Guest guest Posted March 1, 2004 Report Share Posted March 1, 2004 <snip> > I agree that there are an unfortunate number of folks out there who care > nothing for themselves, or anyone else, and CHOOSE to live crappy lives, > with crappy lifestyles and even crappier consequences (have witnessed it > first hand) and there are those who get caught caught up in crappy > lifestyles but one day CHOOSE to help themselves, fight their demons and > strive for something better. Hi Chris and all, I don't want to add to the controversy - or beat a dead horse. But this struck a chord in me and I feel compelled to say one small thing. I have a sister who is overweight, and for some reason people feel the need to come up to her and tell her alllll sorts of things. Like " why are you eating that muffin fatty, you should be eating carrots!!! " I've been witness to it, I've seen this kind of cruelty, so when she told me the latest, I was not surprised. Apparently, someone recently thought it was necessary to approach my sister in public, and tell her that he was NOT happy that he would ultimately be paying for healthcare for her and her " problem. " He went on to say (and I am paraphrasing) that she was a burden on society (um, never mind she has and pays for her own healthcare) and that people like her should quit shovelling fattening food into their fat faces and start exercising. <ugh> Never mind that my sister has a history of sexual abuse and for years used her weight to keep people and intimacy at a distance. Never mind that she's been through years of counceling to deal with this. Never mind that she has realized her weight is a health issue - and an intimacy issue, and has started watching what she eats (checked herself into the Duke Health and fitness program twice - it ain't cheap) and exercising. He never asked what was in her heart or mind - therefor, didn't know. Way before this, she started walking on the beach every day, goes to the gym, has lost a considerable amt. of weight - hell, she's more physically fit these days than I am. People STILL feel compelled to tell her she's what is wrong with society, she needs to quit eating junk, and that she's killing herself, has no self-control etc. BUT - weight has not dulled her intelligence or wit - and when said idiot confronted her about this, she calmly turned to him and asked him if it was " correct " that SHE should be the one to pay for all the environmental damage that his HUMMER was causing - and that neither her, nor anyone like her should have to pay for the eventual environmental damamge of SUVs, or people who don't recycle - or give a rat's a** about global warming. So, my point in retelling this story is that we all need to have more compassion for our fellow (wo)man - you just DON'T know how they got where they are or why, but a little bit of compassion would make the world MUCH better for us all. My other small point is that none of us acts or lives without impact on others, we are all - like it or not, entertwined on this small planet. So yeah, more compassion and education is needed. Back to our regularly scheduled programming.... JenB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2004 Report Share Posted March 1, 2004 Jen, Your sister's story made me think of EFT -- you can learn about it at www.emofree.com -- it is amazing and may be just the thing to help your sister be secure with herself. Debbie deb Luxury for your skin, body and soul www.debrasrhapsody.com - " nsorcel " <nsorcl Monday, March 01, 2004 6:36 PM Re: OT: Lifestyles > <snip> > > > I agree that there are an unfortunate number of folks out there who care > > nothing for themselves, or anyone else, and CHOOSE to live crappy lives, > > with crappy lifestyles and even crappier consequences (have witnessed it > > first hand) and there are those who get caught caught up in crappy > > lifestyles but one day CHOOSE to help themselves, fight their demons and > > strive for something better. > > > Hi Chris and all, > > I don't want to add to the controversy - or beat a dead horse. But > this struck a chord in me and I feel compelled to say one small thing. > > I have a sister who is overweight, and for some reason people feel the > need to come up to her and tell her alllll sorts of things. Like " why > are you eating that muffin fatty, you should be eating carrots!!! " > I've been witness to it, I've seen this kind of cruelty, so when she > told me the latest, I was not surprised. > > Apparently, someone recently thought it was necessary to approach my > sister in public, and tell her that he was NOT happy that he would > ultimately be paying for healthcare for her and her " problem. " He > went on to say (and I am paraphrasing) that she was a burden on > society (um, never mind she has and pays for her own healthcare) and > that people like her should quit shovelling fattening food into their > fat faces and start exercising. <ugh> > > Never mind that my sister has a history of sexual abuse and for years > used her weight to keep people and intimacy at a distance. Never mind > that she's been through years of counceling to deal with this. Never > mind that she has realized her weight is a health issue - and an > intimacy issue, and has started watching what she eats (checked > herself into the Duke Health and fitness program twice - it ain't > cheap) and exercising. He never asked what was in her heart or mind - > therefor, didn't know. > > Way before this, she started walking on the beach every day, goes to > the gym, has lost a considerable amt. of weight - hell, she's more > physically fit these days than I am. People STILL feel compelled to > tell her she's what is wrong with society, she needs to quit eating > junk, and that she's killing herself, has no self-control etc. > > BUT - weight has not dulled her intelligence or wit - and when said > idiot confronted her about this, she calmly turned to him and asked > him if it was " correct " that SHE should be the one to pay for all the > environmental damage that his HUMMER was causing - and that neither > her, nor anyone like her should have to pay for the eventual > environmental damamge of SUVs, or people who don't recycle - or give a > rat's a** about global warming. > > So, my point in retelling this story is that we all need to have more > compassion for our fellow (wo)man - you just DON'T know how they got > where they are or why, but a little bit of compassion would make the > world MUCH better for us all. > > My other small point is that none of us acts or lives without impact > on others, we are all - like it or not, entertwined on this small > planet. So yeah, more compassion and education is needed. > > Back to our regularly scheduled programming.... > > JenB > > > > > > Step By Step Instructions On Making Rose Petal Preserves: http://www.av-at.com/stuff/rosejam.html > > To adjust your group settings (i.e. go no mail) see the following link: /join > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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