Maria - grief

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Maria, it's always easier for me to offer solutions to others than for myself. I was totally devastated when my husband died of cancer this year. He knew that my remission had just ended, and insisted that I take care of myself when he was gone. I did three things as soon as I could: had my mercury-filled amalgams removed, did an online search and found this Oleander Group, and called Hospice.

I happen to live in Oakland, CA, where there are many resources available. Hospice here has a decently-funded outreach program of grief support groups, and short individual grief counseling. I used it all, and found it extremely helpful. It lifted the black cloud sufficiently that I could begin to take care of myself.

Of course, it greatly depends on the quality of the individual counselor. When I first had cancer, I was terrified, and knew I needed help. I was living in Florida then, and the many elderly people engendered many counseling services; I only went to the ones that were free. It was the sixth that worked for me, the Wellness Community. I wanted a place where I could both laugh and cry, where I would not be exhorted to trust my doctors and all would be cured (the American Cancer Society), and found it there. But the organization is only as good as the people in it, so be cautious if you seek support. Rhoda

[Guest guest]

Hi Rhoda,

i dont know if you are referring to me, as you wrote Maria, i'am calling my self Mary as Maria is to official Lol.

i'v been everywere and i' have done everything to get out of that black cloud that i live in, but i found that people, get tired if you dont snap out of your depression as soon as they want you to, when i lost my husband my whole world just die with him, i reach out to people but i was ignored by every one,even by his family, so i gather my children around me and close the door to life.

i try again with our Tony here, but before he created this site, when i read about his book on line- cancer's natural Enemy back in 2004, Thanks to Tony i'am better than i was and i will get better still, Rhoda my story is long and painful i wont go into, but thank you for your's and every body's concern.. Today i went for a looooong walk, everything hurts even my toes, actually i'am in pain but good pain and i feel good.

Thank you Rhoda, i will keep your edvice in mind though.

Hugs Mary

 

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Rhoda Mead

oleander soup

Friday, December 05, 2008 5:06 PM

Maria - grief

 

 

Maria, it's always easier for me to offer solutions to others than for myself. I was totally devastated when my husband died of cancer this year. He knew that my remission had just ended, and insisted that I take care of myself when he was gone. I did three things as soon as I could: had my mercury-filled amalgams removed, did an online search and found this Oleander Group, and called Hospice. I happen to live in Oakland, CA, where there are many resources available. Hospice here has a decently-funded outreach program of grief support groups, and short individual grief counseling. I used it all, and found it extremely helpful. It lifted the black cloud sufficiently that I could begin to take care of myself. Of course, it greatly depends on the quality of the individual counselor. When I first had cancer, I was terrified, and knew I needed help. I was living in Florida then, and the many elderly people engendered many counseling services; I only went to the ones that were free. It was the sixth that worked for me, the Wellness Community. I wanted a place where I could both laugh and cry, where I would not be exhorted to trust my doctors and all would be cured (the American Cancer Society), and found it there. But the organization is only as good as the people in it, so be cautious if you seek support. Rhoda