Herbal Remedies - Help for loss of libido? - My story

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In a message dated 2/27/2004 9:34:16 PM US Mountain Standard Time, melissa.brian writes:

 

Ok - I am 33, married with 2 kids and one on the way. Diet is OK but could definately be better. I don't always get all the fruits and veggies in I should and I probably eat too much dairy and I have a BIG thing for sweets (probably eat something sweet at least 4-5 times a week, this does not include fruit). I am 3 months pregnant and my pre-pregnancy weight was about 15 pounds too high. My loss in libido has steadily gotten worse since 1998 - I just can't be bothered!! I hate this about myself and really want to change but I just don't know how to make myself want to want sex.

 

Thanks to all who are answering my e-mails,

 

- Melissa

 

Since your pregnant now go ahead and work on cleaning up your diet and getting that squared away, especially the sugars... Do you own a juicer? If so try getting atleast an 8 ounce glass a day of fresh organic veggies mainly, drink more if you can! For Sure get on the Total Nutrition as soon as possible, this will be wonderful for you and the baby! Are you emotionally okay since having 2 kids and one on the way, I know this can be stressful! Can someone give you 1 night a week to just be you and relax or have fun?? Is your husband supportive, romantic, loving, etc?? That makes a HUGE difference!!! Be open with him and don't make it "The big ugly secret" Let him know you want that desire but right now your just not feeling so strongly, be sure to assure him that he is still sexy or whatever....lol Also I think after 2 kids and 1 on the way with the bad diet that your hormones are off-kilter, give yourself a chance and you can get balanced again. Try to think of fun new ways to be intimate without sex like a candlelight warm oil massage, etc... this will take the pressure off sex and put your mind into a close romantic and intimate mind-set so you can reprogram your thinking...like okay clothes off, rub here...kiss there...do the deed and its over.. Once you change your thinking and begin to feel close without the sex you will be more apt to want him in that special way... Also don't be afraid to try new things in the bedroom!@ Two people should be comfortable with being close and even laughing together when it doesn't work out or screaming with joy when it does!!!

 

 

Hope this helps!

 

God Bless,

Jamie in AZ

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Well Melissa... welcome to the group!

Yep, you need to get your eating habits more in line........ You also need to get your body back in sync... The female tonic formula in the files would be good for you also.

Hows the stress in your life also?

Suzi"melissa.brian" <melissa.brian wrote:

 

Ok - I am 33, married with 2 kids and one on the way. Diet is OK but could definately be better. I don't always get all the fruits and veggies in I should and I probably eat too much dairy and I have a BIG thing for sweets (probably eat something sweet at least 4-5 times a week, this does not include fruit). I am 3 months pregnant and my pre-pregnancy weight was about 15 pounds too high. My loss in libido has steadily gotten worse since 1998 - I just can't be bothered!! I hate this about myself and really want to change but I just don't know how to make myself want to want sex.

 

Thanks to all who are answering my e-mails,

 

- Melissa

 

melissa.brian

 

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Friday, February 27, 2004 12:36 PM

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In a message dated 2/27/2004 11:29:34 AM US Mountain Standard Time, melissa.brian writes:

 

Hi I am new here and I am very fascinated with herbal remedies, though really know nothing of them. My big problem right now (has been for years) is my lack of interest in sex. Do any of you know of any herb that can help increase a womens libido?

 

I look forward to learning lots here!!

 

- Melissa

 

Female formula is in the files.

 

Also do you have any health issues, depression, major stress?? What is your diet like? Could you please give us more info... I am curious, how long has this been going on, your age? married? kids? Do you eat sugar?

 

Glad your hear and waiting for your reply..

 

God Bless,

JamieFederal Law requires that we warn you of the following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington Federal Law requires that we warn you of the

following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington

 

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It can return but it takes two..... herbs can only help a problem... but not a relationship problem.

SuziELIZABETH ELLIOTT <eliz3378 wrote:

 

i too have a lack of libido, however i know our relationship is rocky. how much doe s that really have to do with it you think? i would imagine it plays quite a role in our problem. not to mention, we are never affectionate. the only time we touch is during sex. it really sucks. is this something that can return? or are we doomed?

 

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http://www.providentliving.org/ses/media/articles/0,11275,2875-1,00.html

 

 

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It can return but it takes two..... herbs can only help a problem... but not a relationship problem.

SuziELIZABETH ELLIOTT <eliz3378 wrote:

 

i too have a lack of libido, however i know our relationship is rocky. how much doe s that really have to do with it you think? i would imagine it plays quite a role in our problem. not to mention, we are never affectionate. the only time we touch is during sex. it really sucks. is this something that can return? or are we doomed?

 

 

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OK... I have a question.... what do you two have in comon... as in interests, hobbies? What brought you two together? We need to start at square one.... Then go from there... also make yourself a list... of your likes and dislikes of your husband.then total the number on each side..... Let me know the answers to these... and we'll continue

SuziSpareRibOfAz wrote:

 

 

In a message dated 2/28/2004 8:45:15 PM US Mountain Standard Time, eliz3378 writes:

 

.. i think that really put a damper on our relationship period. he doesn't call names so much any more, but i put up with way too much those first two three years. how much effect do you think those first two years had on us?

Peace and happiness,

 

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Melissa,

 

Glad you gave that extra info. I was wondering something like that

might be a part of the problem. Not enough time in the day to do

everything and then somehow have time for yourself, much less the

hubby.

 

I would suggest that you take those baby steps sooner rather than

later, speaking from personal experience and those of several of my

friends.

 

Even if you are pregnant, you can take the baby steps to rekindle

your romance with hubby as others suggested. One of the ways i have

seen a few couples do this is by " Date-night " . Now i know a lot of

people cringe at this and it is kind of a drag to have to pre-plan

when you might be intimate or romantic, but in the long run, having

that time set aside for your relationship with hubby, is better than

just pooping out and having no-time at all.

 

When hubby and i first moved into our house last year, i was working

from home (extra hours) and my daughter and 3 boys were with us.

Needless to say i was running the house, the business and not really

spending much quality time with him. I found that even if the idea

of being alone with him sounded great, by the end of the night i just

wanted to veg-out or pass-out.

 

We talked about it and decided that we would have a date each Friday

(payday) by going out to dinner or at the very least for coffee and

tea or to the bookstore, for some quality time together alone. Even

if you cant do it each week, once or twice a month is at least

something to make sure that hubby knows that you love and desire his

company.

 

Trade off sitting time with someone to get 2 to 4 hours when you

could do this " date " . And have fun with it.

 

Sylvia

 

herbal remedies , " melissa.brian "

<melissa.brian@r...> wrote:

> We have 2 other girls and my life is totally focused on them. I

really believe I need to relearn to focus on my husband but I just

don't have the evergy. By the time night rolls around all I want to

do is flop down and zone out. My kids are young (2 and 4) and I

babysit a 3 and 5 year old as well. They are demanding to say the

least and I just want time for me. Oh I feel so guilty about this

situation I am in. I am just going to have to bite the bullet and

take one babystep at a time I guess.

>

> - Melissa

>

> melissa.brian@r...

> -

> Wendy .

> herbal remedies

> Friday, February 27, 2004 10:51 PM

> Herbal Remedies - Help for loss of libido? - My story

>

>

> In my opinion I would wait until the birth of the

> child before delving into herbal therapies for loss of

> libido as there are more herbs contraindicated in

> pregnancy then there are not.

> Do you have a lot of stress in your life?

> Maybe you and your husband should have " time out " with

> each other and re-explore each other again.

> Do you have other children?

> When was the last time you both had a holiday away

> from everything (even a weekend away is all you need).

> I have helped people re-established themselves by

> looking at themselves as a whole.

> Wendy

>

> Find local movie times and trailers on Movies.

> http://au.movies.

>

>

> Federal Law requires that we warn you of the following:

> 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire.

> 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any

natural remedy.

> 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own

physician and to

> prescribe for your own health.

> We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here

as long as

> they behave themselves.

> Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and

any person

> following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own

risk.

> It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or

products from list members, you are agreeing to

> be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner

and members free of any liability.

>

> Dr. Ian Shillington

> Doctor of Naturopathy

> Dr.IanShillington@G...

>

>

>

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We have 2 other girls and my life is totally focused on them. I really believe I need to relearn to focus on my husband but I just don't have the evergy. By the time night rolls around all I want to do is flop down and zone out. My kids are young (2 and 4) and I babysit a 3 and 5 year old as well. They are demanding to say the least and I just want time for me. Oh I feel so guilty about this situation I am in. I am just going to have to bite the bullet and take one babystep at a time I guess.

 

- Melissa

 

melissa.brian

 

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Wendy .

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Friday, February 27, 2004 10:51 PM

Herbal Remedies - Help for loss of libido? - My story

In my opinion I would wait until the birth of thechild before delving into herbal therapies for loss oflibido as there are more herbs contraindicated inpregnancy then there are not.Do you have a lot of stress in your life?Maybe you and your husband should have "time out" witheach other and re-explore each other again.Do you have other children?When was the last time you both had a holiday awayfrom everything (even a weekend away is all you need).I have helped people re-established themselves bylooking at themselves as a whole.WendyFind local movie times and trailers on Movies.http://au.movies.Federal Law requires that we warn you of the following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington

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Melissa, I think most women go through this at one point in their lives for one reason or another. I certainly did. Do reconnect with your hubby. Have you told him how you feel? Tell him you feel so bad about being uninterested hon, he will appreciate your honesty. He will probably come up with some pretty good ideas to help you from his perspective as well.

 

You need to find something that is just for you too. I am stuck in the house 24/7 so I stay sane by connecting with my friends on the net and going out shopping with my friend occasionally. The key is NO KIDS go with you and NO HUBBY either LOL! Let us know how you are doing.

 

Janet

 

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melissa.brian

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Monday, March 01, 2004 12:34 PM

Re: Herbal Remedies - Help for loss of libido? - My story

 

We have 2 other girls and my life is totally focused on them. I really believe I need to relearn to focus on my husband but I just don't have the evergy. By the time night rolls around all I want to do is flop down and zone out. My kids are young (2 and 4) and I babysit a 3 and 5 year old as well. They are demanding to say the least and I just want time for me. Oh I feel so guilty about this situation I am in. I am just going to have to bite the bullet and take one babystep at a time I guess.

 

- Melissa

 

melissa.brian

 

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Wendy .

herbal remedies

Friday, February 27, 2004 10:51 PM

Herbal Remedies - Help for loss of libido? - My story

In my opinion I would wait until the birth of thechild before delving into herbal therapies for loss oflibido as there are more herbs contraindicated inpregnancy then there are not.Do you have a lot of stress in your life?Maybe you and your husband should have "time out" witheach other and re-explore each other again.Do you have other children?When was the last time you both had a holiday awayfrom everything (even a weekend away is all you need).I have helped people re-established themselves bylooking at themselves as a whole.WendyFind local movie times and trailers on Movies.http://au.movies.Federal Law requires that we warn you of the following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington Federal Law requires that we warn you of the following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington