Guest guest Posted August 7, 2003 Report Share Posted August 7, 2003 In a message dated 8/7/2003 10:15:44 AM Pacific Standard Time, acu.guy writes: E-mails can be touchy. I have much better success communicating face to face or on the phone. Even with this post I find myself wondering if someone will be put off by my remarks or think I have some motive I don't. I will be much more careful in the future. There is a saying that states: "Taoist do not seek to compete with the world but to play." I will try to do more playing and less competing! I agree, Matt, emails can be a touchy business. One's words are read without voice inflection and eye contact, on occasion leaving the reader to determine the intentions and demeanor of the author. Depending upon the readers' biases or tendencies, this can be to the author's advantage or detriment. Really, all one can do in this medium is attempt to portray one's ideas in as clear a way as possible and be open to the need for clarification in the event of misunderstanding. Graciousness on both sides of the scenario would benefit us all. Someone is inevitably going to get "cheezed-off" by someone, sometime. But I put it to the group, need the conflict of ideas and beliefs result in a "feud"? In the realm of professionals, disagreement is the opportunity for healthy debate and investigation (if one finds the thread of interest). As in walking life, we are free to engage or walk away. I may not always like what someone has to say, but then I don't have to take it personally. just my 2 cents be well Maya x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2003 Report Share Posted August 7, 2003 Hi Maya, Thanks for your feedback but just to make clear that in my circumstance there was no "feud" just a concern on my part that differences of opinion may escalate into one. One of my favorite Chuang Tzu stories is when he and his best friend (who was a top thinker of his day) were watching a group of fish swimming in a pond. "Look at how happy those fish are." Chuang Tzu said. "You are not a fish." Replied his friend. "How can you know what they are feeling?And you are not me!" Exclaimed Chaung Tzu. "How do you know that I don't know what they are feeling?" The two friends had a good laugh at this and went on their way. Both these men were passionate about their beliefs and never backed off from their point of view but got along famously. Matt Bauer - YinTangSong Chinese Medicine Thursday, August 07, 2003 10:37 AM Re: Re: Traditional (TCM) Important Notice on Group D... In a message dated 8/7/2003 10:15:44 AM Pacific Standard Time, acu.guy writes: E-mails can be touchy. I have much better success communicating face to face or on the phone. Even with this post I find myself wondering if someone will be put off by my remarks or think I have some motive I don't. I will be much more careful in the future. There is a saying that states: "Taoist do not seek to compete with the world but to play." I will try to do more playing and less competing!I agree, Matt, emails can be a touchy business. One's words are read without voice inflection and eye contact, on occasion leaving the reader to determine the intentions and demeanor of the author. Depending upon the readers' biases or tendencies, this can be to the author's advantage or detriment. Really, all one can do in this medium is attempt to portray one's ideas in as clear a way as possible and be open to the need for clarification in the event of misunderstanding. Graciousness on both sides of the scenario would benefit us all. Someone is inevitably going to get "cheezed-off" by someone, sometime. But I put it to the group, need the conflict of ideas and beliefs result in a "feud"? In the realm of professionals, disagreement is the opportunity for healthy debate and investigation (if one finds the thread of interest). As in walking life, we are free to engage or walk away. I may not always like what someone has to say, but then I don't have to take it personally. just my 2 cents be well Maya x For practitioners, students and those interested in TCM. Membership requires that you do not post any commerical, religious, spam messages or flame another member. If you want to change the way you receive email message, i.e. from individual to a daily digest or none then visit the groups’ homepage: Chinese Medicine/ From there, click ‘edit my membership on the right hand side’ and adjust accordingly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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