Guest guest Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 I have no connections to this website, nor company. blessings, Shan Hello, (I know: willpower and Valentine's Day are subjects that don't usually go together!) At the end of this email, I'll tell you about a gift that you can give your partner this Valentine's Day that will earn you more brownie points than you can believe. But first I want to share with you some very interesting research about willpower. Willpower Is a Mental Workout According to a fascinating experiment published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: Just one act of self-control depletes your ability to have self-control in another unrelated area. For example, when subjects were told not to eat chocolates sitting right in front of them, their persistence in puzzle solving deteriorated. When they were told to suppress an emotional reaction to a movie, they had problems solving a solvable anagram [source 1, below]. This is the overwhelming reason why willpower only works in the short term. You only have the conscious resources to exhibit willpower on one (or at the most two) fronts at one time. This is why it is SO HARD to stay disciplined with eating, exercise, new goals, studying, and the like. Any self-regulatory strategy has costs with respect to depleting a person's general resources for self regulation [source 2, below]. Accomplishing Goals without Depleting Willpower Your conscious mind is only able to process approximately 50 bits of information a second, while your unconscious mind processes approximately 11 million bits per second [source 3, below]. That means your unconscious mind processes information about 220 THOUSAND TIMES FASTER than your conscious mind. Much of the time, your conscious mind is actually the bottleneck towards effecting true change, as its main role is getting you through the day in the here and now AND setting long term goals. (Researchers call this " Executive Control. " ) The Trick Is to Have the Triggers for Your Desired Behaviors Reside in Your Unconscious Mind For example, if your goal is weight control, you would naturally want your unconscious mind to automatically desire healthy green foods, water, healthy portions, exercise, etc… without having to think about it consciously. If your goal is to be more productive, you would want the actions of setting goals, rewarding yourself for success, focusing on your projects to be automatic. If you have to consciously think about it all the time, you will exhaust your resources. If your goal is to have a better relationship, you would want to somehow program in natural triggers for listening, paying attention, giving space, and showing empathy . . . instead of always having to think about them. These are just a few examples, but I think you get the picture. Now Back to Valentine's Day We publish a program created by Dr. Michele Ritterman, a world renowned couple's therapist who studied hypnosis with Milton Erickson personally, that is kind of mind-blowing. The product is called Shared Couple's Trance. Because of their deep impact, Dr. Ritterman has been using these sessions in her practice since the 1970s. You listen together with your partner (my wife and I listen while lying down on the bed) as Dr. Ritterman guides you through 2 hypnotic sessions. It is amazingly relaxing, and actually pretty romantic (not a word I use often!). What Happens, and Why It Is Such a Great Gift The result is that not only will the night go very well, but over the next week or so, you will find that communication becomes much easier – you will start to talk through some things that might have been difficult before. Don't get me wrong - it's not a magic bullet. It does, however, give you the opportunity to re-connect, re-invigorate, and improve your relationship if you give it a chance. Here is what Silvia Hartmann reported about the program: " The two days following this session have been most surprising to us both. We began talking about issues that we had never addressed before, and I would really say that we began to look at each other in a whole new light. This is not something I would say lightly, nor is it something that I would have expected to have happened; after all, we have known each other for a very long time now and I'm sure we thought we'd gotten to the bottom of each other by now. " I think almost every couple should at least try this program. No matter how weird it sounds! It does all go back to the willpower discussion earlier in this email. You can tell yourself you are going to listen more, be more empathetic, and so forth . . . but you know it won't last because at the first sign of stress you will forget. It Needs to Happen Unconsciously And guys, we did an informal survey. Almost every woman we asked said that if their partner came home with this program they would be both shocked and delighted! Think about it . . . So Here Is the Deal This is a very inexpensive program – normally $39. And for a limited time, you can get it for just $29. (Offer good through Valentine's Day.) I think it is a no-brainer. Again, just the fact that you care enough to get this for you and your partner says a lot. _http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/relationships.php_ (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/relationships.php?ref=96) Regards, Michael Lovitch Co-Founder, The Hypnosis Network 817-566-0050 P.S. I really hope the discussion about willpower opened your eyes as to why you've failed at many of your goals and resolutions (remember New Year's Day?) Hypnosis, when done by world-class psychologists, can dramatically increase your likelihood of success by bypassing willpower altogether! So if you are having problems getting things done (you fight procrastination and/or perfectionism), we have a nice special going for Productivity Engineering. Created by Dr. Neil Fiore, this program was recently endorsed by Brian Tracy, Tom Hopkins, and of course thousands of satisfied now-productive customers. _http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/procrastination/special_ (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/procrastination/special) " Dr. Fiore taught me to handle my immeasurable fear of being less than perfect, both stylistically and intellectually. After listening to his CD, I found that I could organize my thoughts and actually write, which, amazingly, I'm enjoying. Again, thank you. " FRANK ORMAN BIOLOGY POSTDOC SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH Sources Cited in This Newsletter: Source 1: RE Baumeister, E Bratslavsky, M Muraven, and DM Tice. " Ego Depletion: Is the Active Self a Limited Resource? " Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, vol. 74, 1998. Source 2: Moraven, M., Tice, D. M., & Baumeister, R. F. (1998). " Self-control as a limited resource: Regulatory depletion pattern. " Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74. 774-789 Source 3: Zimmerman, M. (1989). " The nervous system in the context of information theory. " In R. F. Schmidt & G. Thews (eds.), Human Physiology, pp. 166-173. Berlin, Germany: Springer-Verlag. __ About This E-Mail This email was sent to you by The Hypnosis Network. To ensure delivery to your inbox (not bulk or junk folders), please add michael to your address book. You received this e-mail because you purchased a product from The Hypnosis Network, requested a free download from us, or requested information from our website. How to Contact Us The Hypnosis Network 307 W. 7th Street, Suite 275 Fort Worth, TX 76102 _www.hypnosisnetwork.com_ (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/?ref=96) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2008 Report Share Posted February 1, 2008 , surpriseshan2 wrote: > > I have no connections to this website, nor company. blessings, Shan > > Hello, > (I know: willpower and Valentine's Day are subjects that don't usually go > together!) > At the end of this email, I'll tell you about a gift that you can give your > partner this Valentine's Day that will earn you more brownie points than you > can believe. But first I want to share with you some very interesting > research about willpower. > Willpower Is a Mental Workout > According to a fascinating experiment published in the Journal of > Personality and Social Psychology: > Just one act of self-control depletes your ability to have self- control in > another unrelated area. > For example, when subjects were told not to eat chocolates sitting right in > front of them, their persistence in puzzle solving deteriorated. > When they were told to suppress an emotional reaction to a movie, they had > problems solving a solvable anagram [source 1, below]. > This is the overwhelming reason why willpower only works in the short term. > You only have the conscious resources to exhibit willpower on one (or at the > most two) fronts at one time. > This is why it is SO HARD to stay disciplined with eating, exercise, new > goals, studying, and the like. > Any self-regulatory strategy has costs with respect to depleting a person's > general resources for self regulation [source 2, below]. > Accomplishing Goals without Depleting Willpower > Your conscious mind is only able to process approximately 50 bits of > information a second, while your unconscious mind processes approximately 11 million > bits per second [source 3, below]. > That means your unconscious mind processes information about 220 THOUSAND > TIMES FASTER than your conscious mind. > Much of the time, your conscious mind is actually the bottleneck towards > effecting true change, as its main role is getting you through the day in the > here and now AND setting long term goals. (Researchers call this " Executive > Control. " ) > The Trick Is to Have the Triggers for Your Desired Behaviors Reside in Your > Unconscious Mind > For example, if your goal is weight control, you would naturally want your > unconscious mind to automatically desire healthy green foods, water, healthy > portions, exercise, etc… without having to think about it consciously. > If your goal is to be more productive, you would want the actions of setting > goals, rewarding yourself for success, focusing on your projects to be > automatic. > If you have to consciously think about it all the time, you will exhaust > your resources. > If your goal is to have a better relationship, you would want to somehow > program in natural triggers for listening, paying attention, giving space, and > showing empathy . . . instead of always having to think about them. > These are just a few examples, but I think you get the picture. > Now Back to Valentine's Day > We publish a program created by Dr. Michele Ritterman, a world renowned > couple's therapist who studied hypnosis with Milton Erickson personally, that is > kind of mind-blowing. > The product is called Shared Couple's Trance. Because of their deep impact, > Dr. Ritterman has been using these sessions in her practice since the 1970s. > You listen together with your partner (my wife and I listen while lying down > on the bed) as Dr. Ritterman guides you through 2 hypnotic sessions. > It is amazingly relaxing, and actually pretty romantic (not a word I use > often!). > What Happens, and Why It Is Such a Great Gift > The result is that not only will the night go very well, but over the next > week or so, you will find that communication becomes much easier †" you will > start to talk through some things that might have been difficult before. > Don't get me wrong - it's not a magic bullet. It does, however, give you the > opportunity to re-connect, re-invigorate, and improve your relationship if > you give it a chance. > Here is what Silvia Hartmann reported about the program: > " The two days following this session have been most surprising to us both. > We began talking about issues that we had never addressed before, and I would > really say that we began to look at each other in a whole new light. This is > not something I would say lightly, nor is it something that I would have > expected to have happened; after all, we have known each other for a very long > time now and I'm sure we thought we'd gotten to the bottom of each other by > now. " > I think almost every couple should at least try this program. No matter how > weird it sounds! > It does all go back to the willpower discussion earlier in this email. You > can tell yourself you are going to listen more, be more empathetic, and so > forth . . . but you know it won't last because at the first sign of stress you > will forget. > It Needs to Happen Unconsciously > And guys, we did an informal survey. Almost every woman we asked said that > if their partner came home with this program they would be both shocked and > delighted! Think about it . . . > So Here Is the Deal > This is a very inexpensive program †" normally $39. And for a limited time, > you can get it for just $29. (Offer good through Valentine's Day.) I think it > is a no-brainer. Again, just the fact that you care enough to get this for > you and your partner says a lot. > _http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/relationships.php_ > (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/relationships.php?ref=96) > Regards, > > Michael Lovitch > Co-Founder, The Hypnosis Network > 817-566-0050 > P.S. I really hope the discussion about willpower opened your eyes as to why > you've failed at many of your goals and resolutions (remember New Year's > Day?) > Hypnosis, when done by world-class psychologists, can dramatically increase > your likelihood of success by bypassing willpower altogether! > So if you are having problems getting things done (you fight procrastination > and/or perfectionism), we have a nice special going for Productivity > Engineering. > Created by Dr. Neil Fiore, this program was recently endorsed by Brian > Tracy, Tom Hopkins, and of course thousands of satisfied now- productive customers. > _http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/procrastination/special_ > (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/procrastination/special) > " Dr. Fiore taught me to handle my immeasurable fear of being less than > perfect, both stylistically and intellectually. After listening to his CD, I found > that I could organize my thoughts and actually write, which, amazingly, I'm > enjoying. Again, thank you. " > FRANK ORMAN > BIOLOGY POSTDOC > SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH > Sources Cited in This Newsletter: > Source 1: RE Baumeister, E Bratslavsky, M Muraven, and DM Tice. " Ego > Depletion: Is the Active Self a Limited Resource? " Journal of Personality and Social > Psychology, vol. 74, 1998. > Source 2: Moraven, M., Tice, D. M., & Baumeister, R. F. (1998). > " Self-control as a limited resource: Regulatory depletion pattern. " Journal of > Personality and Social Psychology, 74. 774-789 > Source 3: Zimmerman, M. (1989). " The nervous system in the context of > information theory. " In R. F. Schmidt & G. Thews (eds.), Human Physiology, pp. > 166-173. Berlin, Germany: Springer-Verlag. > __ > > About This E-Mail > This email was sent to you by The Hypnosis Network. To ensure delivery to > your inbox (not bulk or junk folders), please add michael > to your address book. > You received this e-mail because you purchased a product from The Hypnosis > Network, requested a free download from us, or requested information from our > website. > How to Contact Us > The Hypnosis Network > 307 W. 7th Street, Suite 275 > Fort Worth, TX 76102 > _www.hypnosisnetwork.com_ (http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/?ref=96) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 If I had ever given one of my girlfriends that " gift " I would be in the doghouse for weeks. I sure would not get any sex on Valentine's Day and I would be sleeping on the couch. It's really insulting, imo, to tell a lover that she has no willpower and needs a self hypnosis tape. In my experience, willpower grows naturally out of a joint process between the conscious self and the underlying unconscious. It sure is not something a recording made by a stranger can " fix " . Like any self-discipline and any spiritual undertaking, willpower takes dedicated effort, making mistakes, and learning from mistakes. Alobar On 1/31/08, surpriseshan2 <surpriseshan2 wrote: > I have no connections to this website, nor company. blessings, Shan > > Hello, > (I know: willpower and Valentine's Day are subjects that don't usually go > together!) > At the end of this email, I'll tell you about a gift that you can give your > partner this Valentine's Day that will earn you more brownie points than you > can believe. But first I want to share with you some very interesting > research about willpower. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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