Is it quite? Plus grandson

[Guest guest]

Hi all,

 

It has been a couple of days since I got any emails and I was wondering if it was just that quite here or if is down?

 

My grandson question is, well a little background first. On new years eve my youngest daughter and grandson moved back home due to an abusive situation from the baby's father. This all happened in front of the baby, Devin, who is 9 and 1/2 months old. Sadly the last three and a half months they were living with his abusive dad.

 

Devin is VERY advanced for his age (he can say many words and has skill levels of a 15 month old other than he is not quite walking yet, but is close) so I fear much more of this abusive, anger and arguing that has accrued has been absorbed by him to a higher degree.

 

How can we help him? I believe the mental health for him is at stake. I know he is young but I can see he has had many stressors and it shows in him behavior. Already in the two days he has been here he is starting to calm down and enjoy things like song singing and making faces and such. Before he was such a go go baby he was acting like an extremely hyperactive child.

 

Plus Emily (mo, my daughter) is sooo stressed at figuring out what to do I know she needs help too and it is rubbing off as Devin wants poppa and nanna more than mom.

 

So what sort of diet, herb and such can be used to help calm and restore for both of them? Our home is a calm and safe environment for them (although nanna is stressed! Not use to little ones 24/7 and my poor house is a mess! LOL, I really do love it though.) I guess I want to make things as healing as possible while they are here.

 

Kimi**********************************************************************************************************************************"Nothing in my hand I bring. Simply to His cross I cling."

[Guest guest]

Hello. I've been on this group for awhile, but haven't posted

recently - until the past few days.

 

I won't say much about the abuse issue because it depends upon the

type of abuse, which can be complicated. I will say though, that if

the child starts to exhibit the same behavior as his father ... be

extremely patient, kind, and loving. Show the child another way of

dealing with his anger/behavior through your example. Over a period

of time, the child's behavior will modify to reflect the " new "

conditioning. Even if you are not sure what he understands ... talk

to him as you redirect.

 

You can even discuss the situation about his Daddy (if he asks or if

behavior prompts it) - but be careful about what you say - remember,

he probably loves his Daddy and doesn't want to hear he's a bad man

even if he is confused by his behavior. Don't impose your or your

daughter adult view him. He just needs to feel safe and de-stress

through rest and play.

 

Stress ... I know that, for me, stressful situations are when I find

it the most difficult to do what is best for me such as taking a

walk, eating right, laying off the sugar and junk foods - although I

knew this is sound advice and I eventually get around to it. So ...

exercise, eat right, lay off the junk, and get plenty of relaxation

and rest.

 

Doc has a formula called Nerve Sedative Formula. This may work for

you and your daughter ... although, I'd call Doc directly to find

out about the dosage or what he would recommend for your grand

children. He also has a Cal-Calm Tea which can be taken at night to

aid relaxation and sleep.

 

Reinforce to your daughter that it is okay that your grand son is

enjoying you and your husband's company. He probably feels her

stress, so let her know that all will be well, eventually, and that

there is no need to force an issue at this time.

 

I know this is stressful for you and your daughter is extremely

fortunately to have her parents to turn to in this situation.

 

Good luck,

Karen

 

herbal remedies , " Kimi " <kwolffden@w...>

wrote:

>

> Hi all,

>

> It has been a couple of days since I got any emails and I was

wondering if it was just that quite here or if is down?

>

> My grandson question is, well a little background first. On new

years eve my youngest daughter and grandson moved back home due to

an abusive situation from the baby's father. This all happened in

front of the baby, Devin, who is 9 and 1/2 months old. Sadly the

last three and a half months they were living with his abusive dad.

>

> Devin is VERY advanced for his age (he can say many words and has

skill levels of a 15 month old other than he is not quite walking

yet, but is close) so I fear much more of this abusive, anger and

arguing that has accrued has been absorbed by him to a higher degree.

>

> How can we help him? I believe the mental health for him is at

stake. I know he is young but I can see he has had many stressors

and it shows in him behavior. Already in the two days he has been

here he is starting to calm down and enjoy things like song singing

and making faces and such. Before he was such a go go baby he was

acting like an extremely hyperactive child.

>

> Plus Emily (mo, my daughter) is sooo stressed at figuring out what

to do I know she needs help too and it is rubbing off as Devin wants

poppa and nanna more than mom.

>

> So what sort of diet, herb and such can be used to help calm and

restore for both of them? Our home is a calm and safe environment

for them (although nanna is stressed! Not use to little ones 24/7

and my poor house is a mess! LOL, I really do love it though.) I

guess I want to make things as healing as possible while they are

here.

>

> Kimi

> *****************************************************************

> *****************************************************************

> " Nothing in my hand I bring. Simply to His cross I cling. "

>