Guest guest Posted July 11, 2009 Report Share Posted July 11, 2009 Okay I'm coming here because I know so many of you deal with all different kinds of supplements! Please help me find a product for my husband that REALLY works before I divorce him for sleeping too much. This man sleeps more than anyone I know or have ever known. He can fall asleep while driving, sitting in traffic and faster than the blink of an eye. He spent 6 nights at home without me or the kids, he has to be at work at 730am and is off by 3-4, so today he called me at 1034 am and said he was about to make the trip to dads 2.5 hour drive at best, he arrives and ill give you one guess as to what he is doing?????? I have been dealing with what I call his " lazy arse " for 9 freakin years and I'm about to lose my cool with him. He needs something, this isn't right and its wearing me out and making me so mad I could spit nails, not that he OBVIOUSLY has a problem but the fact that he doesn't see it and won't talk to the dr about it. He could have stayed at home and slept, he didn't have to come here and do it..........HELP please. Rhonda M/o reid dx diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma w/o husband I'm about to choke! -- Sent from my mobile device Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2009 Report Share Posted July 11, 2009 Narcolepsy?Maybe the information found in Native Remedies will help.Hugs,--- On Sat, 7/11/09, rhonda ebrom <dipghater wrote:rhonda ebrom <dipghater Suggestionsoleander soup Date: Saturday, July 11, 2009, 2:07 PM Okay I'm coming here because I know so many of you deal with all different kinds of supplements! Please help me find a product for my husband that REALLY works before I divorce him for sleeping too much. This man sleeps more than anyone I know or have ever known. He can fall asleep while driving, sitting in traffic and faster than the blink of an eye. He spent 6 nights at home without me or the kids, he has to be at work at 730am and is off by 3-4, so today he called me at 1034 am and said he was about to make the trip to dads 2.5 hour drive at best, he arrives and ill give you one guess as to what he is doing?????? I have been dealing with what I call his "lazy arse" for 9 freakin years and I'm about to lose my cool with him. He needs something, this isn't right and its wearing me out and making me so mad I could spit nails, not that he OBVIOUSLY has a problem but the fact that he doesn't see it and won't talk to the dr about it. He could have stayed at home and slept, he didn't have to come here and do it.......... HELP please. Rhonda M/o reid dx diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma w/o husband I'm about to choke! -- Sent from my mobile device Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Ouch. Maybe he's just not sleeping well at night. Perhaps melatonin and breathe-rite strips would help. Wal-Mart sells a product called " Alteril " which has melatonin, scullcap, and several other herbal ingredients. That stuff works wonders. Take it from a rotating shift worker; I couldn't get through night shift without it. If that doesn't work, maybe you could stop nagging him so his ears wouldn't ring all night and keep him up...ha ha!! Darren oleander soup , rhonda ebrom <dipghater wrote: > > Okay I'm coming here because I know so many of you deal with all > different kinds of supplements! > Please help me find a product for my husband that REALLY works > before I divorce him for sleeping too much. This man sleeps more than > anyone I know or have ever known. He can fall asleep while driving, > sitting in traffic and faster than the blink of an eye. > He spent 6 nights at home without me or the kids, he has to be at > work at 730am and is off by 3-4, so today he called me at 1034 am and > said he was about to make the trip to dads 2.5 hour drive at best, he > arrives and ill give you one guess as to what he is doing?????? I > have been dealing with what I call his " lazy arse " for 9 freakin years > and I'm about to lose my cool with him. He needs something, this > isn't right and its wearing me out and making me so mad I could spit > nails, not that he OBVIOUSLY has a problem but the fact that he > doesn't see it and won't talk to the dr about it. He could have > stayed at home and slept, he didn't have to come here and do > it..........HELP please. > Rhonda > M/o reid dx diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma w/o husband I'm about to choke! > > -- > Sent from my mobile device > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Does he possibly have sleep apnea? Often people report these symptoms prior to being diagnosed.Eva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Darren, He is too busy sleeping to hear me nagging. Also, he very well may not sleep well, that constitutes a PROBLEM lol that he needs to address! Its been 9 years now and I don't even like him driving anywhere alone with my boys in the truck because he has fallen asleep while driving before! We went on a 4k mile road trip and drove long hours, usually in a normal family hubby will drive wife will sleep and then they swap, NOT so in my family, hubby will drive and wife will keep a hawk eye on his eyeballs just to make sure they are OPEN. I sit on the edge of my seat. His driving is crappy already couple that with sleep driving and its lilke I need to take a xanex just to get IN the truck with him! He just has an issue whatever it is he needs to figure it out. Its torture to me! Eva, he was tested about 3 years ago for sleep apnea because I he snores awful and it sounds like he struggles to get air in, but they said he was fine after they reviewed the data. I think his big hang up is that he doesn't want the navy to know for fear that they will put him out. He only has a little over 3 years till retirement and doesn't want anything to mess with that and more important our health insurance for our child. One problem with all of this is that he really isn't into taking pills. Natural or drugs so getting him to take something daily is not easy. Sigh anyway, just was wondering if there was something that he could take to help him stay awake. I know there are " drugs " he could take but figured there would be something natural! Thanks Rhonda On 7/12/09, Eva Klein-Otis <eklein.otis wrote: > Does he possibly have sleep apnea? Often people report these symptoms prior > to being diagnosed. > > Eva > > > -- Sent from my mobile device Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Hi Rhonda, You are under a lot of stress and although I realize this is a very serious concern, you must also take care of yourself. The word "Xanax" raised red flags. At this point, you may have to refresh my memory as to whether you are on any other antidepressants, but if you are not, may I suggest a natural supplement to replace the Xanax. Native Remedies has a natural supplement that actually works just as well as Xanax, and I have used it myself on occasion. The name of the product is Mind Soothe . Frankly, this has "saved my life" during extreme periods of anxiety. I just cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of oneself, while caring for, or worrying about, others. But truly, Xanax is not the answer. In the long run it will only serve to promote other health complications and one very important one is dependency. Yet, there is no "magic pill" anywhere. Supplements must be accompanied by the proper diet and lifestyle. You may also want to consider colloidal gold. This will also help to relax you. Now, as for your hubby. Unfortunately, we have no control as to the actions of others. Healthcare is a very personal decision. If falling asleep at the wheel is a problem, I would not risk having the children in that situation, and maybe I would take it upon myself to do the driving while on road trips. Yet, his condition could be life threatening and maybe he doesn't realize the seriousness of the matter. It looks like he is basing his decisions on "fear" and this never works. Maybe somehow either you or a third party, someone impartial, can explain to him the urgency in addressing this matter. It may be necessary to delve into it a bit before getting to the source of the problem. I, personally, would suggest a natural and holistic approach. And this way, he would not have to worry about any repurcussions from the navy. But the consequences of not addressing this issue could be devastating. Maybe you or a third party could get this across to him. His fear or dislike of taking pills is not worth a serious car accident. Chances are more will have to be addressed, such as diet and lifestyle. Yours is a difficult situation, and I hope I have shed some light and maybe given you some ideas. But, in any event, don't let this get to you and don't let your own health suffer because of it. If you need to, take control to insure the safety of family members and do all in your power to make sure he realizes that the risk of falling asleep at the wheel is nothing to play with. I wish you my very best, and please let me know how you do. Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Hi Rhonda From your description of his snoring and gasping for air, I would guarantee you that he has sleep apnea. It could be caused by large tonsils/adenoids, deviated septum, allergies, weight, etc. The cause needs to be checked out which I assume that it was before he went in for the sleep study. The symptom of falling asleep at inappropriate times is also a huge symtom of sleep apnea. Gasping for air while sleeping is NOT normal. Another thing to check for would be diabetes especially if weight is a concern. Also, getting regular chiropractic adjustments may be helpful. I would highly suggest another sleep study at another facility as well as complete blood work-up. My dh was diagnosed with sleep apnea almost ten years ago and using the cpap machine made a new person out of him. After using it for less than a week, he made the comment that he had literally forgotten what it was like to wake up in the morning feeling fully rested. Taking a pill/supplement to stay awake is only dealing with a symptom – a symptom that is likely to get worse and one that could possibly cause disease after a while. The body must have adequate sleep and rest so that healing and repair can happen. I understand about the military as my dh was in the Air Force. However, I also know they do not want him falling asleep on the job. We cannot make someone take care of themselves. It is a personal choice. I would suggest having one last eye-to-eye, heart-to-heart talk with him in a very calm (no crying and no yelling) but serious manner. Certainly he can choose not to take care of himself but that’s where it ends, especially when other lives are at stake. If he fell asleep at the wheel and caused an accident in which the children were harmed, chances are he would never be able to forgive himself. This is serious! If he is putting your children in harms way then it needs to stop and personally, I would take measures to make sure that they were not by themselves in a vehicle with him…..until he finds a solution to his sleep concern. This is not being mean or difficult, but possibly saving your children’s lives. Changing the subject. Ralph Moss has written a good article this week about Circadian Rhythms of the body and the IMPORTANCE of adequate sleep. For cancer patients this is paramount. Turn off those lights, computers and TVs and be in bed by 10:00 PM so that your body can do the healing and repair work that is needed. J http://www.cancerdecisions.com/content/view/219/2/lang,english/ Be Well Loretta My Blog Twitter Eva, he was tested about 3 years ago for sleep apnea because I he snores awful and it sounds like he struggles to get air in, but they said he was fine after they reviewed the data. I think his big hang up is that he doesn't want the navy to know for fear that they will put him out. He only has a little over 3 years till retirement and doesn't want anything to mess with that and more important our health insurance for our child. One problem with all of this is that he really isn't into taking pills. Natural or drugs so getting him to take something daily is not easy. Sigh anyway, just was wondering if there was something that he could take to help him stay awake. I know there are " drugs " he could take but figured there would be something natural! Thanks Rhonda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 Hi Rhonda, A good friend of mine has had this problem, although it seems to have self-corrected as far as I know. Anyway, to help you and others understand, I was once standing outside talking with him and a mutual friend and all of a sudden he was sleeping while still standing up, breathing pretty hard almost like a snore. A few minutes later he woke up and joined back in the conversation as if he had been awake the whole time. He was surprised and disturbed when we told him what had happened. Thankfully, he doesn't drive! At one time his doctor was speaking of running tests, and once his condition was proven, they were to give him a super heavy duty sleeping pill (I think he said almost like GHB), and then during waking hours he would have an amphetamine of some sort to take. He never bothered with the test since he didn't want to take such toxic drugs! I know this has to be extremely frustrating for you, especially if he is unaware of his episodes. The only suggestion I have is something to help him sleep better. Perhaps he has too much stress and thoughts are keeping him up at night--if so perhaps EFT or something could help him overcome it. If he is not open to it, the EFT may help you cope! Valerian tea might be worth a try to help him sleep. As to his driving, I know it may be hard, but I think I would refuse to be his passenger. Maybe tell him you love him too much and you don't want to see him hurt himself or others--plus an accident might be proof-positive of a condition to the military. Good Luck, Daniel On 7/12/09, rhonda ebrom <dipghater wrote: > Darren, > He is too busy sleeping to hear me nagging. Also, he very well > may not sleep well, that constitutes a PROBLEM lol that he needs to > address! Its been 9 years now and I don't even like him driving > anywhere alone with my boys in the truck because he has fallen asleep > while driving before! We went on a 4k mile road trip and drove long > hours, usually in a normal family hubby will drive wife will sleep and > then they swap, NOT so in my family, hubby will drive and wife will > keep a hawk eye on his eyeballs just to make sure they are OPEN. I > sit on the edge of my seat. His driving is crappy already couple that > with sleep driving and its lilke I need to take a xanex just to get IN > the truck with him! > He just has an issue whatever it is he needs to figure it out. > Its torture to me! > Eva, he was tested about 3 years ago for sleep apnea because I he > snores awful and it sounds like he struggles to get air in, but they > said he was fine after they reviewed the data. I think his big hang > up is that he doesn't want the navy to know for fear that they will > put him out. He only has a little over 3 years till retirement and > doesn't want anything to mess with that and more important our health > insurance for our child. > One problem with all of this is that he really isn't into taking > pills. Natural or drugs so getting him to take something daily is not > easy. Sigh anyway, just was wondering if there was something that he > could take to help him stay awake. I know there are " drugs " he could > take but figured there would be something natural! Thanks > Rhonda > > On 7/12/09, Eva Klein-Otis <eklein.otis wrote: >> Does he possibly have sleep apnea? Often people report these symptoms >> prior >> to being diagnosed. >> >> Eva >> >> >> > > -- > Sent from my mobile device > > > --- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 , I'm so sorry I threw you into a frenzy, I do not take xanex nor any anti depressants or any other perscribed mediacations! I actually don't take anything other than the occasional motrin or tylenol for a headache. I was merely trying to drive home the point that getting into a vehicle with him because of his driving throws me into a frenzy and tests my nerves! Rhonda On 7/12/09, May <luellamay129 wrote: > > Hi Rhonda, > > You are under a lot of stress and although I realize this is a very > serious concern, you must also take care of yourself. The word " Xanax " > raised red flags. At this point, you may have to refresh my memory as > to whether you are on any other antidepressants, but if you are not, may > I suggest a natural supplement to replace the Xanax. Native Remedies > has a natural supplement that actually works just as well as Xanax, and > I have used it myself on occasion. The name of the product is Mind > Soothe > <http://www.nativeremedies.com/products/mindsoothe-emotional-wellness-in\ > fo.html?kbid=13346> . Frankly, this has " saved my life " during extreme > periods of anxiety. > > I just cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of oneself, > while caring for, or worrying about, others. But truly, Xanax is not > the answer. In the long run it will only serve to promote other health > complications and one very important one is dependency. > > Yet, there is no " magic pill " anywhere. Supplements must be accompanied > by the proper diet and lifestyle. You may also want to consider > colloidal gold. This will also help to relax you. > > Now, as for your hubby. Unfortunately, we have no control as to the > actions of others. Healthcare is a very personal decision. If falling > asleep at the wheel is a problem, I would not risk having the children > in that situation, and maybe I would take it upon myself to do the > driving while on road trips. > > Yet, his condition could be life threatening and maybe he doesn't > realize the seriousness of the matter. It looks like he is basing his > decisions on " fear " and this never works. Maybe somehow either you or a > third party, someone impartial, can explain to him the urgency in > addressing this matter. It may be necessary to delve into it a bit > before getting to the source of the problem. I, personally, would > suggest a natural and holistic approach. And this way, he would not > have to worry about any repurcussions from the navy. But the > consequences of not addressing this issue could be devastating. Maybe > you or a third party could get this across to him. His fear or dislike > of taking pills is not worth a serious car accident. Chances are more > will have to be addressed, such as diet and lifestyle. > > Yours is a difficult situation, and I hope I have shed some light and > maybe given you some ideas. But, in any event, don't let this get to > you and don't let your own health suffer because of it. If you need to, > take control to insure the safety of family members and do all in your > power to make sure he realizes that the risk of falling asleep at the > wheel is nothing to play with. > > I wish you my very best, and please let me know how you do. > > Hugs, > > > > -- Sent from my mobile device Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2009 Report Share Posted July 12, 2009 yeah, maybe sleep apnea, or gluten intolerance, or a number of other possibilities. whose boys are they? yours or both of yours??? this might be meaningful re relationship issues, which could be part of the problem. > > Its been 9 years now and I don't even like him driving > anywhere alone with my boys in the truck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 The boys are ours but I call them my boys because I stay at home with them and do all the " kid " care! R On 7/12/09, bob Larson <bobList wrote: > yeah, maybe sleep apnea, or gluten intolerance, or a number of other > possibilities. > > whose boys are they? yours or both of yours??? this might be meaningful re > relationship issues, which could be part of the problem. > >> >> Its been 9 years now and I don't even like him driving >> anywhere alone with my boys in the truck > > -- Sent from my mobile device Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2009 Report Share Posted July 13, 2009 Oh my Rhonda...... Well, you certainly did drive the point home. lol I do understand your concern. Falling asleep at anytime, especially behind a wheel is very serious. Yet, there is always a solution. Sometimes we need to search a bit for it. Hang in there. Hugs, oleander soup , rhonda ebrom <dipghater wrote:>> , I'm so sorry I threw you into a frenzy, I do not take xanex> nor any anti depressants or any other perscribed mediacations! I> actually don't take anything other than the occasional motrin or> tylenol for a headache. I was merely trying to drive home the point> that getting into a vehicle with him because of his driving throws me> into a frenzy and tests my nerves!> Rhonda> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2009 Report Share Posted July 14, 2009 Ok Rhonda, I will tip you. I used to snore sssoooo loud sometimes i find my hubby sleeping on the floor in the morning. Believe me it was that bad. And oh yes, i also suffered from sleep apnea, gasping for breath and my heart pounding. Here goes. Don't feed him a heavy dinner!!!! Try giving him only salads and very light dinner, no starch if possible. If he insists, then give him just one slice of bread. See if that changes him. It changed me. Hope this helps your situation. Melly oleander soup , " May " <luellamay129 wrote: > > > Oh my Rhonda...... Well, you certainly did drive the point home. lol > > I do understand your concern. Falling asleep at anytime, especially > behind a wheel is very serious. Yet, there is always a solution. > Sometimes we need to search a bit for it. > > Hang in there. > > Hugs, > > > > > oleander soup , rhonda ebrom <dipghater@> wrote: > > > > , I'm so sorry I threw you into a frenzy, I do not take xanex > > nor any anti depressants or any other perscribed mediacations! I > > actually don't take anything other than the occasional motrin or > > tylenol for a headache. I was merely trying to drive home the point > > that getting into a vehicle with him because of his driving throws me > > into a frenzy and tests my nerves! > > Rhonda > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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