Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 Olivier, My heart is with you. I lost my wife, soulmate, and best friend to cancer in April, and it has been the hardest, lonliest time of my life, but it is slowly starting to get better. Now it is all about you, and one day, one hour, if necessary, at a time. I don't know where you are, but in the US there are grief/bereavement groups, and I suggest that once you have taken care of everything, you find one that you like and join it. This has been a real help to me in working through different stages of grief. I also suggest that you not abandon this and groups that you may have joined, as you can help others with the knowledge you have gained here, and create something positive out of this huge loss. Please feel free to email me privately if you would like, and do not fail to take care of yourself during this stressful time. We are all here for you, Ted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 Dear Olivier, Please know that your Mom is no longer suffering, and is looking down on you from beyond, and wanting you to be happy. Perhaps you can gain solace from listening to your favorite music or hers, going to favorite hangout, going for long walks, etc. Perhaps a new hobby would give you a place to exert your energies right now. Please realize that she is in a better place, and lives on. Your grief is due to missing her, but she is not all you had. Look for her mannerisms in people you run into, her beauty, etc. You will meet people that remind you of her. This may be a good time for introspection, reading, and meditating. Hang in there! Daniel Sent from my iPhone On Nov 24, 2009, at 9:42 AM, " ftfft " <micfo07 wrote: > Hi all, > figured i should give a final update.. > > My mom who had pancreatic cancer died yesterday. > Im completely crushed and this is just beginning. > Im in for a storm like i never knew even existed. > > My mom was all i had. > > Im not saying this for any other reason that i needed > to let it out and share how i felt. > > Hope you guys get to live a long happy life. > The only thing i had was taken from me, and > i dont see how i ll get people in my life(had/have social > anxiety and im all alone, mom was all i had) > and how i ll ever feel ok again. > > you guys follow the protocol to the letter, > its so worth it, for you, and your loved ones. > > The silence is unbearable, and it only has been > just a bit over 12 hours since she passed away.. > > Salute > > Olivier > > > > --- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2009 Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 My thoughts and prayers are with you as I lost my Mom in 2005 but you must go on it's hard I miss my Mom everyday but you have all the good memories that no one can take away. She would love for you to get involved with others with cancer and become a friend to them and maybe that would brighten someones day plus your own Donna ACS > Hi all, > figured i should give a final update.. > > My mom who had pancreatic cancer died yesterday. > Im completely crushed and this is just beginning. > Im in for a storm like i never knew even existed. > > My mom was all i had. > > Im not saying this for any other reason that i needed > to let it out and share how i felt. > > Hope you guys get to live a long happy life. > The only thing i had was taken from me, and > i dont see how i ll get people in my life(had/have social > anxiety and im all alone, mom was all i had) > and how i ll ever feel ok again. > > you guys follow the protocol to the letter, > its so worth it, for you, and your loved ones. > > The silence is unbearable, and it only has been > just a bit over 12 hours since she passed away.. > > Salute > > Olivier > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2009 Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 Olivier,Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers this Thanksgiving. And you know, Donna has made an excellent suggestion. My dad passed away in 2001. I also lost my mom in 2005. What I did a little bit after her death was visit retirement homes and assisted living facilities to give those without any families some type of comfort and joy. And you know..... They became my moms and dads.Many hugs,oleander soup , Donna <dscroggs44646 wrote:>> My thoughts and prayers are with you as I lost my Mom in 2005 but you > must go on it's hard I miss my Mom everyday but you have all the good > memories that no one can take away. She would love for you to get > involved with others with cancer and become a friend to them and maybe > that would brighten someones day plus your own> Donna ACS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2009 Report Share Posted November 26, 2009 But your sorrow shall be turned into joy. John;16;20 Prayer, Lord I am praying for every one this group bless them all,Their sorrow shall turned in to joy.i rebuke all sickness in the name of Jesus.I command complete healing in the name of Jesus.Thank you Lord for healing, Bless every one ,Bless their Family's.We pray in the name of Lord Jesus Amen. --- On Wed, 25/11/09, M <luellamay129 wrote: M <luellamay129 Re: my mom died...oleander soup Date: Wednesday, 25 November, 2009, 10:57 PM Olivier,Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers this Thanksgiving. And you know, Donna has made an excellent suggestion. My dad passed away in 2001. I also lost my mom in 2005. What I did a little bit after her death was visit retirement homes and assisted living facilities to give those without any families some type of comfort and joy. And you know..... They became my moms and dads.Many hugs,oleander soup, Donna <dscroggs44646@ ...> wrote:>> My thoughts and prayers are with you as I lost my Mom in 2005 but you > must go on it's hard I miss my Mom everyday but you have all the good > memories that no one can take away. She would love for you to get > involved with others with cancer and become a friend to them and maybe > that would brighten someones day plus your own> Donna ACS The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2009 Report Share Posted November 26, 2009 I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee. Joshua 1;5. Hearing about mother death my condolences to you, My mother was died in cancer in 1999 i was upset i was looking every thing for my mom. Ofter her death Like my mom Lord Jesus take care all my needs.Jesus will take care of you you will give Peace for you and your family members. I will remember you in my prayers with the help of Holy spirit, Grace be unto you, and peace, from God our Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ by eva.a. soundararaj kirubakaran--- On Wed, 25/11/09, tita_mel <tita_mel wrote: tita_mel <tita_mel Re: my mom died...oleander soup Date: Wednesday, 25 November, 2009, 4:48 AM Olivier,My condolences to you. I shall pray for you to be strong so that you may adjust to life without your Mom. I know how it feels to lose a beloved Mother. It took me a while to get over my Mom's death (from pancreatic cancer too) -- with so much sorrow and pain, but rest assured, time will heal.Take care.Mellyoleander soup, "ftfft" <micfo07 > wrote:>> Hi all,> figured i should give a final update..> > My mom who had pancreatic cancer died yesterday.> Im completely crushed and this is just beginning.> Im in for a storm like i never knew even existed.> > My mom was all i had.> > Im not saying this for any other reason that i needed> to let it out and share how i felt.> > Hope you guys get to live a long happy life.> The only thing i had was taken from me, and> i dont see how i ll get people in my life(had/have social> anxiety and im all alone, mom was all i had)> and how i ll ever feel ok again.> > you guys follow the protocol to the letter,> its so worth it, for you, and your loved ones.> > The silence is unbearable, and it only has been> just a bit over 12 hours since she passed away..> > Salute> > Olivier> The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2009 Report Share Posted November 26, 2009 Amem!!!! oleander soup From: evasoundararajvaDate: Thu, 26 Nov 2009 11:15:47 +0530Re: Re: my mom died... But your sorrow shall be turned into joy. John;16;20 Prayer, Lord I am praying for every one this group bless them all,Their sorrow shall turned in to joy.i rebuke all sickness in the name of Jesus.I command complete healing in the name of Jesus.Thank you Lord for healing, Bless every one ,Bless their Family's.We pray in the name of Lord Jesus Amen. --- On Wed, 25/11/09, M <luellamay129 > wrote: M <luellamay129 > Re: my mom died...oleander soup Date: Wednesday, 25 November, 2009, 10:57 PM Olivier,Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers this Thanksgiving. And you know, Donna has made an excellent suggestion. My dad passed away in 2001. I also lost my mom in 2005. What I did a little bit after her death was visit retirement homes and assisted living facilities to give those without any families some type of comfort and joy. And you know..... They became my moms and dads.Many hugs,oleander soup, Donna <dscroggs44646@ ...> wrote:>> My thoughts and prayers are with you as I lost my Mom in 2005 but you > must go on it's hard I miss my Mom everyday but you have all the good > memories that no one can take away. She would love for you to get > involved with others with cancer and become a friend to them and maybe > that would brighten someones day plus your own> Donna ACS The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2009 Report Share Posted November 26, 2009 Olivier, I too lost both my parents and a sister in April of this year. My sister died of lung cancer. It's not easy losing a loved one. I still miss my mom who's been gone 42 years! I miss my sister too so very much! We still have those precious memories and we know that we must go on. Our parents would want that and your mom wants that for you too. For you to go out and find someone who needs you just as you needed your mom. There's so many people who needs that help. Please reach out to them. You'll not only be helping them but helping yourself through this grief. You're in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless, Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2009 Report Share Posted November 27, 2009 AMEN...and u as well!..how kind..Happy Thanksgiving to all, may we all find the FAITH to BELIEVE we can be healed. God Bless Cypriano Aguerria <caguerriaoleander soup Sent: Thu, November 26, 2009 1:15:45 PMRE: Re: my mom died... Amem!!!! oleander soup From: evasoundararajvaDate: Thu, 26 Nov 2009 11:15:47 +0530Re: Re: my mom died... But your sorrow shall be turned into joy. John;16;20 Prayer, Lord I am praying for every one this group bless them all,Their sorrow shall turned in to joy.i rebuke all sickness in the name of Jesus.I command complete healing in the name of Jesus.Thank you Lord for healing, Bless every one ,Bless their Family's.We pray in the name of Lord Jesus Amen. --- On Wed, 25/11/09, M <luellamay129@ > wrote: M <luellamay129@ > Re: my mom died...oleander soupWednesday, 25 November, 2009, 10:57 PM Olivier,Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers this Thanksgiving. And you know, Donna has made an excellent suggestion. My dad passed away in 2001. I also lost my mom in 2005. What I did a little bit after her death was visit retirement homes and assisted living facilities to give those without any families some type of comfort and joy. And you know..... They became my moms and dads.Many hugs,oleander soup, Donna <dscroggs44646@ ...> wrote:>> My thoughts and prayers are with you as I lost my Mom in 2005 but you > must go on it's hard I miss my Mom everyday but you have all the good > memories that no one can take away. She would love for you to get > involved with others with cancer and become a friend to them and maybe > that would brighten someones day plus your own> Donna ACS The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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