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Mary,

Thank you for this most beautiful article.

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oleander soup , " Maria Stathopoulos "

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> dear frients, this is the most beautiful article i have ever read so

far in my life and i like to shared with you, so, read for your

selfs and tell me if i'm wrong.

> Hugs Mary

> -

> Mark Sircus Ac., OMD

> medicalnewscommentaries

> Monday, July 07, 2008 2:15 PM

> [Medicalnewscommentaries] IMVA - Shared Emotional Life &

TheOneness of Being - July 7, 2008

Dear IMVA,

> I would like to take a second to welcome all our new

readers. Since Mike Adams the Health Ranger started publishing our

materials in his newsletter we have seen a large increase in

readership. To my new readers and old friends I would like to present

my son Nicholas:

He was born last Tuesday at home. A most unusual and

precious doctor drove three hours to deliver him. This is the second

time she has come to our home for this and the third child of ours she

has delivered. My life changed dramatically when she delivered Nathan

Thomas five years ago in a new public hospital that only did natural

births. Sadly that place is now closed; C sections are just too

popular here in Brazil.

> It is a good moment for me to acknowledge the really good

doctors who exist among us before I blast away at the rank and file

pediatrician and obstetrician practitioners who fit the profile that I

wrote about in The Terror of Pediatric Medicine. It is simply terrible

how modern medicine greets newborns. The disrespect and out right

cruelty for vulnerable angelic baby beings at their birth is tragic in

a staggering sense. There is no way we can calculate the damages and

costs of how much each baby and its mother suffer at the hands of

doctors and nurses who literally attack pregnant mothers and their

infants. From toxic vaccines, birthing on ones back (which closes the

birth channel 30 percent), quick cord clamping to unnecessary C

sections, there are no shortages of reasons to consider most doctors

who treat children as terrorists.

> Recently life lately is carrying me back to the roots of

my work, which I am feeling more inclined to share with my readers. My

first work The Marriage of Souls is very much linked to HeartHealth,

which I hope to publish soon. Today I am going to share something

quite deep from my writings and life of 12 years ago.

> I have several new essays to share this week, a medical

review of transdermal medicine, a chapter called The Secret of Light,

and two chapters on current financial events to address the rapidly

changing realities of our time.

> Mark Sircus Ac., OMD

> Director International Medical Veritas Association

> http://www.winningcancer.com/

--------

> Special Note: Before presenting the essay I would like to

introduce a company that I have been buying my organic spirulina from

and who have joined with me in my quest to help people prepare for the

bad times ahead. I got so many requests for information on spirulina

and even some old friends from the early spirulina days called. This

company is graciously providing a discounted price to those ordering

from them mentioning my name. The company is La Molina Febico, where

you can find some of the highest quality certified organic spirulina

available. Febrico is the home company at the very southern tip of

Tawain and in their pristine environment make some of the best

spirulina I have eaten during the last 25 years. They have only

recently entered into the American Marketplace. Just call or write

Frank Cheng.

--------

> Shared Emotional Life &

> The Oneness of Being

> Love is the offering of Oneness, the maintenance of Oneness

> and the work of creating Oneness. True love is an epic

> romance with Oneness ,with love and with life itself.

> Romance is essentially the dream of Oneness

> and when pursued with all our heart, mind and soul

> it becomes the seed feeling that has the potential

> to grow into the deepest and most pure love.

> Oneness is the ultimate goal of Love.

> Romance was probably invented by God to teach us

> that we are capable of loving our fellow human beings

> very deeply and with the totality of our soul.

> Original Image from The Marriage of Souls

> One of the most basic principles of social life and

intimate relationships is the idea of a shared emotional life that

springs forth from our relative state of oneness or separation we

experience with each other. The most fundamental principle on which

The Marriage of Souls is based on is the spiritual principle that all

is one, that there is continuity, a place where all things are

magically interconnected.

> Every founder of every religion has clearly stated that

the universe is one whole, integrated, vast interactive system and of

course this is what Quantum physics itself has brought to light. In

The Marriage of Souls this field of union upon which our beings meet

is called " The Oneness of Being. " It is both a space and an experience

that happens when we touch the quantum level of our selves that are

secretly at one with others. When emotional worlds touch perfectly and

we merge into this oneness we experience the entrainment of The

Oneness of Being that generates the most beautiful and powerful

feelings we will ever feel in our lives on earth.

> To be One on a soul level with another

> there is no separation between your own

> inner being and the being of the other.

> There are indiscernible threads that connect all beings

together and we have internal systems that give us the means to detect

the 'flux' of these connections. Because the separate powers of our

minds and personalities hold so much power to create separation

between our beings these 'fluxes' or movements toward and away from

oneness can be quite strong. And these movements have much to do with

our deepest feelings and generate much of our emotional content. When

we separate from our own heart and from the hearts of others our minds

ponder in darkness and these mind trips rip our emotional centers

asunder.

> From separation problems arise. Egocentrism is

essentially subjectivist philosophy in full form. The subjectivist

assumption locks people into their own private world creating a race

of fundamentally isolated individuals:

> 1: who do not affect each other.

> 2: who cannot hurt each other or cause suffering in the other

> 3: who do not have to pay attention to the consequence of

their actions on others.

> 4: who have no direct access into the subjectivity of others

> 5: human action is seen primarily as manipulative, and

self-serving

> 6: can never be one

> With these assumptions about our individualities we only

have ourselves to count on. Others by their very nature are perceived

as " alien " and thus they take back seat, secondary roles to the

primary concern we have for our self, that self that is directed by

the mind driven and controlled by the self-conscious separate ego

which is concerned primarily with its sense of I.

> The " evils " of individualism (separatism) are deeply

rooted in philosophic thought as well as in modern psychology and

science and The Oneness of Being is not known at all. In this view

intimacy is only the closeness experienced as two separate

subjectivities approach each other but there is really no chance for

actual merger. Love is a difficult concept for subjectivist thinkers

for it speaks about the state that moves away from isolation and

individualism.

> Separate subjective mentalities reach into every corner

of modern life and have ridden rough shod over therapy and

communication theory during this past century. It is one of the

primary reasons why therapy is so ineffective and frustrating because

in essence " the in-between space " is not recognized or respected. In

the in-between " we " exist, there is no " just I. " Subjectivists would

say there are just two " individualities " but no 'real' we.

> This chapter conceptualizes a class of emotions that

arise as elements within relational scenarios; feelings and emotions

that gain their intelligence and meaning from patterns of interchange

" between " beings. Thus it is possible to view emotions like anger and

depression not strictly as personal events but as constituents of

" relational dances. " Here we are taking off the arbitrary limits

imposed by egocentric subjectivist frameworks and opening up a new

framework for understanding our feelings and emotions in terms of

their cause, which is found in the sharing, conflict and movement

between inner realities that do touch and meet each other on a field

of interaction. On this field of being there are no hard edges that

define where one being begins and another ends. Love knows of this but

the mind is reluctant to accept that which might threaten its supreme

position as a separate entity.

> The Oneness of Being is the ego-less space,

> that space where the differences and separation disappear.

> That space where the other becomes our self.

> That space where one gives love to another

> and we feel that love; experience it

> in the nuclear center of our being.

> The ego (self-sense) is like a bubble with a hard edge.

It is ego and the resultant sense of separation that creates the

surface tension between ones inner and outer world. The normal

barrier of separation that divides one being from another is

represented by the word ego. Ego is the sense of " I " sitting inside

the minds own idea of who and what it thinks it is. It's kind of a

shell that defines the barrier between our self concept or " I " and our

concept of " others. " In reality the ego is not really a measure of our

individuality per say but a measure of our " separateness " from others.

> Ospensky wrote that the first intellectual judgment

mankind made in its infancy was to judge that what is " out there " is

different and apart from what is " in here. " The beginning of the " I "

Vs " we " conflict. The lines of separation only grew from there. It was

a natural development of the mind but it occurred at the expense of

the heart that is and always was and will be connected to the whole.

The idea of individuality and individual uniqueness is not actually in

conflict with oneness. The true meaning of individuality is that which

cannot be divided and that fits the oneness much more than separation.

> It is impossible in reality to separate the

> self from the total environment it lives in.

> Physics has long understood that what is observed cannot

be separated from the observer and Einstein proved for all time that

knowledge of velocity and all motion in space is relative to the

observer. The universe is not fixed and constant and acting on us. We

are acting on it as it acts on us and in the social sphere this

interaction is dynamic and intense. In essence, the more attuned we

are to each other, the more intimate, the more one, the deeper the

synchrony, the more similar our moods become. Just like grandfather

clocks swing together on the wall, we also go into entrainment with

each other emotionally.

> Emotional exchanges between people

> often occur on barely conscious levels.

> In human relationships the context of the inner reality

of one being gets transmitted into the inner reality of other beings

via a mechanism called 'emotional transmission.' Emotions are normally

seen as communications between one part of the self and another;

'emotional transmissions' are between one person and another. Emotions

are essential hormonal communications from one part of the internal

human biological system to another but interestingly some of the

strongest emotions are provoked by our relationships.

> Our inner universes overlap

> whether we like it or not.

> Though at times we do need to exert a great deal of force

to not get caught into others depressions, even the most enlightened

soul will feel the pressures of those who intimately surround them.

Our feelings, as opposed to emotions, are representations of our

beings presence and that presence's interaction with others. Our

emotions, on the other hand, are representations of what the mind

" feels " about its situation and circumstance. (See HeartHealth for a

full discussion on the distinction between emotions and feelings)

> In Oneness, the pure heart appears.

> At first a delicate space formed through bonds of trust.

> Needing that trust of unbreakable bonds,

> fidelity to the union, no clouds of separation

> mar the landscape. In pure love, nothing else will do.

> Systems theory has shown how one part of a system will

affect all other parts of the system and intimate and family

relationships represent the most powerful systems we participate in.

Emotional reactions are an important aspect of awareness; they provide

us " feedback " or information about how one part of a system is working

and how those " other " parts are affecting us. Emotional reactions are

responses to 'something' and that something is most important yet

difficult to understand plainly. That something has very much to do

with the 'quality' of the space that we are participating in. System

theory defines the individual in terms of the system with the system

being paramount; the individual cannot be seen or defined as an entity

totally separate from the system.

> Being completely independent of spirit we can still merge

> with another and not be dependant.

> Belonging to oneself and being one with another

> are not contradictions in terms

> but the ultimate test of our inner strength.

> The pure heart knows no boundaries,

> has no sense of separation,

> yet is rooted in it's own individuality.

> Other people's reactions to our behavior and attitudes

alert us to our effect on them. The real idea of cybernetics and

system's theory is that emotional reactions and feedback can alert us

to when we or our partners begin to 'head off course,' drifting away

from the light of shared love. They alert us to conflicts in the

making and what creates them. The feedback from our shared emotional

life becomes, in a way, the lifeblood of our relationships -

exchanging information about how well we are doing in relationship to

each other. Of course when we are already separate and cemented into

our ego we don't feel any of this and talk of such things sounds like

utter nonsense.

> How to dissolve the differences?

> How to end the separation?

> That is all there is to learn.

> Love is basically the feeling of being at one with, of

belonging and longing. Freud's Thantos or death instinct basically can

be seen as the ego's longing for a return to the state of union, the

drive to annihilate itself back into an amalgamation with something

other than itself. Romance is that feeling of longing and belonging

that explodes strongly in the beginning of relationships.

> The Marriage of Souls is about the practice of pure meditation

> " between " beings. It is the externalization of meditation.

> Instead of being the inner practice of dissolving the separation

> between our mind and pure being it is the spiritual practice

> of dissolving the separate mind that gets in the way

> of the pure communion between beings.

> What is ultimately so intolerable to our beings is the

sense of separation, the coldness of being a being living apart and

distant from significant people in our lives. The greatest reality of

modern life is separation and even in the family we have a machine

that creates separation among family members. Television has created

separation between beings that live in the same house together. It

deadens both the heart and mind with overuse, and most importantly,

instead of relating to each other, people sit together watching

television. Instead of paying attention to each other and spending the

time to work out conflicts, share love, communicate and touch each

other, consciousness flows out into a reality distorting machine.

> We need tremendous skill and love to deal with the opening heart

> and all those " temporary " movements back into separation.

> Even the most romantic and devoted lovers

> eventually feel these movements.

> The conquest of love over ego, oneness over separation

> depends on how we deal with such movements,

> how we deal with conflict and pain.

> Open heart felt communication is the best insurance policy,

> the only guarantee of returning and securing the love of the

heart.

> In The Marriage of Souls we consciously recognize the

existence of this shared emotional life that we see actually as a kind

of subterranean economy of the heart. Our beings have the capacity to

detect whether our encounters with others are going well or not.

Whenever we spend life together in deep partnership there is a special

dance we do between states of oneness and separation and our feeling

center will register such changes.

> In love and Oneness we have that total trust.

> Less leads to degrees of separation.

> Some have used the words 'emotional virus' to describe

how one person's feelings and emotions can affect another. Even in the

least intimate situations we see this happen like in how a salesperson

says thank you, can leave us feeling warmed and appreciated or totally

ignored and resentful. Multiply this enormously for our 'intimate'

relationships and we can see how we catch feelings from one another as

though they were some kind of virus.

> Though NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) and NVC

(Non-violent Communication) insist that one person can not 'cause'

another to suffer but they ignore this invisible subterranean economy

of the heart. The reality of this invisibility can be seen and has

been measured by researchers who have studied mood changes through

slight changes in the facial muscles, heart rhythms, and body

postures. We have little choice over the deep core feeling responses

that are 'hard wired' into our beings.

> The very foundation of our emotional and social

> intelligence is seen in our beings ability to

> maintain our " connection " with those we care about.

> We of course have to beware of the paradox between

appropriate psychological separation, which recognizes the 'special'

individuality of others, and the sense or feeling of separation that

stems from egocentricity. We can realize this feeling of oneness and

yet still understand that the distinction between oneself and others

needs to be maintained and preserved. Scott Peck observed quite

precisely that we always need to perceive our beloved ones as having

'separate' identities and that even more than this we need to " always

respect and even encourage this separateness and the unique

individuality of the beloved. "

> When a person is undividable from

> the whole he or she is a true individual.

> The radiating heart centered inside of itself

> 'feels' no separation, it is not self-conscious,

> it does not create barriers between things.

> Our emotions are feeding us information about what is

happening in both our own inner world and simultaneously registering

what is happening in others around us; how these worlds are coming

together or drifting apart. Since the heart is interested in seeking

and in maintaining connection, heart centered people do not shy away

from making difficult communications whose aim is healing separations

when they occur. This is hard for many to do for it involves sharing

our vulnerabilities about how we feel in relationship to the other.

> The most loving, the most open and the sweetest beings

> still have their flaws their resistance to love and oneness.

> At the heights we fall moving in and out of oneness.

> The self has its movements; we cross back and forth

> crying the tears of the hardening and melting heart.

> When our wife or husband gets depressed or attacks us

with their resentments and judgments we are going to feel something.

We have emotions and feelings to alert us to 'changes' and to possible

threats to both our loved ones and to our own well being. When we are

open to each other, when one end of a couple drifts into the separate

space, the other partner will feel this in their heart and hopefully

will be aware enough to make a communication, even if it seems risky.

The bigger problem is when a couple separates their emotional worlds

and then settles into that separation as the steady state of their

relationship.

> In the Marriage of Souls we join

> precisely for the purpose of evolving together.

> But we have to constantly challenge each other's willingness

> to overcome separateness in order to keep

> the heart bond strong and deep.

> Identification with the beautiful harmony that comes

> from a feeling of oneness delivers the strength

> to conquer our sense of separation.

> Oneness is a state of being.

> Separation is the natural state of our egos.

> The further a couple tumbles into the distance and often

coldness of separation the more confused they will get about 'things;'

having to do with their relationship. From extreme points of

separation come extreme feelings. We know that most strong emotions

have at their root impulses to action but what is not always clear,

especially in our intimate relationships, what those actions are

supposed to be.

> In The Marriage of Souls we are interested in and

concerned with achieving and then maintaining a state of oneness and

harmony but we have to know with all our heart and soul that this

takes work and only comes automatically when passions and romantic

flames are blowing hotly. The building and maintenance of oneness

takes work and care. It's like planting a vegetable garden. One has to

pay attention to the weeds (our egos) and the insects (other peoples

egos) and planning what one wants to grow.

> The more we communicate and share the less separate we feel.

> In essence the state of separation is really the state of

non-caring

> and non-communication. We don't really care much about what we

> are separate from translates into us not wanting to listen or

communicate.

> Our most intense emotions are alerting us to shifts either

into or away from a point of union. The problem is in our

insensitivity to these shifts and in our ignorance to the issue

itself. There is no escaping the reality that a lack of sensitivity to

the shared emotional environment has much to do with our communication

abilities which includes our capacity to both communicate and receive

emotional messages. In reality the best way to begin and continue to

work on our egos is through a lifetime commitment to the fires of

creative communication.

> All our heart felt relationships begin a gradual death

> when we resist the heart-felt communications of our lovers

> and friends, or when we fail to communicate

> what is in on our heart, minds and souls.

> Emotionally closed people are in general not very good

communicators and if we cannot communicate it is guaranteed that we

will not be able to maintain any state of intimacy and oneness for

long; and even the hottest of the hottest romantic fires and passions

will cool to absolute coldness. Emotionally closed people who cannot

communicate deeply just can not understand what is going on in their

relationships and trying to maintain a relationship with such a

person, when we ourselves are open can be mission impossible happening

everyday in our life.

> Our commitment to interpersonal communication

> is the art if creating real love bonds that last.

> In oneness we do not feel separate and are secure

> in each others understanding,

> safe to express everything we are.

> Our openness knows no limits.

> The Marriage of Souls is the oneness and intimacy of beings

> connected through strong bonds of communication.

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Re: Fw: [Medicalnewscommentaries] IMVA - Shared Emotional Life & TheOneness of B

Mary,Thank you for this most beautiful article.Hugs,oleander soup , "Maria Stathopoulos"<mary1kon wrote:>> dear frients, this is the most beautiful article i have ever read sofar in my life and i like to shared with you, so, read for yourselfs and tell me if i'm wrong.> Hugs Mary> - > Mark Sircus Ac., OMD > medicalnewscommentaries > Monday, July 07, 2008 2:15 PM> [Medicalnewscommentaries] IMVA - Shared Emotional Life & TheOneness of Being - July 7, 2008> > > > > > > > > > Dear IMVA,> > > > > > I would like to take a second to welcome all our newreaders. Since Mike Adams the Health Ranger started publishing ourmaterials in his newsletter we have seen a large increase inreadership. To my new readers and old friends I would like to presentmy son Nicholas:> > > > > > > > > > He was born last Tuesday at home. A most unusual andprecious doctor drove three hours to deliver him. This is the secondtime she has come to our home for this and the third child of ours shehas delivered. My life changed dramatically when she delivered NathanThomas five years ago in a new public hospital that only did naturalbirths. Sadly that place is now closed; C sections are just toopopular here in Brazil. > > > > It is a good moment for me to acknowledge the really gooddoctors who exist among us before I blast away at the rank and filepediatrician and obstetrician practitioners who fit the profile that Iwrote about in The Terror of Pediatric Medicine. It is simply terriblehow modern medicine greets newborns. The disrespect and out rightcruelty for vulnerable angelic baby beings at their birth is tragic ina staggering sense. There is no way we can calculate the damages andcosts of how much each baby and its mother suffer at the hands ofdoctors and nurses who literally attack pregnant mothers and theirinfants. From toxic vaccines, birthing on ones back (which closes thebirth channel 30 percent), quick cord clamping to unnecessary Csections, there are no shortages of reasons to consider most doctorswho treat children as terrorists. > > > > Recently life lately is carrying me back to the roots ofmy work, which I am feeling more inclined to share with my readers. Myfirst work The Marriage of Souls is very much linked to HeartHealth,which I hope to publish soon. Today I am going to share somethingquite deep from my writings and life of 12 years ago. > > > > I have several new essays to share this week, a medicalreview of transdermal medicine, a chapter called The Secret of Light,and two chapters on current financial events to address the rapidlychanging realities of our time. > > > > Mark Sircus Ac., OMD> Director International Medical Veritas Association > http://www.winningcancer.com/> > > > > >-------------------------> > > > > Special Note: Before presenting the essay I would like tointroduce a company that I have been buying my organic spirulina fromand who have joined with me in my quest to help people prepare for thebad times ahead. I got so many requests for information on spirulinaand even some old friends from the early spirulina days called. Thiscompany is graciously providing a discounted price to those orderingfrom them mentioning my name. The company is La Molina Febico, whereyou can find some of the highest quality certified organic spirulinaavailable. Febrico is the home company at the very southern tip ofTawain and in their pristine environment make some of the bestspirulina I have eaten during the last 25 years. They have onlyrecently entered into the American Marketplace. Just call or writeFrank Cheng. > > > > >-------------------------> > > > > Shared Emotional Life & > The Oneness of Being> > > > > > Love is the offering of Oneness, the maintenance of Oneness > and the work of creating Oneness. True love is an epic > romance with Oneness ,with love and with life itself.> > Romance is essentially the dream of Oneness> > and when pursued with all our heart, mind and soul> > it becomes the seed feeling that has the potential> to grow into the deepest and most pure love.> > Oneness is the ultimate goal of Love.> > Romance was probably invented by God to teach us> > that we are capable of loving our fellow human beings> very deeply and with the totality of our soul.> > > > > > Original Image from The Marriage of Souls> > > > One of the most basic principles of social life andintimate relationships is the idea of a shared emotional life thatsprings forth from our relative state of oneness or separation weexperience with each other. The most fundamental principle on whichThe Marriage of Souls is based on is the spiritual principle that allis one, that there is continuity, a place where all things aremagically interconnected. > > > > Every founder of every religion has clearly stated thatthe universe is one whole, integrated, vast interactive system and ofcourse this is what Quantum physics itself has brought to light. InThe Marriage of Souls this field of union upon which our beings meetis called "The Oneness of Being." It is both a space and an experiencethat happens when we touch the quantum level of our selves that aresecretly at one with others. When emotional worlds touch perfectly andwe merge into this oneness we experience the entrainment of TheOneness of Being that generates the most beautiful and powerfulfeelings we will ever feel in our lives on earth. > > > > To be One on a soul level with another> > there is no separation between your own> inner being and the being of the other.> > > > There are indiscernible threads that connect all beingstogether and we have internal systems that give us the means to detectthe 'flux' of these connections. Because the separate powers of ourminds and personalities hold so much power to create separationbetween our beings these 'fluxes' or movements toward and away fromoneness can be quite strong. And these movements have much to do withour deepest feelings and generate much of our emotional content. Whenwe separate from our own heart and from the hearts of others our mindsponder in darkness and these mind trips rip our emotional centersasunder. > > > > From separation problems arise. Egocentrism isessentially subjectivist philosophy in full form. The subjectivistassumption locks people into their own private world creating a raceof fundamentally isolated individuals: > > > > 1: who do not affect each other.> > 2: who cannot hurt each other or cause suffering in the other> > 3: who do not have to pay attention to the consequence oftheir actions on others. > > 4: who have no direct access into the subjectivity of others> > 5: human action is seen primarily as manipulative, andself-serving> > 6: can never be one > > > > With these assumptions about our individualities we onlyhave ourselves to count on. Others by their very nature are perceivedas "alien" and thus they take back seat, secondary roles to theprimary concern we have for our self, that self that is directed bythe mind driven and controlled by the self-conscious separate egowhich is concerned primarily with its sense of I. > > > > The "evils" of individualism (separatism) are deeplyrooted in philosophic thought as well as in modern psychology andscience and The Oneness of Being is not known at all. In this viewintimacy is only the closeness experienced as two separatesubjectivities approach each other but there is really no chance foractual merger. Love is a difficult concept for subjectivist thinkersfor it speaks about the state that moves away from isolation andindividualism. > > > > Separate subjective mentalities reach into every cornerof modern life and have ridden rough shod over therapy andcommunication theory during this past century. It is one of theprimary reasons why therapy is so ineffective and frustrating becausein essence "the in-between space" is not recognized or respected. Inthe in-between "we" exist, there is no "just I." Subjectivists wouldsay there are just two "individualities" but no 'real' we. > > > > This chapter conceptualizes a class of emotions thatarise as elements within relational scenarios; feelings and emotionsthat gain their intelligence and meaning from patterns of interchange"between" beings. Thus it is possible to view emotions like anger anddepression not strictly as personal events but as constituents of"relational dances." Here we are taking off the arbitrary limitsimposed by egocentric subjectivist frameworks and opening up a newframework for understanding our feelings and emotions in terms oftheir cause, which is found in the sharing, conflict and movementbetween inner realities that do touch and meet each other on a fieldof interaction. On this field of being there are no hard edges thatdefine where one being begins and another ends. Love knows of this butthe mind is reluctant to accept that which might threaten its supremeposition as a separate entity. > > > > The Oneness of Being is the ego-less space,> > that space where the differences and separation disappear.> > That space where the other becomes our self.> > That space where one gives love to another> > and we feel that love; experience it> > in the nuclear center of our being.> > > > The ego (self-sense) is like a bubble with a hard edge.It is ego and the resultant sense of separation that creates thesurface tension between ones inner and outer world. The normalbarrier of separation that divides one being from another isrepresented by the word ego. Ego is the sense of "I" sitting insidethe minds own idea of who and what it thinks it is. It's kind of ashell that defines the barrier between our self concept or "I" and ourconcept of "others." In reality the ego is not really a measure of ourindividuality per say but a measure of our "separateness" from others. > > > > Ospensky wrote that the first intellectual judgmentmankind made in its infancy was to judge that what is "out there" isdifferent and apart from what is "in here." The beginning of the "I"Vs "we" conflict. The lines of separation only grew from there. It wasa natural development of the mind but it occurred at the expense ofthe heart that is and always was and will be connected to the whole.The idea of individuality and individual uniqueness is not actually inconflict with oneness. The true meaning of individuality is that whichcannot be divided and that fits the oneness much more than separation. > > > > It is impossible in reality to separate the > self from the total environment it lives in.> > > > Physics has long understood that what is observed cannotbe separated from the observer and Einstein proved for all time thatknowledge of velocity and all motion in space is relative to theobserver. The universe is not fixed and constant and acting on us. Weare acting on it as it acts on us and in the social sphere thisinteraction is dynamic and intense. In essence, the more attuned weare to each other, the more intimate, the more one, the deeper thesynchrony, the more similar our moods become. Just like grandfatherclocks swing together on the wall, we also go into entrainment witheach other emotionally. > > > > Emotional exchanges between people> often occur on barely conscious levels.> > > > In human relationships the context of the inner realityof one being gets transmitted into the inner reality of other beingsvia a mechanism called 'emotional transmission.' Emotions are normallyseen as communications between one part of the self and another;'emotional transmissions' are between one person and another. Emotionsare essential hormonal communications from one part of the internalhuman biological system to another but interestingly some of thestrongest emotions are provoked by our relationships. > > > > Our inner universes overlap > whether we like it or not.> > > > Though at times we do need to exert a great deal of forceto not get caught into others depressions, even the most enlightenedsoul will feel the pressures of those who intimately surround them.Our feelings, as opposed to emotions, are representations of ourbeings presence and that presence's interaction with others. Ouremotions, on the other hand, are representations of what the mind"feels" about its situation and circumstance. (See HeartHealth for afull discussion on the distinction between emotions and feelings) > > > > In Oneness, the pure heart appears.> > At first a delicate space formed through bonds of trust.> > Needing that trust of unbreakable bonds,> > fidelity to the union, no clouds of separation> mar the landscape. In pure love, nothing else will do.> > > > Systems theory has shown how one part of a system willaffect all other parts of the system and intimate and familyrelationships represent the most powerful systems we participate in.Emotional reactions are an important aspect of awareness; they provideus "feedback" or information about how one part of a system is workingand how those "other" parts are affecting us. Emotional reactions areresponses to 'something' and that something is most important yetdifficult to understand plainly. That something has very much to dowith the 'quality' of the space that we are participating in. Systemtheory defines the individual in terms of the system with the systembeing paramount; the individual cannot be seen or defined as an entitytotally separate from the system. > > > > Being completely independent of spirit we can still merge> > with another and not be dependant.> > Belonging to oneself and being one with another> > are not contradictions in terms> > but the ultimate test of our inner strength.> > The pure heart knows no boundaries,> > has no sense of separation,> > yet is rooted in it's own individuality.> > > > Other people's reactions to our behavior and attitudesalert us to our effect on them. The real idea of cybernetics andsystem's theory is that emotional reactions and feedback can alert usto when we or our partners begin to 'head off course,' drifting awayfrom the light of shared love. They alert us to conflicts in themaking and what creates them. The feedback from our shared emotionallife becomes, in a way, the lifeblood of our relationships -exchanging information about how well we are doing in relationship toeach other. Of course when we are already separate and cemented intoour ego we don't feel any of this and talk of such things sounds likeutter nonsense. > > > > How to dissolve the differences?> > How to end the separation?> > That is all there is to learn.> > > > Love is basically the feeling of being at one with, ofbelonging and longing. Freud's Thantos or death instinct basically canbe seen as the ego's longing for a return to the state of union, thedrive to annihilate itself back into an amalgamation with somethingother than itself. Romance is that feeling of longing and belongingthat explodes strongly in the beginning of relationships.> > > > The Marriage of Souls is about the practice of pure meditation> "between" beings. It is the externalization of meditation.> > Instead of being the inner practice of dissolving the separation > between our mind and pure being it is the spiritual practice> > of dissolving the separate mind that gets in the way> > of the pure communion between beings.> > > > What is ultimately so intolerable to our beings is thesense of separation, the coldness of being a being living apart anddistant from significant people in our lives. The greatest reality ofmodern life is separation and even in the family we have a machinethat creates separation among family members. Television has createdseparation between beings that live in the same house together. Itdeadens both the heart and mind with overuse, and most importantly,instead of relating to each other, people sit together watchingtelevision. Instead of paying attention to each other and spending thetime to work out conflicts, share love, communicate and touch eachother, consciousness flows out into a reality distorting machine. > > > > We need tremendous skill and love to deal with the opening heart> > and all those "temporary" movements back into separation.> > Even the most romantic and devoted lovers> > eventually feel these movements.> > The conquest of love over ego, oneness over separation> > depends on how we deal with such movements,> > how we deal with conflict and pain.> > Open heart felt communication is the best insurance policy,> > the only guarantee of returning and securing the love of theheart.> > > > In The Marriage of Souls we consciously recognize theexistence of this shared emotional life that we see actually as a kindof subterranean economy of the heart. Our beings have the capacity todetect whether our encounters with others are going well or not.Whenever we spend life together in deep partnership there is a specialdance we do between states of oneness and separation and our feelingcenter will register such changes. > > > > In love and Oneness we have that total trust.> > Less leads to degrees of separation.> > > > Some have used the words 'emotional virus' to describehow one person's feelings and emotions can affect another. Even in theleast intimate situations we see this happen like in how a salespersonsays thank you, can leave us feeling warmed and appreciated or totallyignored and resentful. Multiply this enormously for our 'intimate'relationships and we can see how we catch feelings from one another asthough they were some kind of virus. > > > > Though NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) and NVC(Non-violent Communication) insist that one person can not 'cause'another to suffer but they ignore this invisible subterranean economyof the heart. The reality of this invisibility can be seen and hasbeen measured by researchers who have studied mood changes throughslight changes in the facial muscles, heart rhythms, and bodypostures. We have little choice over the deep core feeling responsesthat are 'hard wired' into our beings. > > > > The very foundation of our emotional and social> intelligence is seen in our beings ability to> maintain our "connection" with those we care about.> > > > We of course have to beware of the paradox betweenappropriate psychological separation, which recognizes the 'special'individuality of others, and the sense or feeling of separation thatstems from egocentricity. We can realize this feeling of oneness andyet still understand that the distinction between oneself and othersneeds to be maintained and preserved. Scott Peck observed quiteprecisely that we always need to perceive our beloved ones as having'separate' identities and that even more than this we need to "alwaysrespect and even encourage this separateness and the uniqueindividuality of the beloved." > > > > When a person is undividable from> the whole he or she is a true individual.> The radiating heart centered inside of itself> > 'feels' no separation, it is not self-conscious,> > it does not create barriers between things.> > > > Our emotions are feeding us information about what ishappening in both our own inner world and simultaneously registeringwhat is happening in others around us; how these worlds are comingtogether or drifting apart. Since the heart is interested in seekingand in maintaining connection, heart centered people do not shy awayfrom making difficult communications whose aim is healing separationswhen they occur. This is hard for many to do for it involves sharingour vulnerabilities about how we feel in relationship to the other. > > > > The most loving, the most open and the sweetest beings> > still have their flaws their resistance to love and oneness.> > At the heights we fall moving in and out of oneness.> > The self has its movements; we cross back and forth> > crying the tears of the hardening and melting heart.> > > > When our wife or husband gets depressed or attacks uswith their resentments and judgments we are going to feel something.We have emotions and feelings to alert us to 'changes' and to possiblethreats to both our loved ones and to our own well being. When we areopen to each other, when one end of a couple drifts into the separatespace, the other partner will feel this in their heart and hopefullywill be aware enough to make a communication, even if it seems risky.The bigger problem is when a couple separates their emotional worldsand then settles into that separation as the steady state of theirrelationship. > > > > In the Marriage of Souls we join> > precisely for the purpose of evolving together.> > But we have to constantly challenge each other's willingness> > to overcome separateness in order to keep> > the heart bond strong and deep.> > Identification with the beautiful harmony that comes> > from a feeling of oneness delivers the strength> > to conquer our sense of separation.> > Oneness is a state of being.> > Separation is the natural state of our egos.> > > > The further a couple tumbles into the distance and oftencoldness of separation the more confused they will get about 'things;'having to do with their relationship. From extreme points ofseparation come extreme feelings. We know that most strong emotionshave at their root impulses to action but what is not always clear,especially in our intimate relationships, what those actions aresupposed to be. > > > > In The Marriage of Souls we are interested in andconcerned with achieving and then maintaining a state of oneness andharmony but we have to know with all our heart and soul that thistakes work and only comes automatically when passions and romanticflames are blowing hotly. The building and maintenance of onenesstakes work and care. It's like planting a vegetable garden. One has topay attention to the weeds (our egos) and the insects (other peoplesegos) and planning what one wants to grow. > > > > The more we communicate and share the less separate we feel.> In essence the state of separation is really the state ofnon-caring> and non-communication. We don't really care much about what we> are separate from translates into us not wanting to listen orcommunicate.> > > > Our most intense emotions are alerting us to shifts eitherinto or away from a point of union. The problem is in ourinsensitivity to these shifts and in our ignorance to the issueitself. There is no escaping the reality that a lack of sensitivity tothe shared emotional environment has much to do with our communicationabilities which includes our capacity to both communicate and receiveemotional messages. In reality the best way to begin and continue towork on our egos is through a lifetime commitment to the fires ofcreative communication. > > > > All our heart felt relationships begin a gradual death> > when we resist the heart-felt communications of our lovers> > and friends, or when we fail to communicate> > what is in on our heart, minds and souls.> > > > Emotionally closed people are in general not very goodcommunicators and if we cannot communicate it is guaranteed that wewill not be able to maintain any state of intimacy and oneness forlong; and even the hottest of the hottest romantic fires and passionswill cool to absolute coldness. Emotionally closed people who cannotcommunicate deeply just can not understand what is going on in theirrelationships and trying to maintain a relationship with such aperson, when we ourselves are open can be mission impossible happeningeveryday in our life. > > > > Our commitment to interpersonal communication> > is the art if creating real love bonds that last.> > In oneness we do not feel separate and are secure> > in each others understanding,> > safe to express everything we are.> > Our openness knows no limits.> > The Marriage of Souls is the oneness and intimacy of beings> > connected through strong bonds of communication.> > > >-------------------------> > Frank Cheng, the general manager will provide a 20%discount to those contacting him by email and mentioning Dr. Sircuswhen placing a spirulina order. In addition he is offering our IMVAreaders a 50% discount on anew product called "Energy Plus" which is acombination of 49% chlorella, 49% organic spirulina and 2% red algae.Practitioners should enquire about practitioner discounts. ContactFRANK CHENG - General Manager fcheng ; > > Toll Free: 877.888.6222. http://www.lamolina.net/spirulina100.html> > > > >-------------------------> > > > > > > > > International Medical Veritas Association > Copyright 2008 All rights reserved. > > > > Legal Notice: The Author specifically invokes the FirstAmendment rights of freedom of speech and of the press withoutprejudice. The information written is published for informationalpurposes only under the rights guaranteed by the First Amendment ofthe Constitution for the United States of America, and should not inany way be used as a substitute for the advice of a physician or otherlicensed health care practitioner. The statements contained hereinhave not been evaluated by the FDA. The products discussed herein arenot intended to diagnose, cure, prevent or treat any disease. Images,text and logic are copyright protected. ALL rights are explicitlyreserved without prejudice, and no part of this essay may bereproduced except by written consent. ©2008 by Mark Sircus > > > > To write to director > > >-------------------------> I am using the free version of SPAMfighter for private users.> It has removed 117944 spam emails to date.> Paying users do not have this message in their emails.> Try SPAMfighter for free now!> > > >-------------------------> > > _____________> Medicalnewscommentaries mailing list> Medicalnewscommentarieshttp://feraz.com.br/mailman/listinfo/medicalnewscommentaries_feraz.com.br>

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