recovering from pyschological or emotional trauma

[Guest guest]

Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a long-

term significant other.

 

****

What is psychological or emotional trauma?

 

The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically over

the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was noted

only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because of

the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its definition.

 

Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from

such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or disabling

condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can take

a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did not

cause physical damage.

 

Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common

elements:

 

• it was unexpected;

• the person was unprepared; and

• there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from happening.

 

It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic to

someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is not

predictable how a given person will react to a particular event. For

someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it

may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that something

like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

 

****

What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

 

Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine whether an

emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early in

life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to look

at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These

can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

 

Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

• substance abuse

• compulsive behavior patterns

• self-destructive and impulsive behavior

• uncontrollable reactive thoughts

• inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

• dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

• feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

• feeling permanently damaged

• a loss of previously sustained beliefs

 

Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:

• inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

friends and mates

• sexual problems

• hostility

• arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

• social withdrawal

• feeling constantly threatened

[Guest guest]

Try EFT http://www.emofree.com and/or ZPoint http://www.zpointforpeace.com.

 

Linda

 

 

 

 

falvarezhawaiikai <falvarezhawaiikai

 

Thursday, September 11, 2008 4:31:05 PM

recovering from pyschological or emotional trauma

 

 

Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a long-

term significant other.

 

****

What is psychological or emotional trauma?

 

The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically over

the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was noted

only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because of

the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its definition.

 

Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from

such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or disabling

condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can take

a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did not

cause physical damage.

 

Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common

elements:

 

• it was unexpected;

• the person was unprepared; and

• there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from happening.

 

It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic to

someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is not

predictable how a given person will react to a particular event. For

someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it

may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that something

like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

 

****

What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

 

Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine whether an

emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early in

life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to look

at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These

can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

 

Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

• substance abuse

• compulsive behavior patterns

• self-destructive and impulsive behavior

• uncontrollable reactive thoughts

• inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

• dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

• feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

• feeling permanently damaged

• a loss of previously sustained beliefs

 

Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:

• inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

friends and mates

• sexual problems

• hostility

• arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

• social withdrawal

• feeling constantly threatened

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

The best thing you can do is realize this: you are wasting your time;

your energy and your emotions on this person; YOU must focus on YOU;

how will you live; how will you support youself: for years you made

your significant other the focus of your life; so you feel like you

are nothing;you must develop your talents;don't let this ruin your

life; adopt a cat or a dog or set up an aquarium;take an art class. a

, " falvarezhawaiikai "

<falvarezhawaiikai wrote:

>

> Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a

long-

> term significant other.

>

> ****

> What is psychological or emotional trauma?

>

> The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically

over

> the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was

noted

> only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

> sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

> physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because of

> the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

> brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its definition.

>

> Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from

> such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

> significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

> experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or

disabling

> condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can

take

> a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did

not

> cause physical damage.

>

> Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common

> elements:

>

> • it was unexpected;

> • the person was unprepared; and

> • there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from

happening.

>

> It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic

to

> someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is

not

> predictable how a given person will react to a particular event.

For

> someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it

> may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that something

> like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

>

> ****

> What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

>

> Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

> difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine whether

an

> emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early

in

> life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to

look

> at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These

> can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

> dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

>

> Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

> • substance abuse

> • compulsive behavior patterns

> • self-destructive and impulsive behavior

> • uncontrollable reactive thoughts

> • inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

> • dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

> • feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

> • feeling permanently damaged

> • a loss of previously sustained beliefs

>

> Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:

> • inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

> friends and mates

> • sexual problems

> • hostility

> • arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

> • social withdrawal

> • feeling constantly threatened

>

[Guest guest]

Sorry to hear you're going through a challenging time. I enjoyed what

you attached on trauma. At 52, I've certainly had my share. I'm sure

most of us have.

 

I've been using the Bach Flower Remedies with great success for about

22 years. I swear by Rescue Remedy and use Walnut to deal with times of

transition. You can find Bach flower essences in most health food

stores. They are amazingly supportive. I'll post more info on them

next.

 

Love yourself up!

Michelle

http://www.HolisticMenopause.com

 

 

Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a long-

term significant other.

[Guest guest]

Releasing the trauma is key. The control center that is responsible

for how well an individual deals with this is the brain or mind.

There are many ways to release the emotions associated with the

experience. Meditation when used properly can get past any defenses

that might be built up with regards to feeling this fully.

 

It is a process, which depends on the individual and how you view

separation. Your views on this subject are rooted in the belief

system that you have adopted.

 

If you have a difficult time meditating brainwave entrainment audios

which are geared towards taking you into an alpha state would work

well. Something like this is more for those who feel they are able to

deal with this on their own as opposed to having support from a

therapist.

 

Hypnosis can be used. EFT, NLP, healers are also great ways to

approach this. I would pray for guidance concerning the best way for

you.

 

Blessings

Thomas

 

 

, " falvarezhawaiikai "

<falvarezhawaiikai wrote:

>

> Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a

long-

> term significant other.

>

> ****

> What is psychological or emotional trauma?

>

> The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically

over

> the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was

noted

> only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

> sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

> physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because of

> the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

> brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its definition.

>

> Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from

> such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

> significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

> experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or

disabling

> condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can

take

> a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did

not

> cause physical damage.

>

> Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common

> elements:

>

> • it was unexpected;

> • the person was unprepared; and

> • there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from

happening.

>

> It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic

to

> someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is

not

> predictable how a given person will react to a particular event.

For

> someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it

> may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that something

> like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

>

> ****

> What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

>

> Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

> difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine whether

an

> emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early

in

> life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to

look

> at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These

> can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

> dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

>

> Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

> • substance abuse

> • compulsive behavior patterns

> • self-destructive and impulsive behavior

> • uncontrollable reactive thoughts

> • inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

> • dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

> • feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

> • feeling permanently damaged

> • a loss of previously sustained beliefs

>

> Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:

> • inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

> friends and mates

> • sexual problems

> • hostility

> • arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

> • social withdrawal

> • feeling constantly threatened

>

[Guest guest]

Using Emotional Freedom Techniques can be very helpful. I would find someone

who is certified in Eye Desensitization Movement Therapy or Tapist therapy. The

first uses eye movements and the second uses tapping on acupressure points. You

can find information on both on the internet.

 

Richard

 

Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.

 

---Pema Chödrön

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) offers excellent relief from a

variety of emotional traumas and issues. By tapping on various

meridian points on the hands and face and using an affirmation or set

up phrase, one can diminish and often remove emotional issues from the

mind.

 

Here's a link with more information and a free manual you can download.

 

www.emofree.com

 

Namaste,

 

A

 

, " falvarezhawaiikai "

<falvarezhawaiikai wrote:

>

> Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a long-

> term significant other.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi,

 

The following are some of the books that had helped me to deal with

psychological and emotional trauma:

 

Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Unholy Hungers by Barbara Holt

The Drama of The Gifted Child by Alice Miller

Children of Trauma by Middleton-Moz

 

They help with a general healing process independently from the source

of the trauma.

 

best,

navegante

 

>

> falvarezhawaiikai <falvarezhawaiikai

>

> Thursday, September 11, 2008 4:31:05 PM

> recovering from pyschological or

emotional trauma

>

>

> Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a long-

> term significant other.

[Guest guest]

--

If the seperation has anything to do with infidelity, I am part of an

awesome called surviving infidelity that is simply

wonderful and supportive.

- In , " Anne " <annroc2004

wrote:

>

> The best thing you can do is realize this: you are wasting your

time;

> your energy and your emotions on this person; YOU must focus on

YOU;

> how will you live; how will you support youself: for years you made

> your significant other the focus of your life; so you feel like you

> are nothing;you must develop your talents;don't let this ruin your

> life; adopt a cat or a dog or set up an aquarium;take an art class.

a

> , " falvarezhawaiikai "

> <falvarezhawaiikai@> wrote:

> >

> > Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> > emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a

> long-

> > term significant other.

> >

> > ****

> > What is psychological or emotional trauma?

> >

> > The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically

> over

> > the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was

> noted

> > only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

> > sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

> > physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because

of

> > the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

> > brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its

definition.

> >

> > Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result

from

> > such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

> > significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

> > experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or

> disabling

> > condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can

> take

> > a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did

> not

> > cause physical damage.

> >

> > Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three

common

> > elements:

> >

> > • it was unexpected;

> > • the person was unprepared; and

> > • there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from

> happening.

> >

> > It is not the event that determines whether something is

traumatic

> to

> > someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is

> not

> > predictable how a given person will react to a particular event.

> For

> > someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events,

it

> > may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that

something

> > like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

> >

> > ****

> > What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

> >

> > Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

> > difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine

whether

> an

> > emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even

early

> in

> > life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to

> look

> > at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing.

These

> > can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

> > dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

> >

> > Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

> > • substance abuse

> > • compulsive behavior patterns

> > • self-destructive and impulsive behavior

> > • uncontrollable reactive thoughts

> > • inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

> > • dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

> > • feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

> > • feeling permanently damaged

> > • a loss of previously sustained beliefs

> >

> > Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal

relationships:

> > • inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

> > friends and mates

> > • sexual problems

> > • hostility

> > • arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

> > • social withdrawal

> > • feeling constantly threatened

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Theta Healing is a modality that assists you not only in releasing

and healing your current trauma but also assists you to find the

original trauma whether it is from your ancestors, or on your history

or core/soul levels. It is necessary to find and release the original

trauma / emotional disturbance or program / belief that caused

the " skip in your record " , thus causing you to repeat the lesson or

trauma / drama over and over so that you do not have to keep living

the nightmare over and over.

I am a certified advanced theta healing practitioner and would be

happy to discuss this method with you in more depth to see if you

resonate with it. My website is www.raenergetix.com and my direct

line is: 480-567-8491 (Pacific Time). I look forward to speaking with

you. Gabrielle

 

, Linda Bumpas

<lindabumpas wrote:

>

> Try EFT http://www.emofree.com and/or ZPoint

http://www.zpointforpeace.com.

>  

> Linda

>

>

>

>

> falvarezhawaiikai <falvarezhawaiikai

>

> Thursday, September 11, 2008 4:31:05 PM

> recovering from pyschological or

emotional trauma

>

>

> Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a

long-

> term significant other.

>

> ****

> What is psychological or emotional trauma?

>

> The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically

over

> the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was

noted

> only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

> sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

> physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because of

> the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

> brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its definition.

>

> Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from

> such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

> significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

> experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or

disabling

> condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can

take

> a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did

not

> cause physical damage.

>

> Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common

> elements:

>

> • it was unexpected;

> • the person was unprepared; and

> • there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from

happening.

>

> It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic

to

> someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is

not

> predictable how a given person will react to a particular event.

For

> someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it

> may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that something

> like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

>

> ****

> What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

>

> Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

> difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine whether

an

> emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even early

in

> life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to

look

> at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing. These

> can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

> dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

>

> Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

> • substance abuse

> • compulsive behavior patterns

> • self-destructive and impulsive behavior

> • uncontrollable reactive thoughts

> • inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

> • dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

> • feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

> • feeling permanently damaged

> • a loss of previously sustained beliefs

>

> Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal relationships:

> • inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

> friends and mates

> • sexual problems

> • hostility

> • arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

> • social withdrawal

> • feeling constantly threatened

 

[Guest guest]

One tip on surviving a great loss, is to pray.  Pray for strength, and courage,

and then one day, it will come.  The time will pass, and you will look at this

person and wonder why you wasted one minute on him.

 

Also listen to positive thinking tapes or read those types of books, the smarter

and more positive you are, the better you are to others and yourself.

 

--- On Mon, 9/15/08, Haven Carr <dreamyhaven wrote:

 

Haven Carr <dreamyhaven

Re: recovering from pyschological or emotional

trauma

 

Monday, September 15, 2008, 6:36 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

--

If the seperation has anything to do with infidelity, I am part of an

awesome called surviving infidelity that is simply

wonderful and supportive.

- In , " Anne " <annroc2004@ ...>

wrote:

>

> The best thing you can do is realize this: you are wasting your

time;

> your energy and your emotions on this person; YOU must focus on

YOU;

> how will you live; how will you support youself: for years you made

> your significant other the focus of your life; so you feel like you

> are nothing;you must develop your talents;don' t let this ruin your

> life; adopt a cat or a dog or set up an aquarium;take an art class.

a

> , " falvarezhawaiikai "

> <falvarezhawaiikai@ > wrote:

> >

> > Does anyone have tips on how to recover from psychological or

> > emotional trauma? I'm suffering from an abrupt separation with a

> long-

> > term significant other.

> >

> > ****

> > What is psychological or emotional trauma?

> >

> > The ability to recognize emotional trauma has changed radically

> over

> > the course of history. Until recently psychological trauma was

> noted

> > only in men after catastrophic wars. The women's movement in the

> > sixties broadened the definition of emotional trauma to include

> > physically and sexually abused women and children. Now, because

of

> > the discoveries made in the nineties - known as the decade of the

> > brain - psychological trauma has further broadened its

definition.

> >

> > Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result

from

> > such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a

> > significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing

> > experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or

> disabling

> > condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can

> take

> > a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did

> not

> > cause physical damage.

> >

> > Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three

common

> > elements:

> >

> > • it was unexpected;

> > • the person was unprepared; and

> > • there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from

> happening.

> >

> > It is not the event that determines whether something is

traumatic

> to

> > someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is

> not

> > predictable how a given person will react to a particular event.

> For

> > someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events,

it

> > may be surprising - even embarrassing - to discover that

something

> > like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating.

> >

> > ****

> > What are the possible effects of emotional trauma?

> >

> > Even when unrecognized, emotional trauma can create lasting

> > difficulties in an individual's life. One way to determine

whether

> an

> > emotional or psychological trauma has occurred, perhaps even

early

> in

> > life before language or conscious awareness were in place, is to

> look

> > at the kinds of recurring problems one might be experiencing.

These

> > can serve as clues to an earlier situation that caused a

> > dysregulation in the structure or function of the brain.

> >

> > Common personal and behavioral effects of emotional trauma:

> > • substance abuse

> > • compulsive behavior patterns

> > • self-destructive and impulsive behavior

> > • uncontrollable reactive thoughts

> > • inability to make healthy professional or lifestyle choices

> > • dissociative symptoms ( " splitting off " parts of the self)

> > • feelings of ineffectiveness, shame, despair, hopelessness

> > • feeling permanently damaged

> > • a loss of previously sustained beliefs

> >

> > Common effects of emotional trauma on interpersonal

relationships:

> > • inability to maintain close relationships or choose appropriate

> > friends and mates

> > • sexual problems

> > • hostility

> > • arguments with family members, employers or co-workers

> > • social withdrawal

> > • feeling constantly threatened

> >

>