Another Apology for Not Breeding

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, " Ed Siceloff " <siceloff wrote:

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> Well said John. Why would anybody think we have to be all alike? Boy would

that be a drag.

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> John Polifronio

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> Monday, March 19, 2007 1:53 PM

> Re: Re: An Apology for Not Breeding

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> This respone amuses me. Now to the facts.

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> I do my own chores, and am even reluctant to have grownups, let alone kids,

do them for me.

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> I can't stand " pets, " though I love animals. I've never owned one, and

never will.

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> I have no desperate need to fill my psyche, or " nautral voids. "

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> I've been married for nearly 30 years, to the same woman, a relationship

that deepens with time.

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> What people like you stubbornly refuse to accept, is that people are

different. They have different needs, different expectations, different goals

in life.

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> I wouldn't accept you as a model human being, since you seem to express a

nearly hateful feeling for single people; and people that don't have children;

you want to keep your children " away " them; and you won't have them over for

dinner. Where have I heard these attitudes before? I assume you also have

separate bathrooms and drinking fountains for us.

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> Don't bother feeling pity for us, we're perfectly content with our life

style, and wouldn't have it any other way.

Oh, please. Some of us don't like the hectic life, " doing the family "

thing offers.

 

* It is a financial burden.

* It keeps me from doing what I want to do 100% of the time.

* Conflicts gallore

* Overpopulation by making more babies that this world cannot sustain

indefinitely.

* " have you seen what college costs are??? "

There are many more but I'm only spending a few minutes on this...

 

No, I am not one of those that harbors 50 cats, 20 dogs, and hangs out

at singles bars for my existence. I am surrounded by friends, and

don't have anything keeping me to one place. You are overgeneraizing,

and that's the problem with minimal thinkers like you: Defining

everything as black and white, ignoring the grays and the colors.

 

I like my " space " , which means that being alone, either in a city or in

the middle of nowhere is appealing to me, without having to hear

conflict or feel I have to be the " lead entertainer " of my family (that

will never exist).

 

Signed,

Happily SINGLE

 

> jp

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> JazziDJess

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> Sunday, March 18, 2007 3:58 AM

> Re: Re: An Apology for Not Breeding

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> counterpnt writes:

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> You made a good case for not having children. It's the path I followed,

and, at close to 70, I'd had nearly zero regrets.>

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> I see some of these folks, in my neighborhood. Often wanting my and other

neighborhood children to " do chores, mow lawn, etc " . I carefully warn my kids,

" No, stay away from those sort " . Though I do pity them. They are often the ones

raided by the police for " having 57 cats " or taking in dozens of stray dogs.

What they are desperately trying to do is: fill the natural void in their

psyche, which should have been fulfilled in having a family. Sure, we all have

that " Uncle Elmer " or " Auntie Mabel " who never married...for unspecified

reasons. And, they don't exactly brighten up the Holidays, if we ever invite

them over for dinner. No need to say further.

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Dave <sjambok