An Apology for Not Breeding

March 20, 2007

Well said John. Why would anybody think we have to be all alike? Boy would that be a drag.

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John Polifronio

Monday, March 19, 2007 1:53 PM

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This respone amuses me. Now to the facts.

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I do my own chores, and am even reluctant to have grownups, let alone kids, do them for me.

I can't stand "pets," though I love animals. I've never owned one, and never will.

I have no desperate need to fill my psyche, or "nautral voids."

I've been married for nearly 30 years, to the same woman, a relationship that deepens with time.

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What people like you stubbornly refuse to accept, is that people are different. They have different needs, different expectations, different goals in life.

I wouldn't accept you as a model human being, since you seem to express a nearly hateful feeling for single people; and people that don't have children; you want to keep your children "away" them; and you won't have them over for dinner. Where have I heard these attitudes before? I assume you also have separate bathrooms and drinking fountains for us.

Don't bother feeling pity for us, we're perfectly content with our life style, and wouldn't have it any other way.

jp

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JazziDJess (AT) wmconnect (DOT) com

Sunday, March 18, 2007 3:58 AM

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counterpnt (AT) earthlink (DOT) net writes:

You made a good case for not having children. It's the path I followed, and, at close to 70, I'd had nearly zero regrets.>> I see some of these folks, in my neighborhood. Often wanting my and other neighborhood children to "do chores, mow lawn, etc". I carefully warn my kids, "No, stay away from those sort". Though I do pity them. They are often the ones raided by the police for "having 57 cats" or taking in dozens of stray dogs. What they are desperately trying to do is: fill the natural void in their psyche, which should have been fulfilled in having a family. Sure, we all have that "Uncle Elmer" or "Auntie Mabel" who never married...for unspecified reasons. And, they don't exactly brighten up the Holidays, if we ever invite them over for dinner. No need to say further. .

March 22, 2007

Garrison Keillor, the host of American Public Media's Prairie

Home Companion, has HomoSexxed and other "non Breeders" upset over an article he did on the family in Salon.

The March 14 article is entitled "Stating the Obvious"

Nature doesn't care about the emotional well-being of older people. It's about the continuation of the species -- in other words, children.

By Garrison Keillor

I see in the paper that the U.S. Department of Education laid out $750,000 for a study that shows that going to art museums and looking at art is good for schoolchildren, which I would have been happy to tell them for, say, $500 and a nice lunch. I also have some thoughts about the defecatory habits of bears, if the Forestry Service is interested. If the government is paying large sums of money to have the obvious pointed out, then I am your man. Ask me about this war and I'll tell you for free.

I grew up the child of a mixed-gender marriage that lasted until death parted them, and I could tell you about how good that is for children, and you could pay me whatever you think it's worth.

Back in the day, that was the standard arrangement. Everyone had a yard, a garage, a female mom, a male dad, and a refrigerator with leftover boiled potatoes in plastic dishes with snap-on lids. This was before caller ID, before credit cards, before pizza, for crying out loud. You could put me in a glass case at the history center and schoolchildren could press a button and ask me questions.

Monogamy put the parents in the background where they belong and we children were able to hold center stage. We didn't have to contend with troubled, angry parents demanding that life be richer and more rewarding for them. We blossomed and agonized and fussed over our outfits and learned how to go on a date and order pizza and do the twist and neck in the front seat of a car back before bucket seats when you could slide close together, and we started down the path toward begetting children while Mom and Dad stood like smiling, helpless mannequins in the background.

Nature is about continuation of the species -- in other words, children. Nature does not care about the emotional well-being of older people.

Under the old monogamous system, we didn't have the problem of apportioning Thanksgiving and Christmas among your mother and stepdad, your dad and his third wife, your mother-in-law and her boyfriend Hal, and your father-in-law and his boyfriend Chuck. Today, serial monogamy has stretched the extended family to the breaking point. A child can now grow up with eight or nine or 10 grandparents -- Gampa, Gammy, Goopa, Gumby, Papa, Poopsy, Goofy, Gaga and Chuck -- and need a program to keep track of the actors.

And now gay marriage will produce a whole new string of hyphenated relatives. In addition to the ex-stepson and ex-in-laws and your wife's first husband's second wife, there now will be Bruce and Kevin's in-laws and Bruce's ex, Mark, and Mark's current partner, and I suppose we'll get used to it.

The country has come to accept stereotypical gay men -- sardonic fellows with fussy hair who live in over-decorated apartments with a striped sofa and a small weird dog and who worship campy performers and go in for flamboyance now and then themselves. If they want to be accepted as couples and daddies, however, the flamboyance may have to be brought under control. Parents are supposed to stand in back and not wear chartreuse pants and black polka-dot shirts. That's for the kids. It's their show.

Last week I visited a grade school not far from where I grew up, and I strolled into a second-grade classroom and, good Lord, those lovely faces -- Somali, Ethiopian, Hmong, Hispanic. Only about six kids looked anything like the kids I went to school with, and of those, three were Croatian. Fifteen different languages and dialects spoken in the school, a teacher told me. In my lifetime, the potato fields had been developed into tract housing for World War II vets and now a landing site for immigrants and their second-graders, most of whom ventured into English only a year ago.

It was I Love Reading Week, and I was there as an Author. So I told them a story about how, back in the day, we were cowboys and rode horses across those flat spaces, rounding up our cattle, even in blizzards. For proof, I sang a cowboy song with a big whoopi-ti-yi-

yo at the end of each verse and I got them all to do clip-clops and whinnies.

They seemed to understand it all, at least the clip-clop part, and they are better children for having met me. Pay me a quarter-million dollars and I'll do a study that proves it.

(Garrison Keillor's "A Prairie Home Companion" can be heard Saturday nights on public radio stations across the country