering of some

important dynamics –– and their correction. Step by step, this issue of

trust

led Pamela to uncover the real meaning of her negative thoughts and it prepared

her for yet another step forward in her personal development.

 

If you are stuck at a certain point when doing EFT and unable to pull

yourself out of a negative state, you may well want to experiment with the

TRUST

issue, tap on it, and see what happens!

 

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