Giving

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I really got to say a big `Thank You' to the person who thought

of this quotation which I read many years ago and which I am making it

as one of my values in life; " The ability to share and to give yield

greater pleasure than to receive. " It couldn't be more true for

me; when I am able to share something with someone or able to give

something to someone, I feel happy and at peace with my inner self. You

might be saying, " there is a limit to what we can share and give to

other. " Naturally, I believe (though I can't think of anything

yet at this moment when I am writing this) there are things in life that

we cannot share and cannot give to others and yet there are many things

in life that we can share and can give - like love, time and money.

 

Giving, according to dictionary.com, means to present voluntarily and

without expecting compensation. You must have already heard more than a

thousand times, " the more we give, the more we receive. " So to

speak, if we want more love for example, we have to give more love to

start with. Wait a minute! Didn't you cite from dictionary.com that

giving is to present voluntarily and without expecting compensation? I

am not contradicting myself, as much as it seems like it. Giving is an

act that comes naturally from the heart and goes in harmony with your

heart; just like a heartbeat. When you are truly giving, the thought of

compensation never comes into the picture.

 

However, the universe works in a magical way; the more you give without

the thought of compensation, the more you receive from the universe. For

some, you may see the effect immediately and sometimes the effect may

come much later when you least expected it. There are other times the

effect may fall on your future generation. Just like the planting of

trees - it takes a period of many many years of nurturing from the day

when the seedlings are planted to the day when the trees are in full

bloom before they can provide shelter and logs. This means that there

will be times when you may not see the effect of your giving from the

universe in your life time … but it will come.

" Blessed are those that can give without remembering and take

without forgetting. " — Liz Bebesco

 

 

" A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. " — Erin

Majors

 

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Yesterday, I read an article writing about marriage and in that article,

the author mentioned that his and his wife view their relationships as a

`Saving account' which they deposit regularly and very rarely do

they expect to withdraw from it and there will not be any penalties even

when they do withdraw from it. I can relate to the analogy given to a

large extent. I believe that in relationships, we have to constantly

give without expecting compensation and make it works. And yet it is

only human nature that when we give, we do expect something in return

sometimes. Don't be too hard on yourself or feel guilty about it. No

one is perfect in the world. However, we have the ability to learn and

to become better everyday.

 

There are many stories of people giving unconditional love to people

around them and I believe you may have heard of some of these stories or

have personally seen it before. Such stories are always inspiring and

they never failed to inspire you to be a better person. The best

examples of giving unconditional love are from our own parents. I

remembered a quotation which my friend shared with me years ago,

Unconditional love - it is in the giving that you made the other person

realizes. " — Unknown

 

 

Giving is often time associated with charity. Dictionary.com defines

charity as generous actions or donations to aid the poor, ill, or

helpless. I always believe that charity, like giving, should and must be

on a voluntarily basis and is an act in harmony with the heart too.

There had been successful charity and fund raising shows in Singapore

whereby companies and organisation sponsored attractive prizes like

condo units, cars, cash prizes etc to lure people to make call to pledge

their donations. I must say that their marketing had been more than

successful and it did indeed attract a lot of donations from the public

and I never doubt their effectiveness. The marketing aspect is needed to

create public awareness for the show and the beneficiaries where the

donations from the show will go to. The fundamental question is whether

such charity shows had distorted the true meaning of giving and charity?

 

<http://www.anrdoezrs.net/og65zw41w3JMLMMORKJLKNTPNPQ> A few years back

when I was traveling for work purpose to some developing countries, I

always saw children roaming in the streets and threading between cars

caught in the traffic begging for money. My heart empathized with them.

I was reminded of how fortunate the children of my country are and how

fortunate I was in my childhood. Much as I was very tempted to wind down

the window to give them a dollar or two, I did not. Why? You may asked.

For a very simple reason, I might have done more harm to them than doing

them a favor. No doubt the dollar or two will feed them for a day or few

days, but I am a strong believer in the preaching that if you teach a

man to fish, it will feed the man for life.

 

If you were to ask me, " How often should we give and when should we

give? " I will say, " As often as you can and as often as you want

to. " As to the question, " When " , there is never a better

time than now to start giving. Remember that, " a candle loses

nothing by lighting another candle, " let us be a candle that lights

up the lives of other.

 

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