Non verbal cues to hearing what someone is saying

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Body language non-verbal communication

 

Comfort/Discomfort

 

Comfort is readily apparent in conversations with family members and

friends. People sense when others have a good time and when they feel

comfortable in their presence.

Experiencing comfort in the presence of strangers becomes more

difficult, especially in stressful situations, such as during an

interview. A person's level of comfort or discomfort is one of the

most important clues interviewers should focus on when trying to

establish veracity.

 

Tension and distress most often manifest upon guilty people who must

carry the knowledge of their crimes with them. Attempting to disguise

their guilt places a distressing cognitive load on them as they

struggle to fabricate answers to what otherwise would be simple questions.

 

When comfortable, an individual's nonverbal behavior tends to mirror

the other person present.

 

For example, if one person leans forward, the other tends to do so as

well. Or, if one leans to the side with hands in pockets and feet

crossed, the other person may do the same. Subconsciously, people

demonstrate their comfort with whom they are talking.

 

When touched, people may touch back to emphasize a point. Some may

display their comfort more openly, such as showing more of their torso

and the insides of their arms and legs. People who speak the truth

more often display comfort because they have no stress to conceal nor

do they have guilty knowledge to make them feel uncomfortable.

 

While seated at a table, people comfortable with each other will move

objects aside so that nothing blocks their view. Over time, they may

draw closer so that they do not have to talk as loud, and their

breathing rhythm, tone of speech, pitch, and general demeanor will

become similar.

 

Look to hear beyond words and master the ability to communicate more

effectively.

 

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